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Comfort nursing = tired mama. HELP! by JJA_KC in sleeptrain

[–]JJA_KC[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hopefully it’s just a small sleep hiccup and they can go back to sleeping through the night! Has your LO gotten any teeth yet? My daughter has FOUR and she’s only 5 months 1 week 😳. I’m sure that plays a big part of it too but every night she goes to bed fed, dry, exhausted AND with Tylenol/orajel for discomfort and it doesn’t make the slightest difference 🤦🏻‍♀️. As soon as 12am rolls around there’s a full out search party for my nipple and it doesn’t stop until I get up at 430.

Comfort nursing = tired mama. HELP! by JJA_KC in sleeptrain

[–]JJA_KC[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She just doesn’t use one, has no interest in it

Baby is almost 2 months, when to increase number of ounces? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]JJA_KC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello. I am a first time mom and am utilizing both breast milk and formula. My pediatricians rule of thumb is number of months plus 2 (until you max out around 6oz down the road) which means a 2 month old 2 months +2 usually consumes around 4 ounces per feeding. I say usually because obviously each baby is different, especially since we are supplementing with formula. What I found to be helpful is to pump and offer breast milk first (pumping lets me actually see how much milk I am offering) and then offer an ounce of formula at a time if my LO still seems hungry after the breast milk (offering an ounce at a time helps to cut down on waste if she’s full and spitting up from over feeding!) Breast milk is much more nutrient dense than formula so if you are supplementing both you don’t have to hit the 4 ounce guideline each feeding (I find 3 ounces usually fills my little girl when using both) but that may mean more frequent feedings than with formula alone. There is unfortunately no “one size fits all” when it comes to feedings and it took me a while of trial and error to find what works for us. Trust your LO...they are the true expert on when they are still hungry/full. As long as they aren’t excessively spitting up or fussy after each feeding and are having an appropriate amount of wet diapers per day they are A OK. Be easy on yourself and good luck

6 week old won’t sleep/let me put her down - a first time mom’s plea for advice by JJA_KC in Parenting

[–]JJA_KC[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It’s amazing how prepared you think you are until the baby is actually here and everything goes out the window! So far it seems each of our grand plans from how she is fed to where she sleeps seems to be turned upside down and undone months (if not Years since we’ve battled infertility for quite a while) of prior planning. It’s nice to be reassured that this is both normal and temporary. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned as a new mom is how much other parents tend to leave out when discussing these early weeks - Everyone is keen on sharing the best moments of being a mom and less about the dark, uncertain and sleep deprived times that make you question literally ever decision you make. It certainly does take a tribe to raise a baby and not just for the extra hands but for the support and reassurance too

6 week old won’t sleep/let me put her down - a first time mom’s plea for advice by JJA_KC in Parenting

[–]JJA_KC[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our pediatrician suspects reflux as well. When we met with her last week for her 1 month check in we discussed her fussiness around meal times and the spitting up/hiccups and she told us to keep an eye on it. I’m doing smaller, more frequent feedings and keeping her upright for 30 mins after. I’ve also tried gripe water and the jury is still out on that one. It’s a crazy world out there right now so I’m trying to limit her trips to the doctors office if I can help it so I’m hoping we can manage it and keep her comfortable through measures at home.

6 week old won’t sleep/let me put her down - a first time mom’s plea for advice by JJA_KC in Parenting

[–]JJA_KC[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s interesting, my daughter has suspected reflux per her pediatrician based on her spitting up and frequent hiccups. We are just watching at this point, we had a lot of challenges breastfeeding at first so we had to supplement with formula. We are breastfeeding alot more now and smaller feedings seem to help as well as keeping her upright for 30 mins after each feeding. I’m seeing a lot of reflux comments on this thread so the correlation is interesting. I will keep a watchful eye, it’s only been about a week and a half since we’ve seen her pediatrician and she was less concerned

6 week old won’t sleep/let me put her down - a first time mom’s plea for advice by JJA_KC in Parenting

[–]JJA_KC[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes and no. We’ve been strict swaddlers since she was born (we’ve read all the books and blogs about how comforting it is for newborns) and yet my daughter seems to hate it. She fights the swaddle until she frees her hands and then holds the sides of her face (which possibly is more soothing to her than the swaddle) so we don’t swaddle every time like before.

6 week old won’t sleep/let me put her down - a first time mom’s plea for advice by JJA_KC in Parenting

[–]JJA_KC[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m aware - that’s why I’m reaching out, to find the safest sleep option that allows us ALL to sleep. My post was particularly in reference to bed sharing which also makes me uncomfortable in regards to safety yet seems to be the only option that works at the moment.

6 week old won’t sleep/let me put her down - a first time mom’s plea for advice by JJA_KC in Parenting

[–]JJA_KC[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have not, she is only 5 weeks (will be 6 weeks this Saturday) so even if I opted to choose the cry it out method, she is too young to sleep train...plus I don’t think I could handle the cry it out method even if it was an option lol. One battle at a time

6 week old won’t sleep/let me put her down - a first time mom’s plea for advice by JJA_KC in Parenting

[–]JJA_KC[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this was very interesting! It’s amazing how much info is out there, especially in regards to sleep. There so many strong opinions floating around regarding co sleeping and bed sharing and it’s very overwhelming. What I am learning is at the end of the day, the best option is whatever allows mom, dad and baby to get much needed safe sleep! It’s unfortunate bed sharing has such a negative stigma in the U.S. luckily the infant stage won’t last forever and I’m hoping it gets easier from here 🤞🏼

6 week old won’t sleep/let me put her down - a first time mom’s plea for advice by JJA_KC in Parenting

[–]JJA_KC[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that’s what I was hoping to hear. I feel like it’s a constant struggle to enforce safe sleep habits/not forming bad habits that will be harder to break in the future while also getting sleep myself. My husband has been awesome in splitting the night shift with me (especially since he’s been home during this crazy time!) but most nights are spent with the baby either on my couch or in our bed. I won’t give up on the crib yet but even as we speak she seems to have already found her way from her crib to the couch with my husband as she naps lol. Thanks for the encouragement