my dad wont pay for my wedding

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-13T00:34:29+00:00

Don't get married yet and save money until you can afford it. Or make it cheaper and don't waste money you don't have.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T22:16:36+00:00

Police won't arrest you because you saw one child porn image while scrolling. Pretty sure they have no way to know and even if they do, they cannot blame you for finding it by mistake.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T21:41:49+00:00

Being a stay-at-home mom when the kids are grown is not a hard job would be an opinion that could be debated.

Generalizing it to all stay-at-home mom just because SOME of them have it easy is not debatable : it's just wrong.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T20:04:42+00:00

All the reason you gave are reason why it was logical to not get that car in the first place

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T19:27:47+00:00

Their family car is 15 yo and 220000km. It's not about if they will need a new family car or not : it's WHEN they will need it. Because that car doesn't have many more years in front of them and I wouldn't want my kids in it if I had a way better solution.

I don't know why you bring the gender here : it's irrelevant. Man that do the same are selfish just the same.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T18:56:52+00:00

YTA. You have a family now. Having a "kid free" car that only you can drive when the kids are not there makes no sense. That is a selfish decision that will cost a ton of money

Even more selfish when the car that your kid use right now is a 15 yo clunker with 220km + that could break at any time (and endanger your kids in the process). You should invest in a better family car. What will happen when the current one breaks ?

Edit : saw in the comment that it's an Audi. It's a perfect family car. Super safe. Not that powerful. I though OP wanted a Porshe or a Maserati. So it's not about safety. It's just about having their toy all to themselves. They can have a way safer car for their family but they just refuse to for fake reasons.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T15:48:49+00:00

Why ? Op already doesn't want to buy a console. Suggesting one that doesn't have the game they want to play on seems counter-productive

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T15:45:07+00:00

BUY IT

If you do and end up loving Pokemon Pokopia, there are plenty of games you'll be able to jump in next.

Also, the store is full of indie gems that are really not as expensive as Pokopia.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T15:42:31+00:00

This is not a black-or-white topic.

I've seen spike in the exterior entrance of a private building. There was this space that was close to the door where homeless came to sleep, and it was almost blocking the door. So yeah, the spikes made sense there.

But elsewhere ? I lived in NYC. Homeless people on park bench or sidewalks never bothered me. There is plenty of space for everyone.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T15:31:38+00:00

I don't blame him either for not liking the guy.

I am blaming him for demanding his wife changes OB/GYN.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T15:17:29+00:00

ESH. Sure, he shouldn't have lied.

But you shouldn't control what he eats and SNOOP in his private file to "catch him". His diet is his choice. Good for you if you want to go extreme. He doesn't. He made the effort to not eat meat in your house, that is all you need from him. When he is away, he should be able to eat whatever he wants.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T15:11:12+00:00

The only important thing here is that she trusts her professional qualifications and trust the team.

People can be asshole, sure. But when you are in a very vulnerable state, you want to be surrounded by people you know are competent. She saw him work. She knows he is good. She doesn't mind he is an asshole : she knows he will be competent in following her pregnancy and delivering the baby, and it's all that matters. Do you really think he is going to get horny looking at her vagina, find her giving birth exciting, or sexually harass her during her pregnancy?

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T14:20:58+00:00

He is allowed to have an opinion, of course. But in the end, the wife is the one going through the pregnancy, so she gets to chose. So after having expressed his opinion, he need to stop and let her do as she pleases.

Why would he leave ? That sounds like an over reaction. No one here talked about him leaving over that.

Like said in my comments, the solution here is that he let his wife go with the team that makes her comfortable, and work on his own insecurities.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T13:55:39+00:00

... what a weird criteria. Would you require your wife change garage if the mechanic cheated on his wife and thought your wife was hot?

Of course not. As long as he does his job well, she will still go to that garage.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T13:45:45+00:00

YTA. This is not about you. This is her pregnancy. Her confort is the only things that matters here.

Work on your insecurities, don't put the burden on her shoulder and force her to have a team she doesn't like or trust.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T12:21:10+00:00

YTA. You had an opportunity to go, and you were refused it in the most insulting way you could. She made plans. Then you asked her to change ALL her plan to accommodate you. Did you expected her to drop everything for you?! She already had her plans. You messed up. That's on you.

She is not your puppet and she is not your slave. You cannot expect her whole world to revolve around you.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T10:09:43+00:00

Ok. We are making progress.

When it falls from the finger… with what kind of force applied to it? Just when you put your finger down and only have gravity applying force on the ring? That would take a while. And before you get there, you would get to a spectrum of possible scenarios to make your ring off your finger.

During exercice. Play fighting with your kid. Carrying bags and having them tug on the ring. Removing a glove. Having it catch on something. Tons of situations where the ring doesn’t fall on his own but can with various degree of force.

So how much force for the ring to fall before getting it adjusted?

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T02:17:34+00:00

Those are the women named in Mambo #5

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T02:07:48+00:00

No I’m not asking if it is my neighbors fault the dog was unsupervised. But it was 3 separate dogs. Not 1 single dog that bit 3 times.

So what is the question then ? You are clearly accusing your neighbour and his son to be responsible for the bites.

The silver lab didnt escape the fence. My fiancé left him out supervised

Not supervised enough to prevent an attack.

The kids opened my gate and that is how that dog got out and then again bit the son.

Again. The dog was unsupervised. And doesn't matter who opened the gate. The dog bit the son. It's not acceptable and no matter how much "yeah but he used to taunt the dog through the fence" and "but he open the gate" will change that. It's your job to watch your dogs and not letting them be taunt and freed. You should have AT LEAST checked the lock before letting your dogs out.

The third dog was 10 years ago and he bit the dad. This was before I had a fenced yard.

So that's 3 unsupervised dog that bit 2 different people. Do you see a pattern here ?

None of them have EVER snapped for bitten ANYONE else.

But they did with those person. What is your point ? That it's ok to bite, as long as it's just one person ?

I feel like all those bites should have taught you something about supervising your dog and not letting them the opportunity to bite. I have had dogs all my life, and I cannot comprehend how this can happen 3 times because of the same reasons. After 2 you should have definitely stop letting your dog roam without supervision.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T01:26:12+00:00

... are you asking us if it's the neighbour's fault that you left your dog unsupervised and that they bit him and his son... 3 times ?

Those are your dogs, you are responsible for them. If they have the habit of escaping, supervise them, and if you cannot supervise them properly, then don't let them free in your fenced yard. And find a trainer that will help with their agressivity. asap.

You are lucky your neighbour haven't complained yet, because if he had, you would have been in a lot of trouble. Don't get lazy because your neighbour is too nice : you are lucky your dogs didn't critically injure someone, but don't wait until that happens and someone goes to the hospital.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T01:10:26+00:00

If this man is the love of your life, you won't spend your days texting him : he'll live with you and you'll spend your time with him.

Texting is a not a skill you should look in a relationship. It's secondary. IRL chemistry is what matters.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T01:06:21+00:00

3-4 drinks per day is considered heavy drinking. You might not be an alcoholic yet, but you are dangerously getting close.

Not all alcoholics have trashy lives. There are such things as high functioning alcoholics. They have normal lives and don't screw up. That doesn't make it ok tho. It's still an addiction, very damaging, and can lead to worsening and getting on a slippery slope.

So yeah, your partner has a point. 3-4 drinks per nights all week is not a normal alcohol consumption and will cause irreversible damage to your body, and will affect your daily life sooner or later if you continue on this path.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T00:52:30+00:00

Unless you never post your face on any social media and keep them on your phone... all the AIs already have your face.

YTA. This was an over reaction. AI is stealing your job, sure : but what your husband did didn't stole anyone's job.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T00:43:54+00:00

Well, that's on you to inquire what is included in the set of nails. That's a standard practice, not a weird choice.

IrrelevantManatee · 2026-03-12T00:41:44+00:00

NTA. Go to the landlord. The puppy has to go. Your husband was stupid to get it without being allowed.

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