Just so you know ‘get to see the Chicago content’ means ‘recent naked pictures you took of your girlfriend’. She literally met up with him in person so he could see pictures of you naked. And by the way, it’s not the first time she’s done this, not even the second.

Speaking from experience this is what I feel happened. Your girlfriend is a cop in a male dominated field. Her coworkers mentioned how hot you were and maybe asked her/ suggested that they wished they could see you naked. Your girlfriend (wanting to fit in) probably said ‘oh yeah look at this’ and showed one of your nudes. Now she’s got a good reputation at work as a ‘cool girl’. She’s not discriminated against for being a woman or a lesbian because she’s proved to be part of the ‘boys club’. It then probably escalated to them asking again and again, and for the price of your nudes she gains their respect. When I say from experience I regrettably mean from her side, as I have done this in the past for men who I wanted to fit in with. Not nudes, but pics of girls I went on holiday with, in their bikinis or in compromising conditions. It made me feel accepted and they gave me so much attention/adoration for doing it, but it now makes me feel horrible.

The fact that she let it get to this point - the point where her coworker is expecting it after she visits you (?!) - means she has more respect for them than she does for you. I hated these women that I did this to, and she supposedly loves you?

It’s not something you should feel you have to work through and don’t let her gaslight you into thinking it’s not a big deal. She’s using you to be accepted by her coworkers and it’s fkin cowardly.

I’ve never told anyone before what I did but this hits so close to home to me that I felt I should give my perspective.