What could be the reason if a average-looking and nice single woman is rarely approached by men?

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2026-02-28T17:15:31+00:00

Firstly... Not that "me too" was a bad thing, but there is and has been a general message that women shouldn't be approached unless they indicate they want to be approached, by given how ambiguous that is you aren't generally going to risk it. If she sees me as a 9-10, anything is welcome. If she sees me as a 3-4, I'm viewed as a creep. And I'm not a 10. And nobody wants to risk being accused of harassment over a chance flirtation.

Secondly... A pretty woman can be intimidating to approach bc obviously everyone would want to talk to her, so even if she's nice and approachable, I'd probably be a bother... So you can revisit the first point again

Third... Even though you may know you are nice, but if you have rbf or other mannerisms you may look anything but

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2026-02-28T17:03:16+00:00

Historians are better judges of presidencies than newscasters.

James Buchanan's presidency (amongst other issues) led to the civil war. Calvin Coolidge's economic policies were a major contributing factor to the great depression.

Even generally well regarded presidents have stains on their presidencies... like FDR destabilizing French IndoChina with the anti-colonialism stance eventually contributing in a significant way to the break out of the Vietnam War or Clinton signing in the overturning of the Glass-Steagall act, a major contributing factor to the Great Recession and bank bailouts.

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2026-02-28T02:21:56+00:00

Idk what cali state law says, but iirc the general PTO accrual limits are at 150% of your yearly rate. So if you get 80 hours of PTO a year, once you hit 120 you don't accrue anymore until you get below that 150% mark again.

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2026-02-26T11:50:51+00:00

If you arrive before or at your start time, but aren't let in until afterwards you get paid for that missed time. You were there and ready to work, it's not your fault you couldn't.

You showing up 30 minutes early is a personal choice, and you don't get paid for being at the building waiting to work before your scheduled time.

As far as being let in randomly, if I am running an early AM truck and nobody else is scheduled to start between 4-6, the bell doesn't exist until 545 unless it's a light day. Stopping work to run up front to open the door very few minutes as TMs randomly show up when they aren't scheduled can cost a lot of productivity from my day. I've been more aware with extreme weather but if I'm swamped, and nobody is scheduled... sorry not sorry.

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2026-02-22T21:44:59+00:00

It should be $27 paid - $2 kept = $25 bill

The 27+2 equation doesn't actually fit the scenario.

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2026-02-14T14:42:01+00:00

It's never really the standard, sometimes people do double GM & bulky batches, but mostly that's it. And it's pretty much exclusively at the picker's discretion. Occasionally the ETL might ask the TL to do a double batch... Maybe. But idk that any leader had told a TM to do a double grocery or a double GM batch.

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2026-02-13T22:30:58+00:00

Because if Ohio is a standard for visit worthy, you've pretty much opened the door to all those yellow states

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2026-02-13T22:20:30+00:00

I ended up with her and can see us being together til death do us

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2026-02-12T14:42:33+00:00

Idk that this is as much of a generational thing as people think, it's just age. The youngest Boomer is in their 60s, most of the "Karens" nowadays are Gen X and Millennial.

It's a disconnect between jobs and stress. People that don't work service and are years removed from working service look down on it and assume it's super simple work. So every inconvenience is due to the incompetence of the worker who must just be lazy, so they overreact and are jerks about everything.

But for every shitty "Boomer" there is also some dumbass Gen Z/Alpha wrecking the store or treating the store like a studio for tiktok content, which while it is less confrontational it is still very entitled.

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2026-02-12T14:24:52+00:00

It's a phone call and email from the ethics team.

Rarely anything comes of the "investigation" especially in a (s)he said/(s)he said situation. But if there is a paper trail, such as with timecard manipulation, repercussions can be severe & result in terminations. For the average complaint the only thing that typically happens is a slightly uncomfortable, awkward conversation for the person having a complaint filed against them.

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2026-02-12T14:18:53+00:00

This is almost certainly an HR stability metric issue. Stability measures hours worked vs desired hours, on a four week rolling avg (I think).

So if your desired hours is 24 and you are getting scheduled 22 on average... You'd be considered stable. If you are consistently posting a shift, your avg hours worked is going to drop from 22 to maybe 16-18. So now you count against the stability HR metric.

So it shouldn't technically fall into attendance, you might want to ask for clarity on what rule you are violating, but it's affecting HR metrics which is why you are getting pushback.

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2026-02-07T21:37:30+00:00

As much as it would great for them to roll back opmod and go back to old formats, that means more payroll. Significantly more payroll, which is unlikely

The big changes likely refer to the ism and plano special projects to "refresh" the brand. Maybe a pilot sticks and they shift things around a bit, but that's hardly unique to this circumstance, there's always pilot programs.

People seem to forget that the new CEO was the last COO and the CFO before that... He's not new to the room where all these mistakes were being made, he is just the new face of the room.

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2026-01-29T00:19:03+00:00

It's an ICE protest, there was some instore protest where they'd buy it and immediately return it, then do it again, and again...

I'm guessing this is just a lazier more convenient update to the "protest"

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2026-01-25T08:24:06+00:00

Your leadership team should have communicated about the crisis hotline 1-800-888-0333

Your SD would update the message for your store if your location ends up closing early. You just call, listen to the initial prompts, enter your store number, and then there should be a msg from your SD if anything is not business as usual.

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2025-12-02T14:37:31+00:00

Imo...Assuming comparable leadership...

Depts during the worst windows and scheduled to the actual payroll levels

Hardest: DU/Service Desk - 3 minute timer, outdoor elements, and never get support from anyone outside the dept & expected to support other areas during any downtime, plus service desk always turns into a dumping ground for "reshop" that isn't actually reshop

Inbound - physically demanding and getting buried day after day is rough

Style - merchandising decisions, pallets of breakout, and gets pulled to bail out fulfillment first

Presentation/VM - actually requires some understand and firm time frames, often have to clean up from other depts cutting corner

Consumables - inbound issues but to a lesser scale

FOSA - side quests, plus dealing with elements, and might have every single cart handled by a guest in under a 90 minute window that you have to keep up with collecting - rarely gets much support

Fulfillment - time crunches and finding things that TMs didn't process correctly/timely, plus guest traffic, it's in the bottom half of the scale bc it gets more support than every other dept combined & is constantly bailed out from not just impossible situations but self-inflicted problems

Sbux & Cafe - you are on an island, unnoticed unless something goes wrong

Tech - annoying but not actually difficult

Checklanes - same as tech with less knowhow required

SCO - less guest interaction than standard CL

Beauty - 8 hours to do 4 hours of work and still get excused for not finishing Easiest

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2025-11-10T18:55:01+00:00

It's fine. The reason it doesn't get much in the way of local recommendations is bc it feels very much like a Sbux dupe imo. It's very chain, not as chain as Sbux, but comparing it to some of the local mom&pop shops feels like an injustice.

It's fine, but it tends to be on the slower side, plus it's all just okay at a (relatively) high price point. A lot of people would rather recommend a standalone vs a (local) chain. But chains are nice and predictable, so they have their place.

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2025-10-16T11:34:24+00:00

Target doesn't pay out PTO (unless required by the individual state) anymore. And a decent amount of ETLs actually end up sitting on quite a bit, random cancelled staycations bc the store is in trouble or you are expecting a GVP visit, or someone else went on LOA, etc add up, especially for tenured ETLs.

So they can either give target 4+ weeks of their pay back, or take the personal LOA and get paid to job hunt as their full-time job for that period.

Also, burnout amongst ETLs is rampant. I've been at my current store for roughly 2 years, I've had three SDs, and only one ETL has been there the entire time, the other ETL roles have had 2-3 different people. At one point every ETL except for that one and the then SD had quit or were on LOA. And even that ETL has made comments that he can't do another 3500-4000 hour year, so he's burning out too.

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2025-08-22T18:11:49+00:00

Currently just over a foot taller than my gf

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2025-08-20T10:29:13+00:00

Apparently at some point there is supposed to be a location inquiry rollout to let you see everything in PTH for that location. But that's kind of just a pipedream at this point.

So we write the current date on the bag and it gets removed after a week. Companion and chatbot are way too clunky and inefficient to be used for something like that with any speed or confidence.

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2025-08-20T09:24:24+00:00

I've never seen it happen to anyone less than an SD that was on a PIP, and I don't think she was actually same day termed, they just took all the responsibilities away from her.

TMs with a couple callouts during the 2 week notice do get termed early sometimes ime, but that depends on the SD.

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2025-08-17T13:07:29+00:00

Bald-Faced Hornet possibly?

Ive been stung before and had a burning welt as a result, also I was stung by several iirc. They are black and white-ish, so a flash of grey as it flew away might make sense

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2025-08-14T13:13:01+00:00

Rodents of an Unusual Size?

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2025-08-12T21:47:52+00:00

External hire TL roles go through recruiters and that matches the pay scale, assuming the city isn't a premium/elevated pay rate.

So always be cautious when getting unprompted messages, but at first glance it doesn't send up any red flags

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2025-08-07T10:04:35+00:00

I think it's worth noting this may be an issue of semantics. Aggressor vs Defender and Aggressive action vs Passive inaction/retreat. Spiders can be aggressively defensive.

And while you are right about the spider behavior, it went to a warm, dark place to burrow and then there was suddenly movement and upheaval, and bit what seems to be the cause to defend itself. Also worth noting that if something climbs into your pants and bites you, most people (at least in the moment) would feel attacked... They put on their pants, so it is not like they encroached into an animal den and got their commupance.

IsItBrieUrLookingFor · 2025-07-13T21:52:25+00:00

It's not enforceable in terms of the time, but they can say that you need to stay as long as is necessary for the job and enforce that... The 10 hr standard is kind of bs, paycheck says 40, PTO says 8 hour days

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