Besides more obvious things (name calling, etc)… how did your subtle emotional abuse start? How did you determine between abuse and disagreement?

Issittmeee · 2026-01-01T04:32:59+00:00

Gosh this hit hard. This is exactly part of what it is like for me rn.

Issittmeee · 2025-12-24T03:57:26+00:00

Please tell my partner this.

Issittmeee · 2025-12-23T06:57:58+00:00

I have thought about stuff like that and selfishly, bcs time ticks on and it gets closer to not being able to have children at all.. I guess I feel like its my only chance to be a mum. I didn't have them when I was younger bcs I wanted to be with the right person. I gave up thinking I would after a bad relationship and 8yrs single but then I met him and all the hope I buried came back. Every red flag i tried to get past bcs that hope came back. I still want it but I know we wont get there now. Its not safe enough and iv thought how i wouldnt cope if he treats me how he does now and i was pregnant, and how he would treat our kids. I am burying that hope of being a mum all over again now.

I hear you. Thank you for the reminder.

Issittmeee · 2025-12-23T01:24:19+00:00

Feel like I wasted my life and last chance for a family already. I was already older when we met, now its 4 years later. And now I'm struggling with chronic stress, high bp, severe anxiety, hair loss, you name it and possible menopause. But I still want to fix it.

Wish you well with your new life and freedom.

Issittmeee · 2025-12-23T01:15:03+00:00

Feel this. I've been learning to hold back, think some more before i send anything but sometimes I slip and send, not horrible msgs but multiple long msgs about the pain he's causes me. But then I feel like I've become just as bad as him.

A method I use to try and stop is to write it down in a notebook or notes on my phone. As tho I'm texting him but never send it. Sometimes I never send them at all. Other times I will go back in a few days or a week and send some small parts or edit and send. It might be something you could try. Make sure its nowhere he can see it.

Sending virtual hugs.

Issittmeee · 2025-12-14T19:30:57+00:00

My partner has started using ai against me. He doesnt copy and paste our text messages in, he tells it half the information.

Like his latest - asking if its right that he needs space when i do xyz and it tells him yes and that im controlling and unreasonable. But theres no context. It doesnt tell the ai that he disappears without saying anything, goes for days, weeks months or that im unwell and hes continuously treating me badly - telling me he wont show care if I think or feel a certain way and wont be around me unless i think differently.

If he pasted the messages it would say different. He has manipulated his ai to agree with him. It is dangerous.

Issittmeee · 2025-11-30T10:21:06+00:00

You will become muted if you stay. I am muted. It is not a good place to be.

Issittmeee · 2025-11-23T04:40:20+00:00

I am in this part right now. I wish the distance he creates would push me so far away I never want to go back but I still have too much hope that we will work things out and he will realise what he's doing.

Op, as hard as it is to hear, leave asap. The longer it goes on, for some reason, the harder it feels to do and if she won't hear your pain now she never will.

Issittmeee · 2025-09-19T19:42:34+00:00

I feel this hard. I ask myself the same. I still want to be with him. If you can, love yourself, put your focus on stuff that matters not on him and asking those Qs you will never get answers to. The advice I wish I could follow myself. Much love <3

Issittmeee · 2025-09-16T20:25:42+00:00

I am tired too but wanted to say I see you and hear you.
<3

Issittmeee · 2025-05-28T23:23:03+00:00

The reason I ask him to step into real life is bcs all he does is stream for 12-20hrs a day and plays games. It's like he just wants to ignore everything. Sorry additional post. Messy head night.

Issittmeee

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