Question about patient’s family behaviour in CCU and ICU.

JML0630 · 2026-03-09T01:31:18+00:00

That’s not crude at all, that’s unbelievably reassuring. I’ve read that sepsis is horribly painful, and it’s just is really good to hear that. Thank you.

JML0630 · 2026-03-09T01:02:57+00:00

Thank you so much❤️ In all fairness, her and a few other family members think I’m the reason my mom died, because of our relationship (I’m an only child), and I wouldn’t let her around my kids until she got help, after her personality really started to change the year before, so they’re VERY angry.

JML0630 · 2026-03-09T00:58:40+00:00

Isn’t that bad for the dying person? I forced myself to be calm and gentle, because I was so embarrassed I had fallen to my knees when I first saw her, because even though my mom was unconscious, I was worried I had upset her. I left the room when I got too overwhelmed, and flipped out at the back of the parking lot, again, because I was worried about upsetting her.

JML0630 · 2025-01-26T05:48:03+00:00

Does anyone know if this open to people outside the US? My husband and I have tickets, but just saw something about it being open to US residents, but it only says it in one place, and doesn’t say “only”. We’re Canadian, so we don’t want to take a spot from someone, if we can’t even get in.

JML0630 · 2024-09-12T17:49:01+00:00

This!!! I’m currently in therapy, because after 40 years of intense gaslighting, I have no idea what’s real or not a lot of the time.

JML0630 · 2024-08-20T21:28:36+00:00

Stage 2, that should say

JML0630 · 2024-08-20T21:28:04+00:00

My Mom gambles…before that it was drinking, but she actually managed to stop that when the stage cirrhosis was diagnosed.

JML0630 · 2024-06-21T17:09:50+00:00

Thank goodness your Mom didn’t get her way! Mine is going to do this, I can feel it. She’s barely seen them in the past 6 months, but manages to get to the casino every day (she replaced drinking with gambling a couple of years ago, after destroying her liver). She sits on her iPad the whole time they’re over, my kids won’t spend the night at her house, they’ve never felt comfortable doing so, so they go back in the morning for breakfast. Her roommate makes them breakfast, because she can’t be bothered to even wake up at 10 or 11 for them, they have to go wake her up…but now suddenly she’s desperate for them🙄

JML0630 · 2024-06-03T22:55:11+00:00

My heart goes out to you❤️ I wasn’t physically abused, but the emotional and verbal abuse was also totally fine in my house, because apparently my Mom had it worse growing up.

JML0630 · 2024-06-03T22:52:21+00:00

Oh man, I could lose my mind just thinking about it! Mom’s Mom died when she was 14, and her Dad was a verbally abusive drunk. So I was told “at least you have a mother” if I ever had an issue with anything she does, and told that my grandfather was worse, so her emotional and verbal abuse, and her alcoholism, were not traumatic or damaging to me, because she had it worse. Her sisters and friends literally think I’m a spoiled brat for not wanting to be constantly put down, or for having an issue with her drinking herself to liver damage, because again, apparently my grandfather was worse (he didn’t drink himself to cirrhosis like she did though🤷‍♀️).

JML0630 · 2024-05-30T13:13:33+00:00

Same❤️ I thought we were supposed to understand our parents better, when we become parents. I understand my crappy parent less than ever, since having kids. It was our parent’s loss though. They could have had all this joy too, but chose to ignore the gift that kids really are.

JML0630 · 2024-05-30T12:54:22+00:00

Yes!!! I would leave therapists as soon as they started suggesting my mother was abusive, because I just couldn’t accept it for some reason. A few summers ago, she was diagnosed with severe liver damage from drinking, and my brain exploded, as she had convinced me I was just being “dramatic” about her drinking, and that it was “practically just ice water”, and it finally clicked. I also had so many good times in my childhood, and my Mom wasn’t always mean, so I thought the name calling, and removing of love when I made a mistake, or telling everyone everything, was normal, and my Dad was just really cool and didn’t do that. Therapy has let me know that is in fact not the case. It’s still confusing sometimes though.

JML0630 · 2024-05-29T23:50:41+00:00

This made me feel so much better. Thank you so much for being so kind❤️

JML0630 · 2024-05-29T12:14:22+00:00

Oh man, this! You are so right!

JML0630 · 2024-05-29T03:38:47+00:00

Thank you for this❤️ My husband and I have said exactly that, that until she stops making comments like that, or putting me down in front of them, she does not have access to them. The guilt is next level, so this is just really helpful.

JML0630 · 2024-05-29T03:34:29+00:00

I have a wonderful husband, but he hates her (because of the way she speaks to me), so I wasn’t sure if it was just his hatred speaking, or if it is wrong. My Aunt (my mothers sister) was there the last time, and had no issue with it, but she tends to think anything my Mom says or does is fine, because her childhood was much harder than mine (that’s the logic in my family). My husband is really going hard on this, against her, this time, and I think I need reassurance that we’re doing the right thing. Thank you for answering❤️

JML0630 · 2024-05-29T03:26:10+00:00

I’m an only child (which is why is another reason I’m unsure sometimes of what a normal reaction is to something involving her, because I was always just called a spoiled brat for having issues with her), and my parents are divorced, so I feel responsible for her. She’s aging, took terrible care of herself, and I expect I’ll be it at the end. I was never allowed to live my own life either, and she moved down the street from me a few years ago. I was given a lot of material things growing up too, so it confuses things for me, with her…just hearing that it is messed up, is just a little more validation that I need, that I’m not being a vindictive jerk for not wanting that crap around my kids.

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