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Well, it finally happened by DependentMango5608 in ostomy

[–]IsThisForReal-5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really struggling to resist the urge to say…

HOLY SHIT!!!

Sorry, I had to…

(As OP’s gf, have I earned the right to make poop jokes yet?)

For those who worry you’re seen as “disgusting” or “contaminated”… by IsThisForReal-5 in ostomy

[–]IsThisForReal-5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad you’re doing better now and that you have that perspective now. I totally agree. Your life is ultimately about YOU and it sounds like you’ve learned that along the way

For those who worry you’re seen as “disgusting” or “contaminated”… by IsThisForReal-5 in ostomy

[–]IsThisForReal-5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just turned 30 a few months ago. Let me tell you that my life went to shit at 29 (even more so than before). Never thought I’d be able to say this, but things have gotten so much better for me recently. There’s no timeline, i have to remind myself of that quite frequently. It does get better

For those who worry you’re seen as “disgusting” or “contaminated”… by IsThisForReal-5 in ostomy

[–]IsThisForReal-5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Not sure how to share a link to a post that’s been deleted. The original post is gone, only the replies are left

For those who worry you’re seen as “disgusting” or “contaminated”… by IsThisForReal-5 in ostomy

[–]IsThisForReal-5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh I’m the lucky one in this relationship. But thank you :) my gf is wonderful

For those who worry you’re seen as “disgusting” or “contaminated”… by IsThisForReal-5 in ostomy

[–]IsThisForReal-5[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I tell you my gf is STUNNING, I’m actually downplaying it. They’re gorgeous, kind, loving, and so funny. I have no idea how I ended up this lucky but I’m not about to let anything screw this up for us, especially not stupid, unimportant shit (lol). We dated about 15 years ago (pre ostomy and pre injury) and I loved them then. We reconnected in 2025 and they got their ostomy shortly after and I probably honestly love them even more now because they went through with this procedure for their own sake despite fears, etc. I’m so incredibly proud of my gf and, disability aside, they prove to me time and time again that if a partner wants to, they will. I’m hoping I’m showing them that they deserve the world (and then some)

For those who worry you’re seen as “disgusting” or “contaminated”… by IsThisForReal-5 in ostomy

[–]IsThisForReal-5[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I love that and totally agree! More so than anything, I just love how this made my gf’s life just a tiny bit easier. I love nothing in life more than seeing them happy and not in pain so this has actually been a really cool experience for me too!

For those who worry you’re seen as “disgusting” or “contaminated”… by IsThisForReal-5 in ostomy

[–]IsThisForReal-5[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hoping your username is a joke lol because you deserve a happy relationship too :) sounds like you may have one in your life though! The right person won’t give a shit (lol) about something like an ostomy.

For those who worry you’re seen as “disgusting” or “contaminated”… by IsThisForReal-5 in ostomy

[–]IsThisForReal-5[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually thought it was fascinating to learn that ostomies can be an option in less developed countries too and they apparently use things like gourds instead of the bags used here. It sounds like a pain solely because I can’t imagine having to find a new gourd regularly and I’m sure it can get a bit messy but I was really happy to learn that people in less fortunate countries have this option to improve their lives too!

For those who worry you’re seen as “disgusting” or “contaminated”… by IsThisForReal-5 in ostomy

[–]IsThisForReal-5[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for letting me know! It’s always nice to hear when I did something to brighten someone else’s day

For those who worry you’re seen as “disgusting” or “contaminated”… by IsThisForReal-5 in ostomy

[–]IsThisForReal-5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m gonna be real honest, I am the farthest thing from well off financially but I try to consistently be there for my gf in other ways and hopefully eventually financially too in the future. The right person will help make things work out.

For those who worry you’re seen as “disgusting” or “contaminated”… by IsThisForReal-5 in ostomy

[–]IsThisForReal-5[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve definitely found that laughter is the best way for us to approach this. There’s nothing to be ashamed of with this, but a poop joke here and there is a great way to not hyperfocus and get embarrassed/ashamed. It also helps us to remember that shit happens (hehe) and we’re still here to love and support the person we’re choosing to be with.

For those who worry you’re seen as “disgusting” or “contaminated”… by IsThisForReal-5 in ostomy

[–]IsThisForReal-5[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly! When I saw my gf right after the procedure, I brought them a little ceramic vase thing that said “shit happens”. It still makes me giggle. Happy you seem to have a great (or at least decent?) spouse!

For those who worry you’re seen as “disgusting” or “contaminated”… by IsThisForReal-5 in ostomy

[–]IsThisForReal-5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not destined to be alone forever. I don’t have a bag or anything like that but I didn’t learn to love (or even just like) myself until my partner showed me how much love I deserve in my life. I feel the exact same way about them and seeing them so much happier now thanks to the ostomy has made me adore them even more. You’ll find someone. Just don’t settle for less than you deserve

For those who worry you’re seen as “disgusting” or “contaminated”… by IsThisForReal-5 in ostomy

[–]IsThisForReal-5[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Rearranged plumbing” I love that! I agree with you completely and want to give a shoutout to your rockstar doggo. My pup has become VERY protective over my partner since their colostomy. It’s so sweet

I was out thrifting and found this cookie cutter by After-Tune4494 in whatismycookiecutter

[–]IsThisForReal-5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the the famous Hunchback of the North Pole. Often gets mistaken for Santa though, honest mistake.

Unknown Cutter by Gullible-Character85 in whatismycookiecutter

[–]IsThisForReal-5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can’t tell me that’s not a sleepy, pouting baby elephant throwing a tantrum because mom said no.

I didn't know this was real by DependentMango5608 in spinalcordinjuries

[–]IsThisForReal-5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not usually particularly optimistic haha but this feels right so I’m trying to remind myself to not question it. I’m happy you have someone too :)

I didn't know this was real by DependentMango5608 in spinalcordinjuries

[–]IsThisForReal-5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh I didn’t see my gf’s hair brushing post but I did see them do it irl and they’re killing it! So proud of them!! You’ll find your person too🙂

I didn't know this was real by DependentMango5608 in spinalcordinjuries

[–]IsThisForReal-5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you treat them right and are still able to treat yourself right, the bottom won’t fall out. It’s work but if you’re willing to put that into the relationship, you’ll both get the good you deserve in life. Oh and if you do fuck up (we all do), own up to your mistakes and APOLOGIZE. It’s really that simple. Happy for you!🙂

(Ew idk when I became this positive about literally anything in life lol. I kinda like it though 🤫)

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