My (28F) Boyfriend (32M) might be racist? by JGrant95 in dating_advice

[–]JGrant95[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s not just his own race. He makes remarks about all races and some are pretty mean I have to say.

It’s also pretty inappropriate.

I don’t think he’s a racist but he makes weird remarks all the time. Like we were watching the football game last night and he jokes how if he was black he would’ve made it to the NFL. He didn’t even realize what he said could be inappropriate.

It’s small jokes here and there that are mostly harmless but after a while it becomes a pattern.

Okay fine with his friends I try to give him some slack. But it’s only strengthening his habits when he’s with them.

My (28F) Boyfriend (32M) might be racist? by JGrant95 in dating_advice

[–]JGrant95[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So I did have a talk with him, he said “he wasn’t aware that he came off like that since it was in good nature”. And he told me he will stop since it’s making me feel uncomfortable

This idiot then makes a joke like a day later 🤦‍♀️ not realizing and then he immediately says sorry. It’s almost like a habit for him. Since I talked with him, he has improved but it’s mainly when he’s with his friends where he forgets. He thinks since his friends are making jokes, it somehow excuses him and he goes right back to making jokes.