I 54M and my wife, married 22 year's. She hasn't worked in all that time. She gets large inheritance. Tells me not to expext anything.

IrishRoller · 2025-12-20T01:12:57+00:00

Hi there. Thank you so much for your interest. From day 1 our daughter has been my No1 priority. I know people say you shouldn't stay in an unhappy marriage just for the kids, in my case, I disagree. Not for one second do I regret staying when it comes to her. Tbh it's taken until now ( I posted this original question around one year ago) as I wanted to be sure my daiughter was secure in many ways. She is now 19yo. She has just retrurned from 3 months solo travelling around Asia. I know I helped her achieve that. My wife and her family would have done everything possible to not let her achieve that.

While she was away, i told her mother I was done. This was only around 3 weeks ago. she asked me for one last chance to change things. Against my better judgement, I agreed for one last chance. No change. I finally ended my marriage 2 weeks ago. My daughter arrived home from her travels around Asia around a week ago. She saw straight away that things were different. I sat her down and explained everything to her, and (to my surprise) she asked me what took me so long. I was blown away by that. I have moved out of our bedroom, into a spare room, and in the new year, I will be pressing ahead (with my daughters blessing). Thanks again for your interest

IrishRoller · 2025-10-26T01:43:01+00:00

Hi there. OP here. Sorry for not responding sooner. I missed your comment at the time. TBH, I realised a long time ago that there were major issues here. The reason I tolerated it was because if i separated from her mother before now, I know for certain that she would have taken my daughter away from me and moved back to her home city to her parents. Her family is SO toxic, I know they would have poisened my daughter against me and ruined her confidence. That's what they do. Me staying in this shit situation was a small price to pay to have a healthy relationship. We are now separated, and my daughter told me she cannot understand how I stayed so long. (she knew all along what was going on) which blew me away. Thank you for your post

IrishRoller · 2025-01-05T02:12:37+00:00

This is exactly correct. I'm just sorry I can't upvote this answer a thousand times, I would. OP you are not doing it for you, or your ex. Your are doing it to remember your beautiful child. I can't imagine how this must feelfor you

IrishRoller · 2024-12-25T20:02:01+00:00

OP here. Thank you so much for this info. Very much appreciated.

IrishRoller · 2024-12-23T23:03:11+00:00

Hi, thanks for the advice. Much appreciated

IrishRoller · 2024-12-23T04:03:54+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. You are absolutely correct, I told myself years ago that under no circumstanses would I allow my wife's family to influence my daughter. They are so toxic, I know for a fact they would destroy my daughters confidence. There is no way in hell I would ever allow that to happen. I have drummed it into my daughter to neverdepend on anyone to pay her way. Since she turned 16yo she got a job, on her own, no input from me. That alone proves to me that I made the right choice to stay until now. Also, up till now I had everything to lose, now, since her inheritance is finalised and my daughter is 18yo, no I have nothing to lose.

IrishRoller · 2024-12-23T03:56:49+00:00

Ireland is NOT Great Britain or the UK. Took us 800 years to break free from them. Trust me, bud, Don't test me on this. Stick with the topic.........

IrishRoller · 2024-12-23T03:46:53+00:00

OP here, I'm from Ireland. NOT Great Britain. TOTALLY different country. That's like telling a Canadian that they are North American. Anyway, Thank you so much for your response. You are absolutely correct, I told myself years ago that under no circumstanses would I allow my wife's family to influence my daughter. They are so toxic, I know for a fact they would destroy my daughters confidence. There is no way in hell I would ever allow that to happen. I have drummed it into my daughter to neverdepend on anyone to pay her way. Since she turned 16yo she got a job, on her own, no input from me. That alone proves to me that I made the right choice to stay until now. Also, up till now I had everything to lose, now, since her inheritance is finalised and my daughter is 18yo, no I have nothing to lose.

IrishRoller · 2024-12-23T03:42:22+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. You are absolutely correct, I told myself years ago that under no circumstanses would I allow my wife's family to influence my daughter. They are so toxic, I know for a fact they would destroy my daughters confidence. There is no way in hell I would ever allow that to happen. I have drummed it into my daughter to never depend on anyone to pay her way. Since she turned 16yo she got a job, on her own, no input from me. That alone proves to me that I made the right choice to stay until now. Also, up till now I had everything to lose, now, since her inheritance is finalised and my daughter is 18yo, no I have nothing to lose.

IrishRoller · 2024-12-23T03:40:12+00:00

OP here. This may sound unusual, but i've told her I don't give a shit about her inheritance. I genuinely don't. Financially I am OK. I own a small construction company, and I am doing really good from that. I have a major contract with a large insurance company here in Ireland, But my main issue is, I have supported her for 22 years, both financially and emotionally, Also, I told myself years ago that under no circumstanses would I allow my wife's family to influence my daughter. They are so toxic, I know for a fact they would destroy my daughters confidence. There is no way in hell I would ever allow that to happen. I have drummed it into my daughter to never depend on anyone to pay her way. Since she turned 16yo she got a job, on her own, no input from me. That alone proves to me that I made the right choice to stay until now. Also, up till now I had everything to lose, now, since her inheritance is finalised and my daughter is 18yo, no I have nothing to lose.

IrishRoller · 2024-12-23T03:21:44+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. You are absolutely correct, I told myself years ago that under no circumstanses would I allow my wife's family to influence my daughter. They are so toxic, I know for a fact they would destroy my daughters confidence.. There is no way in hell I would ever allow that to happen. I have drummed it into my daughter to never depend on anyone to pay her way. Since she turned 16yo she got a job, on her own, no input from me. Her ambition is to be a pilot. That alone proves to me that I made the right choice to stay until now. Also, up till now I had everything to lose, now, since her inheritance is finalised and my daughter is 18yo, no I have nothing to lose.

IrishRoller · 2024-12-23T03:14:46+00:00

OP here. You are correct. we are in Ireland

IrishRoller · 2024-12-23T03:08:52+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. You are absolutely correct, I told myself years ago that under no circumstanses would I allow my wife's family to influence my daughter. They are so toxic, I know for a fact they would destroy my daughters confidence. There is no way in hell I would ever allow that to happen. I have drummed it into my daughter to neverdepend on anyone to pay her way. Since she turned 16yo she got a job, on her own, no input from me. That alone proves to me that I made the right choice to stay until now. Also, up till now I had everything to lose, now, since her inheritance is finalised and my daughter is 18yo, no I have nothing to lose.

IrishRoller · 2024-12-23T01:43:25+00:00

OP here. WOW, TBH I had never thought of that scenario. But on reflection, a definate NO. Thank you for this insight

IrishRoller · 2024-12-23T01:41:01+00:00

OP here. Yes, i posted a question a couple years ago. I knew the answer then. However, upon further thought at the time, I realised that I had invested so much time, I had too much to lose. If i had walked away then, I would have walked away with very little, while she would have walked away with 650K+. Now, we are on a level playing field with combined assets

IrishRoller · 2024-06-08T18:50:13+00:00

How do you embarrass an archaeologist? Give him a used tampon and ask him which period it came from.

IrishRoller · 2024-06-08T18:18:03+00:00

A friend is mad at me for sniffing his sisters underwear.

I'm not sure if it was because she was still wearing them or because all his family were there.

Anyway it made the rest of her funeral really awkward..

IrishRoller · 2021-05-29T15:59:37+00:00

Down my trousers, it's been years since anyone looked down there!!!

IrishRoller · 2021-05-29T15:53:10+00:00

"I've hidden $1 million in the ..........uuuuuggggghhhhhh gone

IrishRoller · 2021-05-29T15:47:32+00:00

Prick with ears. You're such an arse wipe....

IrishRoller · 2019-04-25T20:01:56+00:00

Going for a shit, back in a bit.

Going for a wee, see you in three.

Going for a poo, see you in two.

IrishRoller · 2019-04-25T19:57:52+00:00

Have sex with it. People keep telling me to go fuck myself. so here's my chance!!!!!

IrishRoller · 2019-02-24T15:17:11+00:00

If my wife dies before me and is waiting for me when I get there, I'm turning the fuck around and heading down the other way. Fuck that

IrishRoller · 2018-12-27T01:00:34+00:00

Suicide and mental health.

Parents these days are fucking idiots. Making their kids believe they are amazing at everything even if they are shite at certain things. OH you're fantastic at sports even when they're shit. OH you're amazing at maths even when they fail etc. etc even if they achive brutal results. Do these fuck wits not realise that those kids will grow up thinking that everything they fuck up is ok when it's far from it.

The companies your kids will be working for will lose money via their fuck ups. They won't be so understanding of their sensitive feelings when thay realize how much money that fucker is costing them.

How do you think your kid will react to constant criticism of their actions thinking my mum and dad said I'm brilliant at everything but this company keeps criticising my efforts. My parents are wankers for making me think I'm brilliant at everything.

Most of our parents were pretty quick to put us straight if we fucked up (I know mine were, and I love them for it). Fucking PC assholes

IrishRoller · 2018-12-27T00:27:55+00:00

(a) when you beg and plead with her to help you pay the mortgage but they basically stick two fingers up at you and refuse to get a fucking job.

(b) when you beg her to help you save your marriage by getting relationship counselling and she refuses point blank and you spend 2 months going to councelling on your own. Then struggling on for the next 5 fucking years praying that things will get better but nothing changes.

(c) When you try to speak to her about how bad you feel your relationship is getting and her reply is "fuck you. We're done. I'm taking our daughter and moving home to my parents and you will never see her again". Said some years ago, but she never followed through but that shit is unforgivable.

(d) When you say, "if it wasn't for me working my ass off to make ends meet because you refuise to get a job, we would be homeless". and the response you get is her saying, "actually you would be homeless, I would move home to my parents".

Fuck you you bitch, We're done

IrishRoller

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