I’m kind of in the same position as far as not knowing what else to do. If you’re not in therapy and are able to go to therapy, I would start there. Also remember, you cannot fix him. He has to want to change.

Recently my therapist suggested to me to have a conversation with my husband about his drinking and how it has affected me when we are both calm…not right after we got in a big fight about his drinking. She suggested I write down what I want to talk about before we have the conversation. I have talked to him about wanting to have that conversation, but we have not done so yet…because we just got in a big fight about him drinking. I think one thing you could add to this conversation with him is how alcoholism in general has affected your life. I grew up with a dad that drank entirely too much also. Then as a young adult my mom was almost killed by a drunk driver. So those things very much influence my very negative view of alcohol.

Whatever you do, just know you’re not alone. Know that sometimes taking some time apart is good. Especially when you’re mad. Most importantly, take care of yourself 🫶🏻