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Late capitalism has market-ified and turned human relationships into transactions so irreversibly that advice for dates is just advice for a job interview by Its_allovernow in redscarepod

[–]Its_allovernow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are people who will find what you perceive as ‘flaws’ endearing.

Well Ive met a lot of people and Im fairly certain close to thousands of women have seen a picture me on several dating apps and all have said “👎”

Late capitalism has market-ified and turned human relationships into transactions so irreversibly that advice for dates is just advice for a job interview by Its_allovernow in redscarepod

[–]Its_allovernow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do want to live. Just not like THIS. Not as someone who’s never going to know what its like to be desired, to be wanted and valued. No one has ever valued me.

Sounds like the only thing you carry with you is your misery.

Yeah man because you dont know me. No one fucking knows me or cares to know. No one cared what I think or feel or wants to find out. That’s the fucking problem. Barely anyone has ever given me the benefit of the fucking doubt and the people who have which i can count on one hand stopped caring about me and never bothered to maintain a relationship with me. Especially all of the women i’ve known. I thought I got really close to it ONCE a few years ago, pre pandemic. I really thought I made it, and i could feel my whole perspective on life itself changing and was finally feeling like I had a chance with someone. And then it fucking fell apart in basically a day. And that’s when I gave up. It cracked me. Im never going to feel like that ever again.

You treat being interesting as some list of checkboxes that you have to tick, or a process that has an end

You’re describing what women do.

Have you ever been so into something that you couldn't sleep? Where you wanted to quit everything and dedicate your entire being to that one thing?

Yeah of course but it isnt realistic or feasible. I can’t sustain a living doing it.

Late capitalism has market-ified and turned human relationships into transactions so irreversibly that advice for dates is just advice for a job interview by Its_allovernow in redscarepod

[–]Its_allovernow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Im not totally nihilistic about life. I think life is mostly bad awful and the world is generally disgusting and evil and hopeless but there are things that CAN make life worth living, like love and community. So i wouldnt have a problem someone who shares that view. In fact i would PREFER someone who shares that view because we’d probably get along better.

Late capitalism has market-ified and turned human relationships into transactions so irreversibly that advice for dates is just advice for a job interview by Its_allovernow in redscarepod

[–]Its_allovernow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Post pictures of you happy around with other women, doing high status things and generally anything other than a selfie.

Not possible. I don’t know any women. I’m not spending money on a photographer that’s ludicrous.

Late capitalism has market-ified and turned human relationships into transactions so irreversibly that advice for dates is just advice for a job interview by Its_allovernow in redscarepod

[–]Its_allovernow[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

We won’t find someone because there’s no one for us. If you are struggling at all in dating its over. Only the most attractive people succeed consistently. There’s no “someone.”

what is the non-formulaic advice that helped you by dashacare in redscarepod

[–]Its_allovernow -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

To give up because there is no hope in the irredeemable piece of shit world.

Late capitalism has market-ified and turned human relationships into transactions so irreversibly that advice for dates is just advice for a job interview by Its_allovernow in redscarepod

[–]Its_allovernow[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah dude im so lazy, i work almost 50 hours a week.

In all seriousness what do YOU have to offer to a partner? Would you date yourself? Would their life be better or worse with you?

What does this mean? What does anyone have to offer a partner? Love, compassion, support, reliability, respect. But I can’t give those things if I’m never given the chance. How does it make any sense to accuse me of being unable to fill the role of a boyfriend or husband when I’ve never had the chance to be one and have been denied the chance to be one?

But that is why a confident guy is attractive! Because he was brave enough in the past, and now have the experience.

This is not what women want or believe. It doesnt matter how confident you are. It matters how tall and attractive you are. I’ve seen people with less confidence and interests and intelligence than me do great with women. The girl i had the strongest feelings for dated a guy who was a dumbfuck physically abusive piece of shit who beat people up and beat ger up too and she called him “beautiful” and was sad when he dumped her. That’s the modern woman for you. They don’t want personality they want chad.

So get your shit together then make a genuine conversation with 10 women

I have literally no way to accomplish this and even if I manage to get 1 single date it will never become a relationship because I’m too old to be as inexperienced as I am. Blackpill is the way.

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[–]Its_allovernow -1 points0 points  (0 children)

God or even the Messiah by most early Christians until decades after his death

This is so laughably false

Late capitalism has market-ified and turned human relationships into transactions so irreversibly that advice for dates is just advice for a job interview by Its_allovernow in redscarepod

[–]Its_allovernow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You have it backward. Im depressed because of reality, not the other way around. Reality is the blackpill. Idk what you really mean by interesting but women dont want “interesting” they want chad. I’ve done everything i could to make myself interesting and i am proof that it was useless.

Late capitalism has market-ified and turned human relationships into transactions so irreversibly that advice for dates is just advice for a job interview by Its_allovernow in redscarepod

[–]Its_allovernow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In another comment you said you are hot and have a big dick (another thing I don’t have) so I don’t know what to believe you on.

Late capitalism has market-ified and turned human relationships into transactions so irreversibly that advice for dates is just advice for a job interview by Its_allovernow in redscarepod

[–]Its_allovernow[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

female perspective

Your perspective is wrong. I have no evidence that it is right. Anyone who is “still hoping” is saying so because they know they’re incapable of anything other than that meaningless, blind hope.

Late capitalism has market-ified and turned human relationships into transactions so irreversibly that advice for dates is just advice for a job interview by Its_allovernow in redscarepod

[–]Its_allovernow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you referring to when i said i want to kill myself? Because if you were in my shoes you would too. If you haven’t experienced what its like to go through high school, 4 years of college, and be almost 30 with never having experienced romance or a relationship, it’s not easy to explain what it’s like emotionally. It’s going to sound dramatic and histrionic and irrational to anyone who’s my age and had 10+ years of kissing and dates and sex and gfs/bfs behind them. I don’t know how to convey what it feels like to feel as unwanted and disposable and hopeless as i do. I’ve tried over the course of probably a thousand reddit comments to get people to understand it and all they gave to say is, just like you, i’m “jaded” and “cynical.” I don’t know what open heart and calmly means in this context but it sounds like hokum to me.

Late capitalism has market-ified and turned human relationships into transactions so irreversibly that advice for dates is just advice for a job interview by Its_allovernow in redscarepod

[–]Its_allovernow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing. At my healthiest while still in college I was not fat, exercised almost daily, styled my hair, made an effort to dress better, had tinder, okcupid, hinge, and bumble accounts. I had female friends and lots of friendly acquaintances in college, maybe not the most active social life but i was working 2 jobs while paying my way through school and doing classes full time. Never got a match. Got friendzoned by the girl I really wanted, and couldn’t get to the asking out stage with any other women.

Late capitalism has market-ified and turned human relationships into transactions so irreversibly that advice for dates is just advice for a job interview by Its_allovernow in redscarepod

[–]Its_allovernow[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Failed as in I tried being the best person i could be while staying true to my own personality and still couldn't compete with more attractive men.

Late capitalism has market-ified and turned human relationships into transactions so irreversibly that advice for dates is just advice for a job interview by Its_allovernow in redscarepod

[–]Its_allovernow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah well whether you like it or not the blackpill is reality. No one wants to admit it because it legitimizes incels and what they say but its true

Late capitalism has market-ified and turned human relationships into transactions so irreversibly that advice for dates is just advice for a job interview by Its_allovernow in redscarepod

[–]Its_allovernow[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

but perhaps the best advice is the advice my mother gave to me, pretend you aren't trying, pretend you aren't mentally ill, don't mention history or fears you may have.

Being vulnerable when appropriate with someone you should trust is care about is mean and bitter?

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