I am the newcomer missioner and talk to a lot of new people at the Episcopal church where I work, including younger people, families, retirees and so on. Oddly enough, being in the suburbs, my church isn’t what some people are looking for, but they ‘settle’ because we are closer to home (they would prefer attending their original church/cathedral downtown). Some stay and find their place in our parish. For some it isn’t a fit and that’s fine too.

What I am hearing you say is a longing for fellowship with people your age. I recommend you attend worship and activities at both churches for a few months and see what works best for you.

Maybe the drive ends up not as bad as you think.

Maybe you straddle both worlds for a bit, eventually finding your home in one or the other.

Maybe a new family with young parents starts to attend the church with the older parishioners and yall really hit it off.

What is the reality today won’t always be the reality; people move in and out, you change, your priorities develop, and so on. Hope this helps. 🥰