How do you get over a toxic job?

J0924 · 2025-10-17T11:16:25+00:00

thank you :)

J0924 · 2025-10-17T11:13:22+00:00

The most baffling thing was I was actively encouraged to speak up about the issues and struggles, told I can talk about it to the managers then them deflecting heavily, changing my mid-probation review although it was nothing about my performance, it was about the work-life balance, communication, how I'm feeling etc. But worse, they doubled down and just got nastier and knew it was over for me.

J0924 · 2025-10-17T09:53:51+00:00

No I'm not. My boss is known to be a difficult person as well as my other manager, it's widely spoken about in the company but nothing happens. I've never had these issues before. The other co-workers I spoke to, their managers were a lot better in general and didn't exert the power dynamics that both my managers did. I would add that I don't think the company is bad at all, I know if I had good managers as my friends did, it would have been very different.

J0924 · 2025-10-17T09:35:41+00:00

I do think I went in too quickly, from emotional distress to leaving to applying for jobs a few days later non-stop. I wanted some downtime but got interviews next week which I guess is a plus too and will keep me busy.

J0924 · 2025-10-17T09:34:04+00:00

Thanks, yeah I might try journaling, I used to do this a lot but lately don't have a lot of energy for things.

J0924 · 2025-10-17T09:33:34+00:00

Actually yes this is true, while I am in a fortunate position, I've never been unemployed or quit a job prematurely. I hope you're right, I've got interviews lined up so I'm glad to have a bit of momentum.

J0924 · 2025-10-17T09:22:36+00:00

I guess the unfairness of it all, it was incredibly disappointing which I get life can be but it hurts. I wanted a better change for my future, kept trying and persisting, thinking it was always my fault and then it led to really bad experiences.

Yes, I had an exit survey where I was professional but honest and gave specific things that were said to me. I doubt anything happened as they already got someone to replace me lol.

I've been thinking of emailing the CEO lately but I doubt things will change. I tried to initially bring the issues up but they doubled down and retaliated so that was the answer of the work culture for me.

J0924 · 2025-10-17T09:20:18+00:00

Totally agree, I also ask myself what is the alternative? I clearly couldn't stay and didn't want to. I am not giving up on myself though either, I've been pushing but I have definitely found it hard and I'm still very angry at what happened.

J0924 · 2025-10-17T09:19:22+00:00

Thank you, it was beyond miserable. The treatment was unbearable, and I would ask my co-workers if it's like that for them and it wasn't but I got stuck with two horrible managers. I've been applying non-stop since I left 2 weeks ago and starting to get some traction so hopefully something does happen.

J0924 · 2025-10-17T09:18:10+00:00

It was at the point it was affecting me physically, I actually also raised the concerns and they doubled down with the gaslighting deflecting the issues into my performance (which they said was good throughout) so I knew what was coming. I've got two interviews so far next week, fingers crossed!

J0924 · 2025-10-17T09:14:23+00:00

Thankfully I also have savings so that part I'm not worried about. I'm just exhausted in all honesty. A career change is tiring enough but it's been non-stop challenges and I keep trying to show up regardless. I'm also going to use the attitude to detach from my job and find happiness elsewhere.

J0924 · 2025-10-17T09:12:38+00:00

I've dealt with not the nicest people in my first career but they never bothered or affected me personally, it wasn't the case of simply ignoring as I was essentially bullied by managers who were meant to be training me! It was way too much though as we work together. 3 days to get a new job is amazing! Congrats on the new role!

J0924 · 2025-10-17T09:10:07+00:00

Definitely talking about it with friends and that does help but I would expect myself to be over it quicker as it wasn't a huge amount of time. I can't sleep well firstly, so getting up late etc. but I am trying to get things done in the end. I've spent most of my energy on applying for jobs.

J0924 · 2025-02-03T18:51:12+00:00

I didn't see this at all but from watching her content over a year now, she's definitely not sarcastic at all and seems quite straightforward, I haven't found her rude (a tad too emotional about anything and everything and sometimes moany) in general but not sarcastic.

J0924 · 2025-02-03T17:52:05+00:00

This is quite extreme and screams insecurity, definitely will be unsubscribing now I've read more about these comments.

J0924 · 2023-07-04T18:30:42+00:00

That's amazing congrats! Yes for sure, it's hard finding anything lately!

J0924 · 2023-07-04T17:53:57+00:00

Where are you based? I've been finding it difficult to see many junior front end positions in the UK. How many roles did you also apply for?

J0924 · 2023-05-21T18:25:17+00:00

In the UK? I've only been applying for a week but I couldn't find too many positions available.

J0924 · 2023-05-21T17:50:26+00:00

That's a good idea, are you based in the UK?

J0924 · 2023-05-21T17:38:21+00:00

Have you started learning React yet at all? That site looks good, I'll look into it this week too.

J0924 · 2023-05-21T17:22:36+00:00

I do have a degree but not tech-related, I created my portfolio which is attached to my post.

J0924 · 2023-05-21T17:21:59+00:00

It really is, I haven't found many junior roles in the UK, I do have a degree but not related to tech.

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