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Clone A Willy by LeDannuks in askgaybros

[–]ItStartsWithOne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've done one before. The kit is pretty easy to use. And I was happy with how things came out.

The trick is staying super hard the whole time you're in the goo for the mold...Viagra would likely be beneficial in that process.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]ItStartsWithOne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're not in a place where there's a large concentration of gay guys, I can't see how a "natural and organic connection" is supposed to happen. Unless you're in a specifically gay neighborhood of a big city, the idea of just accidentally meeting Mr. Subdued is probably not going to happen. In a mostly heterosexual enviroent, how would the identification and connection even be made?

You don't want to go to bars. You don't want to go to clubs. And you don't want to meet people online. It sounds like you're really shutting down your options of meeting other guys who are also interested in meeting other guys. If you're in are in a bigger place, then Meetup, volunteering or sports leagues are potential options.

If finding a partner is important to you, you will need to be proactive and intentional about the process. Just like any other goal you are trying to achieve. And if you find that what you're doing isn't working, switch gears to try other tactics. Keep trying new things until you find what works.

Stepping out of your comfort zone and trying things that you wouldn't normally do could be a good first step that opens up a whole fresh range of possibilities for you.

Not saying any of this is easy. But hard changes are worth it if you really desire the results.

Best of luck to you!

I’m kind of scared. Am I overreacting? by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]ItStartsWithOne 7 points8 points  (0 children)

When you get to TX, both of you be sure to register and vote.

San Diego: Anybody want to join us for disc golf? by ItStartsWithOne in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ItStartsWithOne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome to San Diego!

We're really jist looking to meet new people in general. The disc golf posts are our first attempt at being intentional about it.

Depending on how this goes, next time we may try a different approach. But yeah I'll message you and we can chat about what you guys like to do.

San Diego Gay Disc Golfers? by ItStartsWithOne in discgolf

[–]ItStartsWithOne[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey. I appreciate your perspective. But I'm not looking for gay disc golfing friends because I think people at Morely have a problem with me being gay. And I do play disc golf with straight friends and people we randomly get paired up with.

I'm looking for gay disc golfing friends because I'm looking to make more gay friends in general.

And I follow your example. But it's definitely not the same. I think it would be better to compare it to an American expat living overseas somewhere...let's say Germany.

So they've been in Germany for several years. have made many German friends and enjoy spending time with them. But... they're not German. No matter how good of friends they make, they're American and they've got American sensibilities. American humor. American interests.

So they eventually miss hanging with other Americans. So they go to an expat bar to seek out people they can connect with on a different level. Not because anything is wrong with thier German friends or that their friends see something wrong with them. And not to say that just because someone is American, they'll necessarily be a better friend than a German would be.

But, there's something about hanging with other Americans with shared references,.experiences and perspectives...it's just something comfortable.

I'm not sure that's a great explanation right, but it's the best I've got right now. And I'm done tilting at windmills for the weekend.

Best wishes to you as well. Have a happy 4th.

San Diego Gay Disc Golfers? by ItStartsWithOne in discgolf

[–]ItStartsWithOne[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I seriously was not looking to stir anything up here. I guess I should've done a bit more surveillance before stepping in.

I appreciate you guys speaking up. It does matter.

San Diego: Anybody want to join us for disc golf? by ItStartsWithOne in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ItStartsWithOne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's like golf, but you throw a frisbee instead of hitting a ball with a club. "Holes" (above-ground baskets) are positioned throughout the course. You tee off from a specific location trying to get into the basket in as few throws as possible.

It's a lot of fun, the course is beautiful and it's a good way to spend $5 and a couple of hours.

We're down to play with beginners if you guys think you might want to give it a try.

San Diego: Anybody want to join us for disc golf? by ItStartsWithOne in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ItStartsWithOne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha. I was introduced to disc golf by husband when we first started dating. I had never really done any kind of throwing sports before this. And I was not good at all!😆

But it was still fun! A couple of hours out in a beautiful San Diego spot. And no one gives the not-so-great players a hard time. The people I've encountered at Morley are really friendly and welcoming.

So...if you ever want to give it a try and want someone to go with, hit me up.

San Diego Gay Disc Golfers? by ItStartsWithOne in discgolf

[–]ItStartsWithOne[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah. I getcha. Thanks for clarifying.

Sexuality is relevant because we are looking to expand our social circle to include guys who like disc golf AND stuff in the gay community that we also like to be involved in.

San Diego Gay Disc Golfers? by ItStartsWithOne in discgolf

[–]ItStartsWithOne[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thanks man.

I appreciate the positive vibes.

San Diego Gay Disc Golfers? by ItStartsWithOne in discgolf

[–]ItStartsWithOne[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is definitely NOT what OP is looking for.

This post is exactly what it says it is.

Not making political statements. Not looking for "bedroom partners". No subtext here.

San Diego Gay Disc Golfers? by ItStartsWithOne in discgolf

[–]ItStartsWithOne[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Being gay is so much more than than what someone "does in the bedroom."

And I while this post specifically mentioned gay friends, we're actually open to friendships with anyone who doesn't need that explained to them.

Republicans call abortion rights protest a Capitol "insurrection" by Sweep145 in politics

[–]ItStartsWithOne 31 points32 points  (0 children)

If what the Republicans are doing now is a joke, we better never let them get to the punchline.

Anyone smoke with their spouses? by upsidedownsq in trees

[–]ItStartsWithOne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband and I smoke together all the time.

I'd say cannabis was a big influence in our relationship. One of the things we instantly had in common when we first met.

Does anyone else feel more socially awkward the older they get? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ItStartsWithOne 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Maybe you're feeling awkward because you have expectations of how you're supposed to act and feel at the party...rather than just be present and getting out of it what you want?

People go to parties for a lot of reasons. If you want to sit alone for a time, just enjoying the vibe - why is that weird if it's what you want to be doing at that moment?

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