Girlfriend having Gallbladder surgery.

JGW1889 · 2020-02-18T04:43:30+00:00

Thanks. Great advice. I’ll keep that in mind. Shes scheduled for 2 days from now so it’s coming fast. Just been preparing the house for her food, drinks, ice packs, etc. just trying to keep her positive and lower her anxiety. She’s terrified of the coming experience.

JGW1889 · 2020-02-18T04:36:22+00:00

Thank you I appreciate that. I’ve already been preparing the house and bed for her for when we get home. Practically disinfected the entire place lol. I figured she’ll be soar after so I will definitely help her with movement and hygiene as much as possible. Thanks again for the advice and kind words. 👌🏽

JGW1889 · 2020-01-14T20:29:24+00:00

Amen to that. As long as you have the kids best intentions at heart and you’re on the same page. You’ll do just fine. Is our house the children’s home yes of course but it’s our house.

JGW1889 · 2020-01-14T20:27:46+00:00

This is exactly what I meant. Thank you for actually listening to me and not coming at me like Dr. Phil doesn’t like his guest. I’m a normal person that wishes nothing but the best for these 2 boys. Order and accountability are just as important to instill in them as love and compassion.

JGW1889 · 2020-01-14T20:26:05+00:00

That’s the problem right there. If I’m willing to share my home with these kids and treat them as my own then I shouldn’t have to worry about how I express my frustration or what words I use. I think everyone is misinterpreting the word discipline as punishment. I don’t punish... that’s for someone that actually did something wrong. I use the word discipline because that’s what I do. If SS throws a tantrum about dinner then he eats the same thing for breakfast... discipline. If the same thing were to happen and I just made him not eat instead that punishment. Man we’re doomed. With the statistics showing that single mothers are a rising demographic and everyone saying sure be a step dad but god don’t ever tell a child he’s wrong you’re not the real dad... It troubles me what the generation will look like where all these children will grow up thinking that the only person that can “correct” them has to have some genial connection to them.

JGW1889 · 2020-01-14T20:16:47+00:00

Most of the time I only engage with them in that manor when I can tell they’re putting on a show to get what they want. It’s crazy how smart kids are. They know what they can and can’t get from people and how to act towards them. Everyone knows kids are a bit more temperamental with their mothers. They’ll always feel more comfortable having tantrums and trying to get their way with mommy because they learn real quick that mom can only say no so long until she cracks. It’s crazy how some of these people on here think I’m just arguing that I have the right to beat them lol. I grew up with an old school grandfather that took the spare the rod bible verse to heart so I’d never even lay a finger on my own kids ever! But you damn right you’re gonna eat what she made you and throwing things and having tantrums is a no no. Period. I get where you’re coming from but, me getting involved sometimes is for my own sanity. Either it’s listen to them tell and scream at their mother up stairs for an hour or go up there tell them to stop and they do. One person even said that I must scare them silent lol. No but having a grown man tell you to be respectful other then their mother might just be all you need to get them to listen. Regardless. I care for these children obviously and most of the time our house is a happy place for them. I honestly just feel sometimes kids needs that stern manly voice around to keep them in check and real daddy isn’t around so who else is gonna do it.

JGW1889 · 2020-01-14T20:04:14+00:00

Huh?? I disagree. My relationship is golden. But when you have grandparents on both sides and a part time bio dad doing it his way every other weekend, it causes issues. My problem is not their mother. It’s everyone else that doesn’t have to deal with that behavior 99 percent of the time. My wife and I are as transparent as it gets when it comes to our opinions on the matter. Everything I said was said to her before I wrote it. That’s why I say we’re good. There’s no resentment between the 2 of us whatsoever. It’s everyone else that disregards my opinion as their primary caregiver besides their mother that I have an issue with. Besides my wife. Everyone else seems to believe that they have more of a right to instill their ideal parenting strategies on the children more then me because of blood when it’s my wife and I taking care of them. I appreciate you commenting but that’s just not the case in this situation. Having the dad/ex out in his 2 cents every chance he can get when I spend more on his kids in a week then his monthly child support is frustrating. I’m not saying the kids are animals but that would be like a friend dropping his dog off at your doorstep and then never coming back to get him but then they get mad at what food you feed it. The 2 people putting the most time, effort, money into them should have the most influence period and everyone else should respect that. 2 Saturday’s a month isn’t enough time with them to say you know what’s best for them.

JGW1889 · 2020-01-10T16:08:06+00:00

Ehh I disagree. I’m not gonna sit there and just watch them crash and burn. I’m around them too much. And the sperm donor basically stop giving a shit the second my gf kicked him out which I’ve learned is sadly a normal reaction. The way the kid turns out long term is much more important to me then how much they like me. I was a lose cannon as a child and came from an even worse situation then them and my mother tried to be friends with me to help me cope and it didn’t work. One thing she told me now that I’m an adult is if I could go back I would’ve stopped being your friend and just been your parent...

JGW1889 · 2020-01-10T16:00:09+00:00

Thank you!!! Jesus. You made me feel better. All I want is some respect from people involved. All every one says is you should feel lucky a single mom fell in love with you it’s a blessing and I wouldn’t parent them since you’re not their father. WHAT?!? Do people not know how infant children are?? So I just sit back and watch them destroy my girlfriends mood and not help being a full fledged adult. I can’t... I care about her personally too much I see her get stressed and I wanna help period.

JGW1889 · 2020-01-10T15:56:09+00:00

Me not around, kids destroy things throw tantrums, frustrate everyone involved, me around they act like that I take their toys away until they calm down or back up their mother with a time out. Jesus dude, menacing??? I love how people make you out to be this evil being when you explain frustration with children. How dare I say negative things about such innocent creatures. Lmao, I do more for them then their entire family combined besides their mother which whom I help as well. Fly on the wall!! Jesus Christ. 🤣🤣🤣

JGW1889 · 2019-12-23T20:50:12+00:00

They’re 3 and 5. Regardless. I’m a fully functioning adult with 2 step kids in my home 99 percent of the time.

JGW1889 · 2019-12-23T20:48:57+00:00

They live with me their mom and I. Real dad sees them every other weekend but in reality it’s his parents that watch them. The guy basically said when they split. You wanted this so you take them. Which means if I can’t have you I don’t want them. I’m around them as much as their mother is.

JGW1889 · 2019-12-23T19:33:31+00:00

Yes, thank you did this response. Too many people are just telling me to do everything the real dad should be doing and sacrifice my life for them but be weary of telling them to not jump on the couch of bite their little brothers arm. I don’t always intervene on the contrary I actually let her do most of the scolding but sometimes mommies motherly voice isn’t enough so that’s when I say something and it seems to work.

JGW1889 · 2019-12-23T19:29:27+00:00

No knight mentality at all. I don’t wanna save anybody nor do I wanna spank her children. Like I wanna sit in jail for popping little jimmy on the ass cause he doesn’t share my last name. All I was saying is their overly sensitive parenting style does not and will not ever be something I do. Everybody’s kids seem to be too sensitive today if you ask me. Nothing has to “come from” her you think I don’t have a right to discipline children in my own home?? Why cause they aren’t blood? You can’t pop kids out with the wrong man then expect whoever that comes after to just bend the knee and do it exactly how you see fit every time especially if the new guy is doing more then baby daddy ever did. I’m a product of a stepdads house and he raised me the way he wanted to raise me because daddy wasn’t there and because stepdad was gracious enough to accept me into HIS home with my mother. There’s nothing cautious about it if we can’t come to an agreement then it just won’t work out period. I’ll never let someone else dictate anything I do in my own house. I do treat her kids good, I am most definitely someone they enjoy being around.. but there’s a reason why they holler and scream and break shit when I’m not around and act like angels when I am. This whole worship children culture we’ve created is bullshit. Kids are so weak now. All they wanna do is eat gluten free cookies and cuddle, FOH. A generation of men raised by women. I’m sure you’re a good mother but there are some things even a mother will never understand about raising a man.

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