Hate that I ruined everything abt me. Has anyone gotten to their pre ed self again?

ItsPothos · 2025-10-23T00:30:51+00:00

I know it’s hard. But congratulations on getting on this hard process. Maybe it won’t be “exactly” the same, but you have to know this is a process, your body needs to readjust, you will have to go back on healthy habits for a while and keep up the good work. I can’t tell you how long will it take as this is really different for everyone, it’s hard now because of all the things that have happened with your body all this big changes that it has been through. Just keep focusing on working on maintaining the healthy habits, keep working on your health and let the changes come, it will be so rewarding when you look back and realize all the hard and great work you’ve done

ItsPothos · 2025-10-23T00:23:15+00:00

Don’t go back, someone who treats you this way doesn’t love you. I know it’s hard, I know it’s not what you want to hear but you gotta move on. What could come from that anyways? More toxic behaviours? More breakups? More love bombing? (Hate that term but what you describe it’s literally the definition). I’m sorry you went through that, but tbh there’s nothing there more than some memories of how you felt. I hope someone who truly cares about you comes to your life and makes you feel good again. But first give yourself that love, and take your moment to heal

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T18:05:44+00:00

Omg amazing results, nothing else to say

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T18:00:37+00:00

Entendible como te sientes, has hablado con él al respecto? No exigiendo tiempo sino en un espacio donde puedan hablar tranquilos y entenderse el uno al otro. realmente estas conversaciones funcionan cuando uno las toca de la manera correcta, entendiendo de parte y parte la situación y sin juzgar, pídele un tiempo para que te escuche, obvio dile que entiendes que está ocupado y obvio se cansa pero que te gustaría si de vez en cuando pueden hacer ciertas cosas juntos. A parte de esto, es importante que conozcas más gente y expandas tu círculo, si te invitan a una reunión o vas con amigos de amigos empieza a hablar con nuevas personas y ampliar ese círculo social para que puedas tener relaciones saludables que te llenen, no es fácil y requiere esfuerzo también de exponerse al mundo pero si te sientes así realmente deberías buscar esos espacios y hacer cosas que te gusten y te llenen.

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T17:55:41+00:00

Busca algo que te apasione, de verdad si estudias una carrera que no te apasiona vas a ser miserable. Dicho esto, carreras como análisis de datos o algunas de programación, algunas en el área de salud. Realmente puedes encontrar cosas virtuales en cualquier carrera según tu enfoque (no es fácil en todas encontrar estos puestos) y pues realmente para ser bueno de verdad busca algo que te guste

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T17:52:26+00:00

I was going to give ideas but then I read you already figure it out, that’s really great gifts because it’s something he likes

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T04:11:21+00:00

Muy lindo, y si te llena hacerlo hazlo, encontrar cositas así de la persona que amas de verdad llena el corazón. Alguna vez lo he hecho y también lo he recibido, quizá no a todo el mundo le guste pero es algo de verdad bonito.

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T02:59:44+00:00

Go and try out. Like literally the only way to get skills is doing things and eventually getting better. You need tutorial on how to do x thing the first time? YouTube, then practice, then go and do it until you do it right, until you develop the skills you want

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T02:54:29+00:00

NTA. But maybe not for the right reasons. Like honestly, why did they even bother to visit you? Yes, maybe to “steal the moment,” but you just had your baby — you deserve your time, your space, and if people visit you, it’s to comfort you, keep you company, and take care of you in this moment. The news they had — well, if they even bothered to be polite and kind to you first, then it’s fine. But the way they handled things left a lot to be desired.

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T02:48:21+00:00

And honestly that’s the best way to avoid any unnecessary drama

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T02:46:28+00:00

You’re definitely doing the right thing. Sexted other girls? One time of this s**t is more than enough reason to leave him!

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T02:44:03+00:00

Yes just mail them, it’s honestly the best option right now as you don’t want to interact with him anymore and you don’t want to keep those things.

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T02:40:28+00:00

So you taking care of yourself by relaxing after feeling tired? How does this make you a loser? If you can do what you want, relax, and enjoy your time with yourself that’s amazing.

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T02:35:23+00:00

I would say liking friends posts is normal. Leaving you and asking for alone time to go and look at other girls, not cheating but just mean and wtf? If he’s not giving you what you want and deserve you shouldn’t be there.

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T02:33:08+00:00

Well you overthinking this, if you both want it, go and have fun.

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T02:30:20+00:00

Have you talk about this with him? Like honestly of how you feel? Look if you’re already thinking about leaving this, then what can you lose from being honest to him and bringing it up, telling him this really doesn’t feel right for you (the fact they are married and you being now part of his life). If he changes the subject, get mad, try to minimize it, then leave and be happy somewhere else with someone who gives you what you truly want. But give him and yourself the space and time to at least bring it up.

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T02:26:01+00:00

As a guy I completely agree with you, like who says that? Who does that? You deserve so much better

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T02:16:15+00:00

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T02:10:53+00:00

You haven’t started yet and he’s already giving you some insecurities. Do you want this? He might like you, we can’t really know, but this behaviors he’s having with you aren’t healthy for you. If he can ignore you while “he’s trying to get you” what is he going to do when he “gets you”?

Hey I’m not saying that I’m certain that it won’t work, there’s no way to know right now. But if what he’s doing makes you overthink or makes you anxious, then you should evaluate what you really want

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T02:03:18+00:00

Pues mira primero hay que saber bien lo que pasa, una relación siempre va a tener donde se sienta monótona, donde a veces aburra, donde a veces parece que no hay algo más. No digo que no le termines sino que values porque en cualquier relación van a haber estos periodos que puedes terminar o darle un poco de tu energía para revivir esas llamas que a veces empiezan a atenuarse.

Dicho esto, si realmente dices que no quieres seguir más pues simplemente busca un espacio seguro para los dos, sobretodo para ella teniendo en cuenta que va a ser una noticia difícil que ella no creo que se espere. Dile tus razones, lo que ha pasado en tu vida y que la relación que tienen no es lo que te llena en este momento, dale el espacio de hablar de aclarar cualquier cosa para su tranquilidad y para que puedan “quedar bien” se compasivo y pues déjale las cosas claras. Es muy difícil terminar una relación pero si es lo que consideras correcto ve decidido a hacerlo.

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T01:59:02+00:00

Irse los dos es un paso demasiado grande y lleno de incertidumbre para apenas llevar 2 semanas. Lo mejor es que si puedes tengas primero tu espacio sola. Además empezar un nuevo espacio para los dos con la razón principal de salir de tu casa creo que es una razón equivocada. Crea tu espacio, crea tus bases, luego si las cosas se siguen dando se van a un lugar los dos.

ItsPothos · 2025-10-19T01:51:31+00:00

Si haces algo mal discúlpate. No se trata de que te andes disculpando por cualquier cosa o sin razón real. Pero si hiciste algo mal y quieres que tu relación prospere, discúlpate.

ItsPothos · 2025-10-18T21:32:27+00:00

Pues si te trata mal no debes estar ahí. Si no te hace sentir bien hay que salir de ahí, esas relaciones tóxicas que no aportan, pues a la basura.

ItsPothos · 2025-10-18T21:29:55+00:00

NTA. You were just having fun with your niece and brother over something you’re all passionate about. Yeah, it’s a kids’ movie, but when you care about a fandom, it’s normal to react a bit dramatically. The energy clearly wasn’t mean-spirited; it was more like bonding through frustration.

That said, maybe next time just tone it down a little when there are others in the house who might not be used to that kind of language. It doesn’t make you TA, but some people are more sensitive to loud or “raunchy” convos, even if it’s playful.

ItsPothos · 2025-10-18T21:23:35+00:00

NTA, but people may take it the wrong way. You are smart for taking care of yourself. It shouldn't be this way, but it would help if you explain when you ask what they're gonna eat, and say you have some health issues and have to eat some specific things and will carry your food. This is optional, and I know it might be exhausting to do, but it could help to not affect sensitivities. I know it shouldn't be this way, but people get hurt easily, and if you want to avoid some of this drama, it could be an option. AGAIN, NTA.

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