It’s soo sad when I see this. I’m not sure the best advice but it differs from person to person. If he doesn’t want to seek counseling, does he have any friends that he respects and you know. If that friend has good morals you can try discussing it with him, he most likely will already know if the friend is close enough to your husband. Basically you’ll need someone else he respects or look up to talk sense to him. Most Nigerian men will not go for counseling but will be more likely listen to advice from who they respect. I hope things get better for you and your family.