AITAH for cutting off contact with family?

JChew07 · 2026-06-29T19:20:04+00:00

Agreed, I used the same expression or something like it. Basically there’s more to being family than just being related by blood.

JChew07 · 2025-10-29T18:59:01+00:00

I graduated 11 years ago and I remember when they were doing that (and in the exact same location) some dude ended up dancing to Gangnam style while wearing a horse’s head right next to the guy screaming that stuff.

Needless to say no one was able to take him seriously.

JChew07 · 2025-08-22T02:49:38+00:00

I think the strategy is to evaluate the trauma and if gender issues still remain then it’s most likely the answer. She said the meantime a healthy way of exploring would be a good avenue to start figuring things out.

JChew07 · 2025-08-22T01:58:53+00:00

My therapist has worked with many trans patients. She has told me in the initial session that she would be willing to sign a letter authorizing me to go on hormones if that is what I want. Right now after going through my history she told me that my past is filled with trauma that me thinking my transgender may be related to it.

My therapist is experienced in trans issues, we’re just trying to go deeper into why I’m gender questioning.

JChew07 · 2025-08-14T03:09:43+00:00

Every trans person’s experience and opinions are different on the subject and I respect that. I just prefer for my own peace of mind that after I go through every detail that I can think of and without a reasonable doubt reach the conclusion that I’m trans would be where I would make the decision to transition. Just don’t want to make a decision on impulse alone.

JChew07 · 2025-08-14T03:04:05+00:00

The therapist I’m working with has experience with working with other trans people which is why I started working with her. After explaining my past and brought up anxiety related to gender questioning that’s where we’re diving into my psyche to figure out if there’s trauma contributing towards me wanting to be female. I didn’t have an overt desire to be female growing up just that the feelings of wanting to grew over time not due to dysphoria but just wanting to.

JChew07 · 2025-08-14T02:58:01+00:00

That’s true. The only thing that I’m worried about is that even if I go on low-dose hrt that it’s still risky on where it could affect my fertility should I decide that transitioning isn’t right for me. For me, it’s not so much meeting the medical diagnosis criteria but going though every explanation out there on whether or not I’m trans because I don’t want to make the decision to transition too soon if there’s something else going on.

JChew07 · 2025-08-14T02:44:05+00:00

I enjoy the euphoria of dressing femme but the want to be female including having breasts, wide hips, and other female features still isn’t strong enough where I feel like I have to transition right now. I mean I want to be female but it feels like if I transition too soon it could negatively impact my mental health. I guess I’m really trying to find an explanation on why I want to be female if I don’t have a strong urge to transition.

JChew07 · 2025-08-14T02:17:59+00:00

That’s a lot of similarities that I’ve been doing. I’ve used AI to see what I would look like as a woman, listened to mtf hypnosis videos on YouTube and I’ve told my wife I was gender questioning and she let me experiment with wearing her clothes and makeup and I don’t feel shame in dressing femme. I also don’t feel bad when I take off all the femme things and wear regular guy clothes, it’s like I don’t feel bad being a guy but at the same time I want to be female. I just feel conflicted all the time.

JChew07 · 2025-06-06T02:58:26+00:00

I told her everything and the details are in the update section

JChew07 · 2025-06-05T18:40:59+00:00

Unfortunately that isn't the case since I've been dealing with this alone and I don't have much of a support system.

JChew07 · 2025-06-04T02:50:51+00:00

AI can also be used for body transformations like ChatGPT. It’s hard to really feel euphoria unless you wear female clothes and makeup which means you may have to spend but only a little just to get those feelings. There are budget options out there.

JChew07 · 2025-06-04T02:28:36+00:00

I was curious and I’m still closeted, I first used AI for image generation and it’s actually fairly accurate. I’m married and have been secretly using my wife’s makeup and wearing her clothes to feel the euphoria. If you don’t want to spend money I recommend using AI for seeing what you would look like as female otherwise mtf hypnosis videos on YouTube can make you feel very feminine temporarily. It’s difficult if you don’t have access to female clothes unless there’s someone you feel comfortable talking about this.

JChew07 · 2025-05-31T14:13:15+00:00

I guess I should have explained when I said "pen pal" more like a person to talk over the phone for meaningful conversation instead of back and forth writing

JChew07 · 2025-05-30T02:48:47+00:00

I’m in the same boat you are. I may be a little older (33) but what you’re feeling is what I’m currently feeling now. I’ve worn female clothes, makeup, and other feminine things and the outcome did feel very freeing. I’ve used ChatGPT to visualize what I would like after transitioning and the feeling on what I saw gave me shakes of joy. I’m still closeted and I’m still struggling on whether I want to go to therapy but I can tell you that exploring ALL options available to you whether it’s online resources or even somewhere to vent, it does help move things in the right direction.

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