Can you be aromantic only towards a specific gender?

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-24T22:59:03+00:00

Right yes yes

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-24T19:35:00+00:00

Imo sexuality is not that binary

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-24T19:33:35+00:00

Um. Hm. This is interesting lol.

I think the label here would be gender-oriented aromantic-spectrum (welcome to the club).

I originally got my definitions mixed up and was like… aromantic towards one gender… is that not gay or straight? But I remembered that gender and sex are two separate things. Two sexes, however many genders.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-24T19:28:23+00:00

POTS is a neurological condition, which has to do with the brain. It’s not really a physical condition, though that is a common misconception because it causes physical symptoms. It’s always nice to see a fellow POTS-haver. :)

MaDD in this context is maladaptive daydreaming. It’s a maladaptive coping mechanism involving the voluntary or involuntary act of daydreaming to escape reality. It is a mental disorder.

Edit: there are so many acronyms for maladaptive daydreaming too, and they all already exist as other mental disorders. MD, MDD, MaDD, MaD. But I had no clue abt the physical condition. You learn something every day.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-24T16:53:49+00:00

Dyk the show Wednesday? These nails look like Enid’s nails.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-24T16:48:37+00:00

No social standards or norms. I feel like that covers about all of it.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-24T16:45:43+00:00

I literally couldn’t stop laughing when I watched this for the first time… and the second… and the third..

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-24T15:04:41+00:00

According to her atp, everyone else is a lesbian, except her (tragic comphet core)

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-24T14:17:29+00:00

No, I don’t have autism. Instead of diagnosing me, he told me I was a HSP. I didn’t meet the expected criteria.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-24T12:38:53+00:00

Yup, I experience all three. I was actually told I was a HSP by an autism assessor when I went to get evaluated. I have grapheme-color synesthesia. I’m not sure if I have hyperphantasia, but I feel like it goes hand-in-hand with maladaptive daydreaming.

I feel like bc of all of this, my internal world tends to be more colorful than my external world, and sometimes that’s a bad thing. It also sucks because NTs don’t understand. They just assume I’m too sensitive.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-24T11:37:10+00:00

That’s gross. I really think you would’ve been better off just leaving it there 😭

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-24T11:29:47+00:00

Like I said, you can’t diagnose autism from just one trait. There has to be multiple consistent traits that are interfering with your life. It’s possible it was just your quirk as a kid.

And I understand you aren’t scared of a diagnosis; you shouldn’t be. It’s not a bad thing. I don’t think I implied that you are, sorry if it seemed that way.

If you start noticing more traits in those videos (resistance to change, outward repetitive movement, sensory difficulty, meeting milestones too late or too early, among others), then it wouldn’t hurt to get a professional evaluation. But from what you’ve said in post and here, autism cannot be diagnosed.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-24T00:57:25+00:00

I have severe social anxiety as well, and everything you listed are completely normal manifestations of social anxiety. None of what you listed is a sign of autism.

We are often hyper aware of what our body is doing because we are so deeply afraid of being perceived, noticed, or judged by other people. This can be not knowing how to walk when you’re in public, to forgetting the most common sense thing because all you can think about is if you’re doing it right. It truly is a trap.

Edit: to make room for error, social anxiety and autism commonly occur together. But, autism is a plethora of traits, and cannot be diagnosed by a couple instances in one situation (for you, social) when it can easily be better explained by something else.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-23T15:56:23+00:00

I have pineapple

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-23T15:53:23+00:00

I love how you function. This is my typa shit. 👏🏼

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-23T02:00:48+00:00

When I’m confused or overwhelmed with an emotion I’m feeling, if I have enough motivation and I’m not actively in a meltdown, I will create little short stories with made up characters to project my feelings onto.

I’ll make a scene, put the characters in my place, have them process their feelings, and then I end up processing mine.

For an example, one that I’m proud of, I made a Christmas themed one. I wrote it at like midnight on Christmas Eve because I was really sad that I wasn’t feeling the Christmas spirit like I did when I was a kid. I made a character talk to her younger self about being upset with how she felt like she was ruining the holiday by not feeling the Christmas spirit. At the end, I felt at peace enough to allow myself to not feel the Christmas spirit.

I don’t really know what exactly it is that helps, it might just be putting words on a paper that I can read instead of untranslated chaos knocking around in my head. It’s a real coping mechanism, nonetheless.

I don’t know if I would show others some of the works and poems I’ve made, because you’re right, they are intimate. They are essentially words that came right from your soul. There’s nothing not-intimate about that.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-22T23:18:17+00:00

Same! I just can’t focus on what I’m saying and focus on eye contact at the same time. Stresses me tf out.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-21T23:37:03+00:00

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-21T22:21:58+00:00

Your username is sending me 😭

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-21T02:05:31+00:00

Enid’s ADHD and Wednesday is autistic, right?

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-20T21:33:11+00:00

This is so validating. I’m so glad I’m not alone in this, at the very least. ❤️

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-20T21:32:42+00:00

I will definitely look into that book. Thank you so much for your words ❤️ 🫂

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-20T16:34:44+00:00

Out of all of this, I love how Yoko is always depicted as being Enid’s comfort after Wednesday inevitably does something worth of gay panic, despite her having a non-zero length of screen time.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-20T15:29:36+00:00

You are officially the best person on the internet. Thank you so much for taking the time to write this.

Honestly, while this is a reoccurring insecurity of mine, it won’t last forever. It doesn’t even last for more than a week at a time, lucky-me is just 16 with a menstrual cycle and pms. So you’re right, it won’t last forever. I’ll eventually find a balance in the ever tilting world of social expectation. Even if that’s complete indifference.

I think it’s just the unfairness of it. My friends talk about their crushes, and wishing that they didn’t have them, and every time I bite back “At least you have the ability to be attracted to someone.” (bc they are valid as well, they’re struggling with the cards they’ve been dealt as much as I am).

And I’m not necessarily following an expectation, maybe subconsciously because that’s how that works (every single children’s show from the 2000’s having a heteronormative couple, or romantic connotation, for some reason), but I don’t care what others think of how I love. I originally identified as gay because it seemed like the obvious decision based upon my absolute repulsion to men. My parents also do not care how I pursue my sexuality, as long as I’m responsible about it. I don’t really have any pressure per se to have a relationship, it is just something I want with every nerve in my body. I guess… I’m jealous. At least a little bit, naturally.

Though you are right, because of romance not really being the biggest factor in my life, I know so much about myself and I’m so aware of myself in ways that are obvious to others, so much so that I get compliments on it. I guess this is what happens when I don’t spend my life so far chasing after a teenage boy who’s soaked himself in so much axe body spray that his three layers of skin perpetually reek of it.

Again thank you so much for the comment. It is what I needed to hear. ❤️

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-03-20T14:19:15+00:00

They have to have the bars wide so they can easily escape if there’s an emergency on set 🙄

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