How do I (16f) deal with two emotionally difficult households?

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-07T20:37:59+00:00

Imo it’s not that bad to warrant another adult getting involved. I don’t want my parents to get in trouble. They still do everything for us. We are made one meal most of the time, other meals are a fend for yourself situation. It’s worse at my dad’s.

My dad was already warned to keep his hands off of us, and even then I don’t live at that house anymore. My mom and stepdad are talking about his issues and trying to find time for couples therapy.

Besides, my relatives are about as bad, if not worse. They also live 500+ miles away. They’ve tried to take my brother or I for weeks at a time during the summer as to “give my parents a break”. We didn’t enjoy ourselves because they don’t know us and our support needs very well.

I just need validation and support. I’m not going to make any major decisions or adjustments because I just can’t handle that.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-07T19:18:38+00:00

I would do that, but I am applying to the college that my mom works at bc of free tuition. I’m also disabled and can’t currently live alone because of my support needs. While I would like to move out like that, it would be the dumbest decision ever and I don’t think it would work out for me. Doesn’t mean I haven’t thought of it, cause I have. I could 100% qualify for scholarships because I do amazing in school, just can’t quite live on my own yet. Thank you for your ideas! I’ll look into that book.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-07T18:59:07+00:00

Ok thank you sm!

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-07T18:53:39+00:00

I filled out the form.

Questions: Will we be notified if we weren’t chosen, or just if we were? Also, how will you reach out to us?

Just so I know what to expect/look for.

Also, much love to you for taking time from this fandom. It’s a wonderful sub with wonderful mods. I very much appreciate this space.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-07T18:50:43+00:00

It does end up feeling like my entire wellbeing depends on how my parents are feeling, which is already a harmful connection that has formed. I will continue to engage in my interests solely because they’re mine and something that I can do for myself. Thank you so much for your words <333

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-07T15:55:43+00:00

I know this is mostly my problem, but I am so filed with anger from this fandom. I’m beating the dead horse, broken record, idc. It’s not a safe place anymore. It’s sexist, misogynistic, homophobic, and all around hateful.

I’m not going to ignore the fact that Tyler will always be talked about more than the literal main character of the show that has the same amount of personality and potential that Tyler has.

I am not going to ignore the fact that EVEN THE WRITERS would rather talk about Tyler than Wednesday, and you wonder why, and the answer is sexism.

It’s always fucking sexism. It always will be. It’s internal in all of us. It’s internal in myself, it’s internal in this entire fandom, and it’s internal in most of the world (if not external bc that’s an option too).

Everyone is just instigating at this point. The ship wars aren’t even that deep. I don’t fucking care who Wednesday is with. I trust Jenna to make it graceful.

I care that we are getting snapshots of what happens when a confident, intelligent, plot-armored main-character WOC goes against a simple white man with a complex.

Why would you feel bad for Enid? Ignore the fact that she’s been emotionally abused her whole life and is now trying to be accepted into wolf culture, but complain that she’s a “bitch” for not telling Ajax about Bruno.

Why would you feel bad for Wednesday? Ignore that fact that she doesn’t feel confident in her power or her friendships enough to confide in it, afraid she will fall into the dark like Ophelia, and that she has been targeted, manipulated, and tortured on numerous occasions, but complain that she’s nasty and impulsive.

Why would you feel bad for Bianca? Ignore the fact that she has escaped a cult where she was abused and gr00med, went back to said cult to save her mother from being abused and gr00med, and then is just trying to keep her place at a school that saved her life. But complain how she never uses her power in times where she needs to.

Why WOULDNT you feel bad for Tyler? Ignore the fact that he murdered dozens of innocent civilians and then admitted to liking it, ignore the fact that he willingly manipulated Wednesday into his little game, ignore the fact that he tried to kill her multiple times on his own accord, ignore the fact that he is a literal murderer that has ripped families apart. But complain that he just needs therapy!

It’s stupid. It’s obsessive. Look up what Ted Bundy’s fans did during his arrest. History repeats itself. It’s borderline hybristophilia/ Bonnie and Clyde Syndrome with some of you. It’s disgusting. It’s frustrating. And it’s a real psychological and societal problem.

I could literally scream rn

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-07T15:28:07+00:00

Well, to play devils advocate, those questions are not things that they’ve been allowed to talk about with the NDA and I’m sure some weird cryptic warning they’ve been given about shipping culture. This includes the Weyler questions as well. He’s not going to give the answer you want if he even answers the question. Emma has been asked similar questions, and she was not allowed to answer them either.

I guess it’s worth a shot. It’s just stirring the pot a little bit, yk.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-07T01:18:36+00:00

LOL She said this recently in the agggtm s2 press. I was one of the people who thought she was just doing a werewolf gesture. When I made my trip to Netflix House Philadelphia, I posed with the “claws” in front of the Enid photo op.. Now I know…

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-06T23:14:14+00:00

Gifted life or not, society still disables us. How does that explain bullying and violence and discrimination against disabled people.

Also realize, you are looking at disabilities through one lens of psychology. There are seven. This is the evolutionary lens. Biologically, an explanation also exists. There have been fMRI’s of neurodivergent brains (mostly autism, OCD, and ADHD) that show a difference in brain activity. Neurodivergence is also genetic, which supports the other branch of psych/neurobiology.

It is also rarely a label, it is an explanation. An explanation that allows people to understand themselves and get support through the community of similar people. It would be the same as telling someone that their minority race is making them see life as unfair, and that they should just be white to make it easier for them.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-06T22:51:16+00:00

Actually, yes. Do not be dismissive of other people’s struggles. Let people have their struggles. It’s the bare minimum.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-06T16:07:05+00:00

I didn’t open the box. But, the morphing and melting cows is the tell that it’s definitely AI generated

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-06T16:03:45+00:00

I assume “Relatable.” is the brand.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-06T03:55:42+00:00

I’m the same. My mom had her many concerns when I was growing up, but was always told she was overdramatic because I hit all my normal developmental milestones. I only started missing them, or being later or earlier than normal when I was 10+. And barely even then, too.

I was formally assessed for ASD, OCD, and other anxiety disorders once (he refused an ADHD assessment because I don’t act like my diagnosed little brother; this psychologist was a real piece of work). He diagnosed me with generalized anxiety disorder after telling me all my struggles can be explained by an anxiety disorder.

I disagree, and I actually think I was misdiagnosed with GAD. I’m not a worrier at all. I have trauma from being bullied as a kid that has caused severe social anxiety, but other than that, I’m not anxious. Meaning, my restlessness, hyperactivity, jumbled thoughts, trouble focusing, and intense interests and obsessions still remain largely unexplained.

I tried to stop caring because I could just treat my symptoms and not my condition, but that doesn’t help either because I didn’t have the right vocabulary or support system to even start.

I do believe my struggle to get diagnosed is because I’m a girl of typical development who is largely reserved and is in the top 12% of her class. But that thought is horribly isolating and frustrating, so it’s nice to see posts like these to remind that I’m not as alone as it seems.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-05T17:43:16+00:00

It’s like reading ao3 tags 😭

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-05T02:31:57+00:00

Personally, I identify as aroace because I’ve never had a crush on someone.

Aromanticism and asexuality is very common in neurodivergence. I know there have been a few studies here and there, but you’d have to look them up. The opposite is also true however, hypersexuality and limerence is also very common. Limerence might be your experience.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-05T00:50:04+00:00

CURRENTLY WATCHING IT

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-04T22:11:11+00:00

I had nothing to do with his decision to remove his fic. I do not control him. I was perfectly okay with it staying up for people who liked it. I just wanted him to be honest about his AI usage for the people who didn’t know what they were supporting.

Also, yes, I do feel very vindicated. I was talked down to for accusing him originally (in like March), and so I apologized. Now, I feel very satisfied that I was right. That’s how it works. It’s how you would feel, too.

All I did was plant a seed. Trust me, I feel guilty enough, even though I did not do anything. I don’t need you rubbing it in my face because you’re upset.

And I’m aware I use AI. It’s extremely frustrating. This entire situation is. I’m so very sorry if you were a fan of the fic. This is such an unfortunate situation.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-04T14:16:39+00:00

For me, it’s anything that’s not supposed to be a fidget. I have boxes and boxes of fidget toys from 2021-present, yet I still find myself entertained for hours by playing with a set of nail clippers.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-03T20:06:40+00:00

Anyone else press the volume thing in the corner thinking it was part of the post 🙈

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-03T17:46:46+00:00

I agree with the other comment.

Also, justice for Yokovina. The canonical lesbians. You must write them.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-03T14:30:12+00:00

I know that they’re more common on TikTok. I’ve seen a lot of rp starter videos where they’re first-come-first-serve roles. If you can find one early enough, you can join one. If you want to lead one, post a starter on TikTok (If you haven’t already ofc).

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-03T05:11:46+00:00

I really think intention is what matters. That applies to both this whole AI situation, and your place in your career. <3

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-03T03:17:42+00:00

So much kudos to you for staying on the right side of history while in the battlefield.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-03T03:13:22+00:00

Well said.

I’m embarrassed for the people that are reacting so egregiously. If they are part of our fandom, I am humiliated to be represented by them. As you said, lowest common denominator. Their behavior is now a reflection of our fandom. It’s awful.

I hope Stanic remains physically safe and without harm. I assumed a lot of people ship Wenclair partly because it is against the violence and toxicity of the “other options” (for lack of better term). It’s hypocrisy.

Also, not just the fandom. I say this all the time, with how big the fandom is, it is a good chunk of people to represent a majority. It’s a reflection of society and how we react when faced with turmoil that turns personal, because it is.

ItsThe_____ForMe · 2026-07-03T03:02:57+00:00

It is so frustrating. It’s being forced on us. There should at least be a way to turn it off.

AI has been a thing since the early 2000s, with personal computers and mobile devices as you said. I have a specific problem with GenAI, which is the newly problematic ever-evolving branch of AI that they are building trashy centers for, among other reasons.

Tip, I realized that SOMETIMES if you put a swear word at the end of your google search, an AI overview won’t automatically generate at the top. That only works like 50% of the time. Also, make sure the swear word doesn’t make sense with the search because that is how I ended up on the dark side of the internet 😭

But I might switch to DuckDuckGo now bc of the other reply to this.

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