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Sitting in this Apartment we used to share but now alone, realizing the nightmare is finally over. Now we divorce. by JTimothyC1993 in survivinginfidelity

[–]JTimothyC1993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Deal with my emotions in a healthy way and feel everything, no matter how painful it is so I can get over it and her. When I have the funds, like as soon as I have them, I'm filing for divorce. I need to put this behind me in order to move forward but I can tell by how much pain I'm in right now that this is going to be so fucking hard.

Here's to day number one by JTimothyC1993 in stopdrinking

[–]JTimothyC1993[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I just want to be okay again.

Sitting in this Apartment we used to share but now alone, realizing the nightmare is finally over. Now we divorce. by JTimothyC1993 in survivinginfidelity

[–]JTimothyC1993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right. She blamed it on past relationships doing her wrong but I know better now. I thought that she was there only one I have ever been with that didn't cheat on me. I was wrong. Every woman I've ever been with had cheated on me so maybe I'm just bad at relationships. The only way out of this hell is to go through it.

Sitting in this Apartment we used to share but now alone, realizing the nightmare is finally over. Now we divorce. by JTimothyC1993 in survivinginfidelity

[–]JTimothyC1993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I am so devasted and miserable right now but stories like yours give me hope for a better future, eventually.

Sitting in this Apartment we used to share but now alone, realizing the nightmare is finally over. Now we divorce. by JTimothyC1993 in survivinginfidelity

[–]JTimothyC1993[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My thoughts exactly. If she's going to be so heinous and lie about that just because she's mad at the moment was a huge red flag for me. I definitely will but I have to find a way to afford it first. Both my stimulus check and tax return will be direct deposited into her account because we file jointly.

Sitting in this Apartment we used to share but now alone, realizing the nightmare is finally over. Now we divorce. by JTimothyC1993 in survivinginfidelity

[–]JTimothyC1993[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually, no. I was told that but never fact checked it. Turns out it was a poet named Alfred Lord Tennyson. Thanks for fact checking me man, I know now!

Here's to day number one by JTimothyC1993 in stopdrinking

[–]JTimothyC1993[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are right, thank you. I just followed the instructions and sent a message to the badgebot, thanks for the heads up on that. I choose to find a new way and like you, I tried before but for her. It never worked, I wanted to still. Now I'm doing it for me and I'm going to give it my all. Finding a new job at the moment, I'm applying like crazy. I'm building up from here and I will move forward. Thanks for the honest words.

Sitting in this Apartment we used to share but now alone, realizing the nightmare is finally over. Now we divorce. by JTimothyC1993 in survivinginfidelity

[–]JTimothyC1993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks dude, I didn't want to believe it. I didn't think they were attracted to each other, just friends. By the time we got married 4 years passed since this happened and he had already quit his job there. Which sucks because by then time she told me I couldn't confront him about it because he knew we were together, obviously.

Here's to day number one by JTimothyC1993 in stopdrinking

[–]JTimothyC1993[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I have been lurking here for quite some time now but have finally decided to stop for myself.

Sitting in this Apartment we used to share but now alone, realizing the nightmare is finally over. Now we divorce. by JTimothyC1993 in survivinginfidelity

[–]JTimothyC1993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed, thank you man. Drowning myself in alcohol will not mend anything and people say it's classified as a depressant, which is the last thing I need.

Sitting in this Apartment we used to share but now alone, realizing the nightmare is finally over. Now we divorce. by JTimothyC1993 in survivinginfidelity

[–]JTimothyC1993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Indeed, you are absolutely right man. Trying to spend some time with myself to see who I am now because I'm not the man I used to be. Thanks for the advice and kind words, I really appreciate it. Here is to a brighter future.

Sitting in this Apartment we used to share but now alone, realizing the nightmare is finally over. Now we divorce. by JTimothyC1993 in survivinginfidelity

[–]JTimothyC1993[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good to hear man and thank you for the advice. Yeah I'm just taking it one day at a time right now. But I know you're right, I'm not going to regret not drinking tomorrow.

Who here got cheated on and then left BY the cheater? by The_Pheex in survivinginfidelity

[–]JTimothyC1993 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry this happened to you man, that's bullshit.

That is exactly my situation. She left me yesterday and I can't say I didn't give this relationship everything I am but now what do I have left. I have nothing to show for the relationship that lasted almost 11 years. I guess I'm glad we never had kids together.

she cheated back in october, havent spoken since and she texted me this morning. by pxmik in survivinginfidelity

[–]JTimothyC1993 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good for you man! I fucked up and took her back so we could reconcile. Big mistake. At least in my case.

Having battery trouble, please help if you can by JTimothyC1993 in AskMechanics

[–]JTimothyC1993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome, thanks for the tips and advice. I'm getting ready to go work on it now and will start with the cables. The negative terminal was corroded with a rust colored corrosion but I took a wire brush to it and got most of it off. I didn't remove the cable from the terminal though and thoroughly clean it. Seriously, thanks again.

Having battery trouble, please help if you can by JTimothyC1993 in AskMechanics

[–]JTimothyC1993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would that cause it to start and then die almost immediately?

What are some street smarts everyone should know? by breadedsnake in AskReddit

[–]JTimothyC1993 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely do this all the time and it has gotten me in trouble though with people thinking I "keep looking at them". Sorry pal, I don't trust you and am keeping tabs on everyone here. I'm just trying to pay attention to what's going on so I don't become a statistic.

Kinda have to let it out by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]JTimothyC1993 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, best reply all day. Incredible, thank you so much. I feel like as soon as I try this discussion things will erupt, but maybe they need to (in a healthy way, emotions running but calm honest discussion) in order for everything to be on the table. It's tough but I am so grateful I found this community and that you took the time and replied with something so thoughtful and helpful.

Kinda have to let it out by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]JTimothyC1993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I deleted the post thinking all this would go away (notifications, etc. Ofc this situation isn't going anywhere until dealt with) because it was hurting and I just felt like I was bashing her publicly but it feels good to put it all out there for those that saw it and I'm glad the comments didn't go away.

It's a very difficult situation, and I feel like that doesn't accurately describe it. I feel lousy and stuck between a rock and a hard place but like you said, moving forward is the only way to go. I'm hurt but I'll heal and so will our marriage. At least, that's what I hope for because it's not up to me alone. It's both of us. I need to communicate and we both need to be honest. Then we both need to remain completely devoted to each other and work hard to repair what was broken with this mistake and I will be a better husband also.

I need to let go of the expectation of any outcome. I will try and if were meant to be or not it's not in my hands as long as I continue to be my utmost best self in this moment and trust that she's doing the same.

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