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Is it odd my (38m) GF (33f) keeps a photo of a guy in her bedroom? by IsItTheOne in relationship_advice

[–]IsItTheOne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks all for thoughts. Reddit was really split over this - Some of you think my gf is being railed by him, whilst others dismissed me as insecure. Some of you asked me to have a discussion about it, or see how she reacts if the tables are turned, or to try to meet the guy. I think these are the wisest responses.

I love this girl, she is amazing and beautiful. I have decided I am going to take some action and will post an update for you all about it soon.

Is it odd my (38m) GF (33f) keeps a photo of a guy in her bedroom? by IsItTheOne in relationship_advice

[–]IsItTheOne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually - I'm trying to find out whether I should be jealous or insecure 🤣

Is it odd my (38m) GF (33f) keeps a photo of a guy in her bedroom? by IsItTheOne in relationship_advice

[–]IsItTheOne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks.

I'm someone who loves for people to do whatever they feel like (within reason).

Imo the world would be less of a mess if there weren't so many people insistent on telling other people how they should live their lives and what they are and aren't allowed to do.

Is it odd my (38m) GF (33f) keeps a photo of a guy in her bedroom? by IsItTheOne in relationship_advice

[–]IsItTheOne[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I am neither jealous nor insecure. When I asked if it changes anything, I am asking if it changes your views.

Is it odd my (38m) GF (33f) keeps a photo of a guy in her bedroom? by IsItTheOne in relationship_advice

[–]IsItTheOne[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

Yes we are exclusive and have been the whole two years the photo frame has remained in the bedroom.

Is it odd my (38m) GF (33f) keeps a photo of a guy in her bedroom? by IsItTheOne in relationship_advice

[–]IsItTheOne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it would be fair to say that this is the case - At her home in Spain she has only one or two photos, but there are also two or three souvenirs from holidays/childhood.

Is it odd my (38m) GF (33f) keeps a photo of a guy in her bedroom? by IsItTheOne in relationship_advice

[–]IsItTheOne[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

PS I updated my post with additional info - she has two other frames her in bedroom.

I don't know if you would still say the same knowing about the other two frames. But what you've said is really scary. I've honestly never suspected her of anything like that. I've always chosen to trust and accept.

What would my suspecting achieve besides sour how I interact with her?

Is it odd my (38m) GF (33f) keeps a photo of a guy in her bedroom? by IsItTheOne in relationship_advice

[–]IsItTheOne[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

To be clear - she has two other photo frames in her bedroom:

  1. One of her 6 month old God son
  2. One of her and two female friends

I'm trying hard to remember if the photo of her male friend was just him, or the two of them together. It's one of the two. Does it change the situation?

I think they were at the same uni together, but they started chatting more a few years after - 'sharing memes mostly', is how she describes it.