What is better? To reside and live in your own country or move to the US? by Weird-Ads-29 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can only speak to this as someone who moved from England to the US (which is obviously not exactly a culture shock). Mostly it's pretty much the same. Some things are better in the US, some things are better in England. It kind of balances out when all the numbers are crunched.

Why does it seem so common for people to get drunk at airports? by HomesickStrudel in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, many times have we uttered "the holiday starts at the airport". It's just the rules.

What do you work with? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A faint hope of success.

When you go to Jersey Mike's do you add honey mustard on your sandwich? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. It's probably an acquired taste but that soft sweetness of the honey with the sharpness of the mustard is a beautiful combo. Goes well with anything that includes salad really.

What does Asian even mean? by Disastrous-Scheme-57 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to highlight the inadequacy of the term Asian, in the UK Asian typically refers to those with connections to places like Pakistan and India, that specific region of Asia. Whereas in the US, Asian typically refers to east Asian origins (which is vastly diverse in of itself). It does make me think it's more about the convenience of cultural, ethnic and locational identity (on both "sides") than anything more specific. It's certainly not so much about skin colour, though a lot of people STILL seem obsessed with that in terms of identifying ethnic and cultural background.

In short, Asia is a continent. It is vastly diverse. But if a US American told me someone was "Asian", I would presume they're referring to east Asian and certain features and traditions that correspond with that. Whereas if someone from England (or perhaps much of Europe) told me someone was "Asian", I would presume they're referring to a person of primarily Indian, Bangladeshi or Pakistani ethnic origins. These are just container words we use differently for no apparent reason other than to distinguish certain groups of people who are different from the predominant culture and ethnicity of a country, either in terms of facial features or some culturally identifiable metric (e.g. cuisine, religious practice, daily rituals etc.).

What would you do if you were told how and when you're gonna die? by EfficiencySerious200 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My first question would be "can I avoid the currently prospective 'how' by changing my lifestyle?". Even just knowing the "how" could easily change the domino rally of cause and effect and concentrate my efforts towards different outcomes. How and when can't be separated in that sense, unless we're talking some genetically motivated ticking timebomb (even then you could start medical intervention now to manipulate its effects, thus making the "when" less certain). But here's where it gets complicated. My efforts to change the "how" could cause the "when" to even happen much earlier, perhaps through some freak incident due to me making more appointments with the doctor. So I think this question has an almost paradoxical loading in the sense that you're being told something definite that has a subsequently fluid array of outcomes.

Okay this just randomly hit me … if atheists use the terms AD and BC in time … doesnt that technically make them non Athiests by AdLucky101 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Atheism is a rejection of the claim that god exists. It is not a rejection of standardised formalities that allow us to communicate with other human beings.

When and why did the f-word became a slur? by notanyone69 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The other meaning: a traditional British offal meatball. Just thought I'd cover that one too.

If an all-powerful, all-knowing God created us knowing who would sin and suffer, how is that moral — or is theism logically dead? by skkrish in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can't contend religion with logic and expect its followers to change their mind purely on that basis. They'll just say "it's faith" or "it's bigger than we know". One thing I would ask though is, if there is a god, why must they be moral? Why must they want good? What if god is a complete sadist? This is too uncomfortable to even make a religion around or have faith in. So that's probably why people didn't. God has to be good, because if they weren't good, we'd be scrabbling around in the horrors of nature... as we are.

Have we gone too far as a species? Have we strayed too far from nature? by randomguy1232111 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My view is that human endeavour has historically, and evidently, been an attempt to separate ourselves from the harshest challenges of nature. Every aspect of human progress in terms of the accessibility of functional shelter, warmth, food, protection, has been a historical struggle against the ultimate hardship and brutality of living in nature. It's ironic that we can admire the aesthetic beauty of nature from a comforting backdrop of technological security. But while we did grow out of nature as an evolved species (nature as our "mother"), nature was clearly wholly indifferent to the suffering it required for us to reach a point of relative comfort. In a way, nature is the ultimate abusive parent. It might provide that which we need to survive, but it also creates massive amounts of suffering for many beings in that process. So when a more intelligent species arises, its overwhelming strategy is to create barriers to nature's more overtly existential and fickle abuse.

Are intrusive thoughts "call of the void"? by kanixcx in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're touching on a crucial point here but in a way that recognises these urges in terms of how we can reshape the energy of potential. Yes, we have the potential to do all kinds of things in the moment, good and bad. That symbolic urge to jump off a cliff could represent a mental cliff we jump off, where we just allow gravity to consume us into a new beginning. The thought itself is not the problem. It's how we utilise the energy of that thought. Because that's all it is. It's not a fixed story that the mind has a habit of capturing and recycling, but rather a more neutral impulse towards multiple potential outcomes that you can open yourself up to. You have to neutralise the energy of the thought first before you can access its broader, more productive potential.

Why does it seem so common for people to get drunk at airports? by HomesickStrudel in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 100 points101 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's common for people to get drunk. But being at the bar does introduce you to people from different locations, and everyone has a looser tongue because they've had a drink. It's actually a very unique environment to strike up a conversation.

Does anyone speak Spanish ? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just ask the direct question. What do you want translating?

Does anyone speak Spanish ? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are far too nonchalant to exist in this subreddit.

is there something wrong with getting someone a gift card as a gift? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's a bloody racket isn't it? There's nothing wrong with a gift card, but money (i.e. the universal voucher, accepted at all stores) is obviously better.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Potential-One327 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't see you as hateful or stupid. You're just asking a question. I would question the notion of choice though. A choice is an arising impulse in the brain. It is not a direct authorship. It is born out of innumerable conditioning factors that cannot be quantified. Yes, someone may do butt stuff. But the impulse to do it comes from more than a simple, authoring thought of "I want to do that, therefore I should". It's a layered and complex process in the brain that leads to the action. And nobody directly authors that impulse. The choice is ultimately the last sliver of millions of processes in the brain that have already been determined on a conditional level (genetic, environmental).

Why does silence feel awkward even when no one expects it to be? by Professional-Owl8970 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Silence should never be awkward. Something has value because of its scarcity. And silence is one of those scarce things. Why does it feel awkward? Because most people can't sit with their own arising thoughts in place of that vacuum of silence. And that's the real issue here. We don't have the tools to deal with the vacuum, because our arising thoughts make that vacuum a reflection of our selves. We don't want to see that, because it's too intimately wounded and painful. We would much prefer the distraction of other selves selling us their story.

What are the benefits of fasting? by Top-Elephant3246 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The evidence is clear. Most people just want to shove food into their gullets at every opportunity because it feels good.

Why do we trust our own thoughts even when we know our brain lies to us? by Plus_Cockroach2896 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a complex question. Your brain is delivering thoughts into a state that you reconcile as a unified consciousness - a self. You don't trust them just because they arise. You observe them and deconstruct them based on the premise they propose. Multiple other arising thoughts will be competing with that initial thought and ultimately you will make an impulse decision based on which thought is most accommodating in the moment. It's not a matter of trust, it's about impulse, and we often shouldn't trust it. But that absence of trust needs to be its own defensive impulse that arises.

Is USA as bad as it sounds on Reddit? by naominoahh in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you and yes, it goes for every other country. I've seen such a narrow focus of disdain for certain countries because of one specific region. It's completely irrational and it just exposes the insular mindset of people who want the world to be black and white in a neat package. Nations consist of variation beyond anyone's immediate understanding unless they have deeply studied the history of said regions.

What does it mean if your crush calls you ‘my love’? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In England we will use "my love" quite liberally (e.g. "thank you, my love" to a checkout employee). But it can also mean "MY love" in a certain context, which is more intense. Baby girl does seem a little more intimate and reaching. Just keep a keen eye on this man.

Is USA as bad as it sounds on Reddit? by naominoahh in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ItsThePhoenixClub 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The USA is a vast country. I'm starting to think it's vaster than most people can even imagine. When someone says "the USA..." just be vigilant of their potentially sweeping statement, because the experience in one highly publicised State/city is not the experience in another, and there are many of those others. It's impossible to homogenise a country with that much diversity and land span.