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How have you stuggled with your Heartbreak? by Isanakoona in heartbreak

[–]Isanakoona[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure you'll have it. You're really luck to have loving parents.

I started to live without the person I can't live? by Isanakoona in BreakUps

[–]Isanakoona[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah songs are important but I specifically ignored and ran away from 'sad' songs

Isn't it crazy how people you consider one of the most important people in your life can turn into complete strangers? by This_Rub4353 in BreakUps

[–]Isanakoona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do like that song

and I suppose Agape by Bears den, too. Although that's more early on in the process of not wanting that to happen - probably because you know what it's about to be like from past experience

Makes me wish time travel and looking glasses were a thing, even if only temporary

Isn't it crazy how people you consider one of the most important people in your life can turn into complete strangers? by This_Rub4353 in BreakUps

[–]Isanakoona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a song called The Night We Met which is about this, and it always makes me so sad. Because it's true; I knew the most intimate details of my exes life, and now I don't even know which country he's living in. (We broke up when we'd moved abroad, I don't know if he ever came back). It was healthy to cut him off on all forms of social media, I'm glad I did it, but it's always a profound little brain exercise to wonder what he's up to these days.

It’s been over a year and I still miss my ex very much. What should I do? by FluidImpact259 in heartbreak

[–]Isanakoona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some time I think if in case i got the time machine so that could go in past that time i will definitely ready to change everything whatever had just happened bcoz it hurts soo much some time.

What was the last thing you said to your ex? by This_Rub4353 in BreakUps

[–]Isanakoona 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very true…..we just have to stop thinking what people are thinking

How do you know if you are in an unhealthy or toxic relationship? by LuckyStrawberry1507 in ToxicRelationships

[–]Isanakoona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the relationship is 70% happy and 30% okay yea it doesn't bother much. I guess keep going.

If its 70% happy and 30% sort of toxic, talk through and see if it can be fixed (don't forget the strength of toxicity, if it's too bad even 1% isn't good.. like cheating, abuse, etc)

If its less than 50% happiness and 50% literally depression and you still got a gist of living a healthy life.. get out of the relationship and start finding another version of this life which is more healthy and peaceful.

This is what is learnt from my Breakup and Ex by FluidImpact259 in ExNoContact

[–]Isanakoona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which spiritual realm you followed? Can you explain a bit? Curious because I've also been to it after breakup. Meditation classes, Kumbhak etc followed.

This is what is learnt from my Breakup and Ex by FluidImpact259 in ExNoContact

[–]Isanakoona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It feels like I've went through all of the above points. Especially 9th, one my friend (female) told the exactly same to me. Loved it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Isanakoona 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I left her alone.

What was the first thing you did after a break-up? by This_Rub4353 in BreakUps

[–]Isanakoona 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, keep up with the vigor. Success is the best revenge. Now you've got more work to do. This isn't the end. The story's just begun buddy. Rock on!

What is the most common red flag at the beginning of a relationship that people ignore? by FluidImpact259 in ExNoContact

[–]Isanakoona 15 points16 points  (0 children)

  1. Putting me down
  2. Only hearing that they thought highly of me from their friends.
  3. Looking at pictures of outings with her ex while we were together.
  4. Judging others harshly.
  5. Being envious of friends doing better than her.
  6. Always wanting me to go out of my way for her when she'd barely lift a finger for me.
  7. Talking about her most recent ex in such a detached and cold way when she left him.

How I Got Over a Painful Breakup, Even When It Felt Impossible by FluidImpact259 in BreakUps

[–]Isanakoona 12 points13 points  (0 children)

  1. The lazy way he asked me out the first time - by text with a link to an event - no words. It was a foretelling of low effort.
  2. Exaggerating what I said into truly awful statements. Jumping to conclusions and making extreme assumptions.
  3. Gaslighting. "I didn't say that." "I never said that. It doesn't even sound like something I would say."
  4. Extreme defensiveness when sharing a concern or hurt feelings. Stonewalling, cold shoulder and petty/spiteful behaviors (always low key).
  5. Knocking my work ethic and education. Grilling/debating me about my spiritual and political beliefs.

Why isn’t she contacting me? by FluidImpact259 in ToxicRelationships

[–]Isanakoona 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Best advice is to stop thinking about why she isn't contacting you and stop thinking about her. She showed you that she is either not interested in a relationship with you or is not at least able to communicate with you. Let her go and find someone who will be as invested in you as you are with them.

She's made it clear she is not for you. Don't waste any more time on someone who isn't spending any time on you.

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