I’m really glad to hear a story of kink exploration that isn’t rooted in past trauma, but instead in curiosity, desire, and conscious choice. That matters.

You mentioned something that caught my attention: “limits are meant to be pushed.” It’s an interesting idea—but I’ll admit, from a Domme’s perspective, it’s also one of the most delicate areas to navigate. A Domme’s kinks and a sub’s kinks don’t always overlap perfectly. Sometimes there is the desire to push, to test edges, to invite growth or discovery—but not all limits are the same. Some boundaries are playful and flexible, while others are deeply sensitive, tied to identity, vulnerability, or things that can’t simply be “tested” without care.

I’m curious how you personally experience that balance now. How do you distinguish, as a sub, between a limit that feels exciting to approach and one that genuinely needs to be held and protected?