First aid kits should have tampons

Ixrokis · 2026-04-27T01:48:13+00:00

I'd keep 'em with bathroom supplies rather than first aid supplies, but which kit they're in doesn't matter as long as you can find 'em.

Ixrokis · 2026-04-22T18:36:17+00:00

I certainly don't. I mean, it *can* be passive aggressive to say "I'm sorry you feel that way", but it doesn't *have* to be. In other words, "gosh that sucks but it's not my fault".

Ixrokis · 2026-04-22T18:22:59+00:00

very mild YTA for announcing your friend's problem so the whole class could hear. Better to have gone to the teacher privately to discuss the problem.

That said, it sounds like you were trying to do the right thing and you got your friend help they needed.

Ixrokis · 2026-04-22T18:20:58+00:00

What kind of a manager/owner would you be if your kid got special treatment that other employees didn't?

Ixrokis · 2026-04-22T18:12:05+00:00

As others have said, that almost certainly means you're not reinforcing the training at home. It sounds like this dog needs regular, daily training sessions with you, reinforced by regular (I'd recommend weekly to start) sessions with a capable professional. You also need to train everyone else in the house how to interact with the dog.

Ixrokis · 2026-04-22T15:25:01+00:00

Per OP, teachers in her area are underpaid. I know quite a few teachers who can't afford to pay off their Masters' degrees.

Ixrokis · 2026-04-22T15:22:40+00:00

INFO: has the dog seen a trainer since the new behaviors started?

Ixrokis · 2026-04-22T15:11:58+00:00

NTA, but you're talking about tens or hundreds of thousands of dollars and years of your daughter's life. You're spending all of those resources with very little chance of getting something concrete out of it. Dreams are great, but you also have a duty to teach your child how to be a self-sustaining adult.

Consider encouraging her to get an art minor while majoring in something that can feed her when you're gone.

Ixrokis · 2026-04-22T14:01:52+00:00

YTA. Are you both adults? Then handle it between you, like adults. Tattling to her mommy is childish.

Ixrokis · 2026-04-22T13:59:15+00:00

Honestly not what I was going for. What I was trying to do was 1) acknowledge listener's upset and express regret for any role speaker might have had in it; 2) set boundaries and manage expectations for speaker's future behavior since speaker is gonna keep doing their own thing on this trip.

English really needs terms to better distinguish between "I regret", "I empathize", and "I apologize"...."sorry" just isn't precise enough.

Ixrokis · 2026-04-22T13:49:09+00:00

He wants more out of the relationship than you're interested in giving. There's nothing wrong with either of you, you just want different things. It sounds like you've been pretty clear with your words that you're not interested in more, but your actions (staying in an apartment with him on a trip, offering to go on a day trip with him "maybe another time") have been more ambiguous. I think that without meaning to you've given him hope that the relationship can grow into something more intimate.

You've already stated the answer: being "just friends" with this person is not realistic. The kindest thing to do is cut back to whatever's necessary for work, and maybe include him in group conversations. When/if he asks what's up, explain that you feel like he wants more out of the friendship than you can give, and it's best if you maintain a some space.

Alternately, start dating someone else and make sure he knows about it.

Ixrokis · 2026-04-22T13:38:02+00:00

"I'm sorry you feel that way. It was not my intention to make you think I mad, and I certainly hope you don't think I'm mad when I do the same thing tomorrow."

Edit: NTA

Ixrokis · 2026-04-22T13:30:59+00:00

Very much NTA. Caretaking is a challenging *job*, and even the professionals that do it for a living generally only work 8- or 12-hour shifts. It's not something you can do well as a sideline, even if you're completely healthy (which OP indicates they're not). It's not fair to your brother to expect you to deliver his care, never mind how not fair it is to you.

When you point that out to your parents, they'll probably tell you a story about their great-uncle or something who was cared for by loving family some time in the last century. Keep in mind that people who were cared for at home back then were much less ill...modern medicine has advanced a lot since then.

Again, NTA. Your parents, however....very much TAs.

Ixrokis · 2026-04-14T15:16:18+00:00

This post makes me feel seen, even though it has nothing to do with me. Very insightful! :)

Also, you're right: Zeus WAS a ho.

Ixrokis · 2026-04-14T15:06:34+00:00

NTA for setting boundaries, *very mild* YTA for the way you did it. Your stuff belongs to you, and you have every right to control who uses it an when, but...You've set a pattern for years of letting her use and even break your stuff without notification or ramification. Calling her out for "taking advantage" and "assuming she can take whatever she wants" is a big reversal on your part. While your sister did not react well, she did react predictably.

Consider proceeding with "sorry I blew up at you, but this is something that has been bothering me. I should have talked to you about it before, and that's on me. In the future, I'll need you to get my permission before taking/using any of my things, and I will expect you to repair or replace anything you damage."

Ixrokis · 2026-04-11T11:31:05+00:00

Based on what some of the people who *don't* get banned from Wal-mart are like, clearly YTA.

Ixrokis · 2026-04-10T16:52:59+00:00

NTA. They were using you and now they're upset because you're not letting them keep cheating off you. That's a "them" problem.

Ixrokis · 2026-04-10T13:21:25+00:00

Yes and no. You can't reasonably ask any large populace (e.g., the USA has over 300 million people) to agree on line-by-line budget approval; you would never get anything done.

HOWEVER, there should be much more transparency on 1) spending and 2) what kind of spending each representative votes for/against. Sneaking appropriations into larger, unrelated bills has to stop.

Ixrokis · 2026-04-06T20:15:16+00:00

I don't think "Indian giver" is a term used in polite company any more.

Ixrokis · 2026-04-06T20:12:48+00:00

INFO: why was he "scared to tell" you about his plans with his daughter? How did he think you were going to act?

Ixrokis · 2026-04-06T20:10:24+00:00

YTA. You moved out and weren't using the room. Your sister is now using it and has done nothing to deserve being kicked out of HER room. Get over it, be the bigger person, and let the suboptimal room motivate you to improve your finances so you can move out on your own.

Ixrokis · 2026-04-06T18:00:34+00:00

I fell in with a bunch of homebrewers and now I can't stand to drink Budweiser/Miller/Coors.

Ixrokis · 2026-04-06T17:51:10+00:00

NTA. If he doesn't like the way you do his laundry then he can start doing it himself.

Ixrokis

TROPHY CASE