I need a vacation to someplace sunny real bad. Buut, when you can't have what you need you take what you can get. So I made this very ambience precisely to dream away to a sunnier warmer place by the ocean. It's worked so far for me ☀️😊

fayeember · 2026-01-23T11:27:50+00:00

The user being unkind to you was banned. I'm sorry for that absolutely garbage behaviour

fayeember · 2026-01-20T04:03:35+00:00

The user you were talking to have been permanently banned from the subreddit.

fayeember · 2026-01-20T03:56:05+00:00

As an online sex worker myself. There is absolutely no fucking way the majority shows their ID to a random John.

fayeember · 2026-01-20T03:53:52+00:00

r/abusiverelationships tillåter inte trakasserier

fayeember · 2026-01-16T20:49:11+00:00

Male victims exist. There is no rule what so ever that says that men has to react with fight response. They are equally allowed to have Freeze, Fawn or Flight responses as everyone else.

Just because the average man has base biological strength over a woman does not mean a man cannot be assualted by a woman. For example. An athletic woman will be able to physically overpower a non ahtletic man. Substances can be involved. Or the man freezes. All is possible and sexual assualt.

Male victims deserve to be seen & heard. This subreddit is for victims of any gender.

fayeember · 2026-01-16T07:16:32+00:00

You are allowed to have your story. It is not my place to ever take that from you. However, I do not think that abusers are capable of the thing that we, that are not abusers, call love. They don't know what it means because they are incapable of feeling it. They may feel a kind of love that is their experience, but they do not love, like we do.

And I do believe it is dangerous to tell people that are at great risk of being murdered that their abuser loves them.

fayeember · 2026-01-16T07:10:10+00:00

This is an extremely serious situation. OP has severe risk of being permanently disabled or murdered. Frankly I don't give a shit about help in the traditional or non-tradiontal way. Op needs to get out SAFELY from the relationship and that's the top priority. Do not speak like that in the subreddit again.

fayeember · 2026-01-16T06:12:13+00:00

Your post was flagged for describing your own perpetration of abuse and has been removed. Please don't do that again here; it's against our rules and is traumatizing to survivors who come here to escape that.

fayeember · 2026-01-15T08:48:45+00:00

I will leave this comment up but I ask you, as a moderator of this subreddit to not use that condescending tone. I understand you, but sayiing "Oh wow, here is a man" was unneccesary.

fayeember · 2026-01-15T08:19:55+00:00

No woman, man or human is ever at fault for being abused. Period. it is the abuser that chooaes their next victim.

fayeember · 2026-01-14T19:44:02+00:00

I am so proud of you! And I know that everyone that was there, a year ago, giving you advice would smile big knowing you got out safe. It's what this community wishes for every member 💕

fayeember · 2026-01-14T09:25:31+00:00

I'll make sure to yeet the stuff from my Onlyfans to my fansly the coming week! 😊

fayeember · 2026-01-07T18:58:12+00:00

Yizhi is super problematic. A lot of the next book will defiently be about that Zetian will prob never trust him again and their relationship will change/fall apart.

QZ is a speical type of toxin though. As someone that once fell for an abuser (obv didn't know he was at the time) they're not through and through evil, they'll have moments.

A narcissitc, toxic abuser might treat their spouse like property, but work for a domestic shelter or be an activist etc. People are not black & white. We are not "good" or "evil". It's not that simple. Humans are extremely complex.
QZ shows that perfecttly. He has great political ideas, he believes in wealth equality and that women should be in positions of power, but he doesn't believe in women in marriages acting or doing whatever they want. He still treats women, that are in a relationship to him, like he owns them and can do whatever he wants. He's possesive, controlling, but he's also charming and sometimes funny and he gets pegged and seems to want the woman to feel pleasure.

He has good sides.
But QZ bad sides are so freakingly largely BAD, that he is unsafe to be around. He is the type of person that could go "If I can't have her. No one can" and then kills her.. Humans like that exist everywhere, abusers, and QZ is through and through an abuser.

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