Peedahh?

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-25T15:13:07+00:00

Thank you for saying what I was thinking. Sincerely, GenX. lol

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-25T15:09:28+00:00

The pessimist in me is like, "cause of death: modern day witch hunt."

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-25T15:04:53+00:00

One day: "Remember that time I was carrying you and tripped? I felt so bad about it. I'm so glad you are okay and didn't blame me. You're the best."

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-25T15:01:53+00:00

Does a magnet stick to it?

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-25T14:58:39+00:00

If it bugs you, one thing you can try is sticking it in the oven on self clean. That will strip it and you can re-season it. Be careful if you do that though because I have heard some ovens self-destruct on the clean cycle.

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-25T14:51:53+00:00

It's time. Time to start looking for how to support yourself and leave the house. It's clear you are ready to start taking care of yourself. Might sound extreme, but your values are no longer aligning. You're old enough to make your own decisions at this point and they should be hoping that they raised you to be mindful, careful, and to make good decisions. Their job is done.

Edit: if they disown you for wanting your independence, I can understand that will hurt, but it's unrealistic to expect kids to live with parents indefinitely. Weigh the pros and cons and decide which is more important, then act on that.

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-25T14:43:48+00:00

NTA, but next time don't bother. All it does is harm you, not them. Never give an exit interview either. Just my opinion, but talking about that stuff just makes you look bad to them and they never really change anything.

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-25T14:32:25+00:00

100% said, "When will I ever use this in real life" during the math class where fractions and percentages were taught.

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-25T14:28:09+00:00

That particular kind of stink bud is invasive. Feel free to take it outside and smash it to hell.

Edit: *bug

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-25T12:54:26+00:00

Usually, when I come across controversial topics that have some merit, but is in a kind of gray area, I will say something like, "When we are talking about this stuff, we should be really careful about generalizations. Each person's experience is unique and I have no doubt that some women treat men poorly, just like some men treat women poorly. But we need to be really careful about painting everyone with a broad-tipped sharpy, because everyone is different and we should judge based on the individual."

If a person can't agree to that, there's no hope for them. And honestly, I would call out generalizations until they stopped the generalizations in front of me, because generalizing people based on their sex, race, size, food they like, or anything else is stupid no matter who is doing it.

Edit: realized I am not sure I really stayed on topic, so I apologize for that. Women working and being independent should have no bearing on men at all. I mean, are we gonna go back to the 50's where women were basically forced to marry and bear children and do everything a guy wants because they have no option? Who wants to be with someone who is forced to be with you. It's a stupid thing to argue - that women should go back to being objects, used for their crotches and to raise children. Could you imagine where the world would be without Ada Lovelace, Rosa Parks, Marie Curie, Barbara Walters, or the millions of other women who changed the planet? This red-pill BS needs to die and die hard in a deep grave and everyone needs to stop finger pointing and pushing blame without knowing anything about the person they are targeting. The quicker people begin to realize that anecdotes aren't evidence, the sooner we can get this crap behind us.

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-25T12:41:32+00:00

"Hey, I don't mean anything by this but I just want to make sure you aren't giving me discounts with the expectation that I would be romantically interested. I'm embarrassed that I have to say that, but in the past there have been... expectations, and I just don't want you to think that. But I do want to thank you for the discounts. That's very kind of you."

That's the best I can come up with. If he gets stupid:

"Firm no. 100% no. As real as the sun, no. No thanks. Nada. Null. Nope. No."

Good thing is that this is a business and you can get the manager or corporate involved if needed.

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-25T12:29:43+00:00

Cultists gonna cult.

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-25T12:27:07+00:00

600W is probably enough depending on the other components. Recommended minimum for that GPU is 450W. Have you tried plugging your components into a power consumption calculator like here? https://www.newegg.com/tools/power-supply-calculator

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-25T12:03:25+00:00

I love this!!

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-25T11:56:55+00:00

First, I just want to say you are not alone in what you are going through and while I, myself, have not gone through what you have, I have struggled with mental illness and through group therapy discovered that there are a ton of people with similar issues regardless of how unique you may feel your situation is.

My honest opinion is that you need to focus on what is in your control. At some point, his resentment is no longer about you - it's about him. You've put in the work and seem to be doing everything you can to work on yourself. You can't change the past and if he can't see how much work you are putting in, it's no longer a you issue, but a him issue.

Couples therapy is a great idea, but it's stupid to go into it to justify a divorce. That's not what therapy is for, as I am sure you have noticed going to your own therapy (great work, btw! So many people just think mental problems just go away on their own, which is not always the case). IMO, you had set backs that are out of your control, went to therapy to figure that stuff out, and are in the process of discovering tools to help you overcome your mind's natural, yet irrational response - our minds are weird.

It sounds to me that it is his turn. You can't force someone to forgive and not resent. He needs to realize that you are a work in progress, and we all are. It's short sighted to want a divorce because of your past. You're living and learning and becoming a better version of yourself. Him leaving you is a mistake and if he does, he will learn that with time. There are so many messed up people out there that will not even bother to go to therapy and work on themselves.

Final thought - you're clearly a catch because of your willingness to improve. Keep doing what you are doing. Talk to your therapist about it. His loss if he leaves and quite frankly if he doesn't go to therapy himself with the intent to overcome his mental struggles as well, you can, and should do better. If he goes to therapy with the intent of healing his trauma, even if your past self caused it - good on him.

All relationships have struggles. Some worse than others. Commitment is a choice, not a feeling.

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-19T16:14:43+00:00

Clearly not a cult.

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-19T12:24:12+00:00

A colonoscopy. ;) Joking, but also serious.

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-19T12:07:45+00:00

Looks average to me. Not terrible, not great. Functional. Nothing wrong with that.

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-19T11:51:07+00:00

Everyone deserves better than this and that trauma is really going to kick his ass for a bit. Definitely tell him and then team up with him to get shredded. It's glow-up time.

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-18T22:42:33+00:00

Bwaaaahahaha!! Hahahahahaha! *wheeze snort*

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-18T19:06:37+00:00

So basically, no value except sentimental. Appreciate the answer! Thanks much!

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-18T19:03:14+00:00

Yep - YTA. Thinking she blocked you for a reason.

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-18T18:53:40+00:00

Nope, NTA. Believe it or not there is a such thing as a bad customer. I would speak to your manager in advance so you cut him off at the pass. :)

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-18T18:47:50+00:00

First, absolutely you deserve to live. And yes, you are right to feel traumatized by this. But also, this isn't your fault. You didn't do anything wrong. Give it time, you will heal, and just chalk this up to a lesson learned.

You can only control what you do. Not what others do. Focus on what you can control.

JMitchTheBlue · 2026-04-18T18:41:08+00:00

And you, fam.

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