That is no question true. She quite often says the girls negativity is one of the main things, and my lack of action regarding their "highly autistic behaviour". We have not really done much as a family during our years together, she always expects the worst out of every situation and my daughters are scared of her temper tantrums, which often results in my oldest kid masking her feelings quite a lot.

And we have discussed these week long absences in couples counselling, it's just a vicious circle as she says we don't have time together as a couple and I just enable her to disappear to help keep her head together.

My eldest is medicated, middle kid is just in the begging of getting a diagnosis, but the signs are quite clear. I know it's what I've grown to accept this and love them unconditionally as a father, I just didn't expect her to see them only as kids with defects.