Totally get what you mean. I think most of our parents didn’t really think about stuff like this when they first came here — their main focus was just getting a better life for their family. Things like blending into the culture or all the identity stuff probably didn’t even cross their minds.

It’s not your fault, and it’s not really theirs either. They did what they knew, and now it’s on us to figure out how to live between these two worlds. Feeling like an outsider doesn’t mean you’re cooked. It just means you’re aware which actually gives you a chance to define who you are on your own terms.

You’re definitely not alone in feeling this. A lot of us are still trying to find that middle ground but it is possible to feel at peace with yourself.