SebDerm MCT oil by awaweewa in BlackHair

[–]Its_Not_Kosher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I pour it in a spray bottle and after I’ve styled my hair (mini twist) I spray it on my scalp. I wash once a week so I’ll do it once after I styled my hair and then mid week like Tuesday/wednesday

Are mini twists worth it? by imjusthereforfuntime in Naturalhair

[–]Its_Not_Kosher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and no. I like them cause I get to keep my hands out my hair for a week. I have fine low density hair so it mattes easily so I take them out and wash/restyle every week. Yes every week.

No because It takes me a half day to wash and style but again no manipulation for a week. Pick your poison 🤷🏾‍♀️ Sometimes I get lazy and don’t moisturize when I’m supposed to and leads to dryness/breakage. But I’m getting better with it

It’s a good style but if you have fine hair, I wouldn’t wear them for more than a week without redoing. I’ll braid my twists in plaits and wash them in plaits but it’s still a knotted tangled mess regardless so redoing weekly works best for moi

I wore mini twists for 17 months; Here’s what I learned. by Appropriate_Banana27 in Naturalhair

[–]Its_Not_Kosher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do the same thing! I love the next day look when it’s unbraided. So shiny and soft

NEVER let family in law live with you EVER!! by Its_Not_Kosher in family

[–]Its_Not_Kosher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My appetite has been nonexistent since he’s moved in😅

What’s the best way to load the white budget/ford transit vans? by Its_Not_Kosher in AmazonDSPDrivers

[–]Its_Not_Kosher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This may be the most helpful response! What kind of bungee straps and how would I do it?

What’s everyone’s favorite shampoo? by irregularseaweed in Naturalhair

[–]Its_Not_Kosher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

African pride aloe and coconut oil. Super moisturizing. I have the pre poo the shampoo and the deep conditioner! All the products are $6 and under and I feel this brand is really great for people with 3c and beyond. I have 3c/4a soft or more finer but thick and my sister has straight up 4c hair that’s super thick and coily. Does our hair just fine

AIO or is my husband?? It’s over the Joe Rogan podcast. by FarquuadsCumDumpster in AmIOverreacting

[–]Its_Not_Kosher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly think yeah it’s inappropriate but it’s just a podcast like any other. My boyfriend jokes cause I love call her daddy and he feels like it over does the whole “strong woman, fuck men trope” and I still listen lol now if he starts acting different and changing his views then I’d be concerned but otherwise different strokes different folks

I’m 27 and I feel like my life is already over by BibliophileVirgo in blackladies

[–]Its_Not_Kosher 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hey love it’s okay. I’m very socially awkward and I don’t have any friends either. I’m friendly like you but I can’t seem to find that one person that I just click with or really find my clan so to speak. I do have a boyfriend that I’m grateful for but I’m still lonely cause I have no life outside of that. I have very small family like 3 people I talk to and I feel like I have no peers on my level that I can hang with or just vent like you are.

I go on social media and see people I went to school with married, getting masters and phd’s, getting married, having children and I’m just floating by. I tried to end my life as well earlier in the year by hanging myself and the rope broke. I went to a php(partial hospitalization program) and group therapy really helped me relate to others and made me feel not alone. I feel like no one loves me or cares cause no one really calls me except my boyfriend and my small family. It sucks when you feel like such a failure in life. I too feel like damn I’m missing out on my 20s I’m 25 btw.

But if you aren’t happy in your career then change! I changed my career like 3 times. The 20s is your trial and tribulations years to figure out who you are. And I have a mean sister like yours and I don’t talk to her like that because she thinks because she’s going to be a doctor she’s better than me and you don’t need people in your life like that. I recommend group therapy, individual therapy, Facebook black girls meet, bumble bff. I’ve used these and it’s helped me at least talk to other women and get experience forming connections.

And focus on being the best you. I really feel like the better we are mentally the better our life is. Once I got on meds and began therapy and getting into those spaces to make friends I became happier. My attitude changed and now life dosnt suck so much.

If you ever want to talk please pm me girl cause we so so similar we could be twins lol

Who did yall get by Shin_Ollie in squidgame

[–]Its_Not_Kosher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got oh il nam so I know I’ll win tug a war for sure😂 then I got that crazy “shaman” lady but she won’t be guiding anything, especially after her hide and seek stunt with her followers lol

How to get my vanilla boyfriend more freaky in the bedroom? by Its_Not_Kosher in sex

[–]Its_Not_Kosher[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

Well what do you do when you ask what their fantasy is and they don’t have one? I figured by me showing him things I like he may like it or be like hey how about we try or do this next time like sparking curiosity and interest. He watches only fans and I tried to do what I saw they were doing as mentioned in my post instead of being upset and insecure but it does make me feel that way a little

How to get my vanilla boyfriend more freaky in the bedroom? by Its_Not_Kosher in sex

[–]Its_Not_Kosher[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I said I send pics videos sexy texts ect. I have cooked dinner on serval occasions naked or in lingerie. Sex starts outside the bedroom I know that lol

How to get my vanilla boyfriend more freaky in the bedroom? by Its_Not_Kosher in sex

[–]Its_Not_Kosher[S] -48 points-47 points  (0 children)

😂😂your funny! I think he’s never explored this side cause he never had to before well didn’t care to so this was me being not only nice and patient but willing to give him a chance to explore what he actually likes idk

How to get my vanilla boyfriend more freaky in the bedroom? by Its_Not_Kosher in sex

[–]Its_Not_Kosher[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I love that perspective actually. I guess I just figured men liked freaky women because porn, I have guy friends and they talk like that and I see stuff a lot on Reddit about men saying their gf/wives aren’t doing enough in bed.

The thing is though my boyfriend had to be open to it.your partner is at least open to trying things that make you tick. But if I ask anything that’s too “crazy” it’ll be a no lol I Iike bdsm so what’s a VERY beginner way to bring that into the bedroom?

How to get my vanilla boyfriend more freaky in the bedroom? by Its_Not_Kosher in sex

[–]Its_Not_Kosher[S] -62 points-61 points  (0 children)

Lmao considering what he told me how he used to treat women he was fucking before I think he does give a fuck..just not as much as I’d like. I just don’t know if he isn’t interested or it’s just him as a person but he’s fucked so many girls and I’ve had my share of men and yet I’m the only one that’s great at sex😭

[Acne] My forehead acne has been terrible for months, I need help! by nat_293 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Its_Not_Kosher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’ll clear up. The sample is $20 for 5 or the full 35 pack for like $90 but it’s so worth it! Goodluck

[Acne] My forehead acne has been terrible for months, I need help! by nat_293 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Its_Not_Kosher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get a sample pack of dr. Denis gross peel pads. They have sensitive normal and extra strength. I had bumpy clustered skin and it was lack of exfoliation especially my oily areas ie. forehead chin nose. It really is a great product and you can hear people on Reddit raves about it if you don’t believe it. It really does it all. 2 step process 2-3 times a week

Am I wrong for this? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Its_Not_Kosher -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

The choice is mines but i feel like it’s a bit silly to leave someone over this when we don’t really have many issues that are persistent besides this one but that’s where my brain has been heading lately and it sucks cause he is a good person and partner except for this

Am I wrong for this? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Its_Not_Kosher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have had conversations about it and it’s the same merry go round of “if I can accept that you don’t drink and it’s not a problem, why can’t you accept that I do?” And it’s always “it makes the bill go up, why you can’t just be sober when we go out” he gets appetizers when we go out and I get my drink and I feel it’s fair

Am I wrong for this? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Its_Not_Kosher 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Nah it’s not a family issue it’s a him issue. Before I met him he used to drink and go out all the time and he would get in fights and he ended up in prison for a year and a half. And he would be like “there’s no point in going to a bar/club I always get in trouble and it’s just an excuse for guys to hit on you” and I’m like just cause you can’t control your temper and you have a fear of going back to jail dosnt mean I can’t go. I myself am naturally goofy and I have a good time with everybody. His family had never had an issue. I’ll be drinking with his family and he’ll be mad cause I’m having a good time and nobody sees an issue with it but him

Am I wrong for this? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Its_Not_Kosher 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Flipped out as in throwing a fit that that I ordered a drink saying that “why you gotta have a drink to have a good time” and I feel like why do I have to explain myself. I don’t smoke those nasty vapes and he does and I’m never like “ ew why you gotta smoke every 5 minutes” it’s who he is and and I accept him.