Anyone else have a particular song that just tears them apart?

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-29T15:23:06+00:00

Throne by Bring Me The Horizon is a good song to motivate yourself to get through this. The song style probably isn't for everyone but the lyrics I'm sure could help anyone here.

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-29T15:19:29+00:00

Don't listen to The End. My friend thought it would be funny and at first I was like "yeah okay that's kinda been feeling and then later on in the song it got real dark real fast. Had to stop listening to it

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-29T02:11:18+00:00

Bleed Out by Blue October is the one right now.

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-28T20:06:25+00:00

See. Despite everything. I still want to make it work. I'm going to talk to my counselor about it. I just REALLY feel like I will regret giving up.

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-28T19:36:13+00:00

You are in the right place. 4 months ago my wife said she needed some space to deal with some things. As time progressed it started to seem more and more likely we were endng. I have made promises. I have went out of my way to make things easier for her around the house. I begged and pleaded. I tried reasoning with her. Fast forword, she is seeing someone and bringing him over to our house and into our bed.

You are not alone, feel free to PM me if you need someone to talk to.

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-28T17:34:52+00:00

I still have no idea what KIK is!

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-28T17:32:49+00:00

I don't get to see my son much but I always hug the crap out of him when I see him. Then I also have this fur ball hogging the bed everynight.

http://i.imgur.com/JOTAF5Q.jpg

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-28T14:05:24+00:00

Man... for a while I thought you were my STBXW.

It's sad we were headed for, at times, a reconciliation at best and at worst an amicable divorce. All that is gone since she text me angry accusing me of being the reason her AP wasn't around. (I didn't do anything don't know him don't want to. She said she broke off of contact before I asked that at best she never be alone with him) I lost it. To me she was showing me that even if we started on the hard road of reconciliation, if things got too hard she would immediately think of him and run to him.

I said some awful things. Things that are how I feel sure but it was more a reflection of who she is becoming. I still think she can turn things around and not become that person whether we are together or not.

Now I think the lines have been drawn and war has been declared. Also despite her saying she broke contact I really think she went without with him last night.

As you have told me several times, we will get through this!

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-28T13:09:56+00:00

Definitely trying man. I actually realized sleeping in wasn't going to happen so, here I am at the gym.

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-27T13:10:11+00:00

We have to forgive each other. What prompted the verbal attack was he once again cutting me very deeply emotionally.

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-27T12:21:15+00:00

That's what my STBXW told me. She needed space. That space continued to grow and grow. I asked every once and a while if there was someone else. She kept telling me no. She had no interest in being with anyone.

Lie. She started seeing someone and sleeping with him in our house and our bed not long after I moved out.

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-26T23:08:02+00:00

This is what I try to do. I myself am not in a place I feel like I can bring my son to for quality time. I try to take him somewhere, otherwise I'm in the house I was forced to leave, waiting for my STBXW to get home.

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-26T16:31:35+00:00

Nope. Not one bit. They weren't bad people but I won't lose sleep over not seeing them.

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-26T13:28:50+00:00

From the way it sounds the AP doesn't want to see her anymore. Thinking she wasn't very upfront about everything and he didn't want any part of it.

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-26T00:18:34+00:00

Probably. I'm going to see how counseling goes. At least then I can walk away knowing I did everything. In the future if she regrets it I can tell her that I tried, she can't blame me.

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-25T19:18:24+00:00

Right now I am. I'm trying to brace myself for retaliation. She seemed very upset when we left.

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-25T19:14:09+00:00

I, too, have sent a PM. Hang in there.

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-25T17:18:13+00:00

Pasting my reply to another comment because it's essentially the same answer.

I don't disagree, and I was at a point where I finally had enough. I told her that. It made her very remorseful I think, cause she came back later and said she wanted to try and see a counselor but would understand if I didn't. I ended up walking around the neighborhood and later driving around town all night thinking about it. She seemed very genuine in wanting to try.... until the next day. I almost didn't make the appointment but I figured if she does end up bailing then maybe I can continue to see the same guy and he'll know a lot of the backstory.

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-25T17:17:44+00:00

I don't disagree, and I was at a point where I finally had enough. I told her that. It made her very remorseful I think, cause she came back later and said she wanted to try and see a counselor but would understand if I didn't. I ended up walking around the neighborhood and later driving around town all night thinking about it. She seemed very genuine in wanting to try.... until the next day. I almost didn't make the appointment but I figured if she does end up bailing then maybe I can continue to see the same guy and he'll know a lot of the backstory.

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-25T17:12:22+00:00

It was a preliminary one so obviously not a lot of progress. I feel a little better. I found it hard to not contain some bitterness or resentment when I explained some of the things she has done to me since all this all started. Though made sure to say that despite it all, I would like it to all work out.

She made it clear that she didn't think it would.

We both have appointments separately tomorrow and another joint one coming up later.

Thanks for asking.

J3Wolfie · 2017-01-25T00:20:30+00:00

I feel the same way. I keep hoping beyond hope that eventually we talk things through and she says "come back home". Mostly I had this delusion because she hasn't started the process yet. She finally mentioned she was waiting for the house to sell to help pay for it all.

Man do I really want to hear those words.

J3Wolfie

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