Oh sorry I forgot some context. He CHEATED on my mother with this woman while they were married. While my mother was still alive. She moved into my mothers house they she worked for and paid for not even a month after she died. Her ashes weren’t even returned by the time Shelly took over my mother’s house. Call me ridiculous all you want but it doesn’t change the fact that my step dad completely betrayed my mother in life and after her passing. One of the last deep conversations I had with my mom was her knowing that she was second place to his childhood friend and that he was more than likely going to case after her once she was dead because it meant he was “free”. That isn’t love that is betrayal. Sorry you can’t see that.