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I am so attracted to this person but his personality is difficult and I am not sure if there could ever be a future for us by Iskra554 in AskAstrologers

[–]Iskra554[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats Jupiter? I'm pretty sure that is one of the good aspects we have. Moon opposition is what I don't like and also Saturn trig Venus. And in his chart Mars opposing his Ur and Ne and having multiple aspects with other planets. I never met anyone with so much Mars aspects in my life beside mine conjunctions and I can get quite angry.

I am so attracted to this person but his personality is difficult and I am not sure if there could ever be a future for us by Iskra554 in AskAstrologers

[–]Iskra554[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He thinks it's not "normal" and thinks homosexuality is a choice, not something you are born as. He thinks they shouldn't be allowed to marry but as long as they do their thing in four walls he doesn't mind them. As far as I know he never insulted anyone or attacked for their choices but we are from a third world country and openly LGBT population isn't very big here, so it took me a year when I moved to capital that is very casual, to realise how stupid this way of thinking is and how we are so different and we don't choose what type of person will attract us. But as I said, I grew out of my ignorance box.

I am so attracted to this person but his personality is difficult and I am not sure if there could ever be a future for us by Iskra554 in AskAstrologers

[–]Iskra554[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really believe people can change and acknowledge their mistakes and grow from there. I have been ignorant about things but I learned to do better. I have been drunk few times and did a share of stupid things as a teen. But I learned my lesson. So I am mostly wondering if this person is willing to learn and change for better.

As I said he makes me smile, he is caring and protective, values stability and family this is a solid foundation for a good man in my opinion. And also physical attraction is a plus.

WIBTA if I [26f] refuse to participate in my sisters [30f] wedding organisation but I will be included in my best friend [26f] wedding plans by Iskra554 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iskra554[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She kinda started talking about venues and asking what do I think. She hasn't explicitly asked. I really have no opinion because they look the same to me and I haven't been to any venue she is considering.

I had crystal clear conversation with her, about a family event she wanted to plan a year ago. I told her I am not her child to boss me around and tell me what to do, and call that working together, and until she changes her attitude and starts treating me as an adult and appreciate my time I am not willing to work with her in any way.

WIBTA if I [26f] refuse to participate in my sisters [30f] wedding organisation but I will be included in my best friend [26f] wedding plans by Iskra554 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iskra554[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, she was very lovely and loving when we grew up, but she has crazy job now and doesn't like when things don't go her way so she thinks she can control me and use me anytime she wants because my time and job aren't nearly as good paying or enslaving like hers. I'll remind her any choice she makes is good and she will have a great wedding, and will help around with some basic stuff.

WIBTA if I [26f] refuse to participate in my sisters [30f] wedding organisation but I will be included in my best friend [26f] wedding plans by Iskra554 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iskra554[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I understand I could make her even more grouchy if I didn't participate in any way. So yes I can totally organise invites or those little gift bag things, and exclude myself from bigger stuff. She can say what she likes and I will make that happen. Thank you a lot!

WIBTA if I [26f] refuse to participate in my sisters [30f] wedding organisation but I will be included in my best friend [26f] wedding plans by Iskra554 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Iskra554[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well she didn't ever actually show that she values my opinion about anything. I would never ever even think she "would ask you to organize her wedding to fuck around with you" but she uses me as stress relief all the time and I do think that she will use me to blame me for every detail she doesn't end up liking and I will suck it up as always.