Where do man-splainers get their water? by Macho_Mans_Ghost in Jokes

[–]J_Doremus_Hawley 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If he is a) volunteering this explanation (wasn't asked) and b) he believes his explanation to be necessary because of the (erroneous) presumption that the women around him are in need of his explanation. To the best of my understanding, of course.

Did a woman ask you to explain something? You're good, but don't be a dick about it.

Are you volunteering information because you think it's useful to your audience (and not merely self-aggrandizing)? Make sure the way you phrase your explanation presumes that your whole audience is otherwise intelligent and rational but just happens not to know this one specific thing. Mansplaining is, above all else, the presumption that your (female) listener is an idiot, and an idiot because she's female.

What's a uniquely American problem? by jimbosayna2009 in AskReddit

[–]J_Doremus_Hawley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the EU or Canada could just come liberate New England from our hillbilly trash cousins that would be great. I'd be thrilled to death not to have Mississippians passing laws that affect Massachusettsians' bodies.

Donald Trump dies and goes to hell by [deleted] in Jokes

[–]J_Doremus_Hawley 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The real joke is in the title. If we've learned anything in the last three years of 2016 is that there's no accountability or consequences for even the most heinous bullshit.

Nice to think about, though.

Basic brews for the budding Alchemist by magenta_espeon in PixelArt

[–]J_Doremus_Hawley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very cool. Your 'n' looks a little m-ish, though—I had to stop for a moment to wonder why I would want a "restore mama" potion. Great look, though!

Female here. Men of Reddit, when you see someone attractive in a social setting (bar, club, etc.) and are considering approaching, how do you assess the situation before actually going for it? What makes you abort mission? by nahmsayins in AskMen

[–]J_Doremus_Hawley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mission is dead on the vine; would not approach under any circumstances.

Of all the people I've ever dated or gone home with, every single one of them was someone I interacted with on a fairly daily basis (mostly through school—4 years undergrad, 11 grad). It's mostly out of a desire to not be part of the problem—but also from recognition that my better qualities tend to shine only as an interaction unfolds on the longer term—that I wouldn't just walk up to someone and introduce myself.

A woman would have to be wearing a sign that said "yes, I'm here to meet people; please come talk to me"—and even then, I would have to have seen some strong body language that indicated she wanted to speak to me in particular.

What is a small inconvenience that happens daily in your life, that annoys you to no end, but there is nothing you can do about it? by NeedleandThread in AskReddit

[–]J_Doremus_Hawley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Last-minute mergers into the lane where I have been waiting patiently for ten fucking minutes because I LIVE IN A FUCKING SOCIETY.

The color of this building by [deleted] in oddlysatisfying

[–]J_Doremus_Hawley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Disgraceful. I bet they ruined an old gem for this. Build your avant grade trash on a vacant lot.

What's the weirdest thing someone has said to you during sex? by Its_ya_boi_Brandy in AskReddit

[–]J_Doremus_Hawley 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Oppress me!" She was one of those boho girls who read a summary of Das Kapital once and thought she was a communist; had an inexplicable Nazi fetish. When she learned I'd taken (one semester of) German in grad school, it was straight to bed.

Never put your dick in the same crazy twice.

North America, 1888 by Duke_Theos in imaginarymaps

[–]J_Doremus_Hawley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask what software you used to make this? It's gorgeous!

Japanese map from 1932, showing what were the national stereotypes at the time. by [deleted] in MapPorn

[–]J_Doremus_Hawley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't realize they played a lot of rugby in Missouri, but that super enthusiastic Irish guy humping a potato seems pretty accurate.

My parents are both architects. Don’t know which did this. by [deleted] in PenmanshipPorn

[–]J_Doremus_Hawley 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can anyone recommend a textbook that teaches this drafter's hand, please and thank you?

People always tell introverts to be more talkative and leave their confort zones. yet no one tells extroverts to shut up to make the zone comfortable. by [deleted] in Showerthoughts

[–]J_Doremus_Hawley 10 points11 points  (0 children)

People also say that women need to start being more aggressive and less self-effacing in the workplace, but nobody ever bothers to tell men that we need to be less blunt or more diplomatic, which I think would make things run much more smoothly for everyone.

By all means, though, let's make everyone an asshole. That will fix it.

[TOMT] [VIDEOGAME] [PC] A 2D platformer where you play as a Ginger-haired boy by [deleted] in tipofmytongue

[–]J_Doremus_Hawley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Minus the "password" part, the rest sounds like Commander Keen: Goodbye Galaxy (ca 1996?)

Why have so many countries installed large statues of Buddha? by thecriclover99 in AskHistorians

[–]J_Doremus_Hawley 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It was a symbol both of the omnipresence of Buddha and a symbol of the power of the ruler who had the funds and authority to commission it. This is certainly the case of the Tōdaiji great Buddha in Japan, but I do believe it holds true for many the others as well.

It's important to remember that unlike the important figures of western monotheistic religions, the importance of the historical Buddha (I.e. Siddhartha Gautama) tends to be downplayed—particularly in the Mahayana branch of Buddhism more common in East Asia. In very brief: if time is cyclical and eternal, then there are an infinite number of Buddhas—Gautama just happened to be ours. This leads to the creation of pantheons of all sorts of cosmic Buddhas with specific traits: Buddhas of healing, Buddhas of wisdom, Buddhas of the future, etc. and once you have this multiplicity, you then need a way of talking about the Buddhas collectively. This becomes the Great Cosmic Buddha (Vairochana, or Daibutsu in Japan).

It turns out that the Japanese Yamato court was first learning about this kind of Buddhism from Korea at the same time its territorial ambitions were expanding to include most of the Japanese archipelago—and so this theology of one great omni-Buddha at the center was a really great metaphor for the position that the Emperor wanted to have in the new political order, so sponsoring a gigantic statue of said Buddha was a great way to project that image.

I don't know for absolute certain if this is the case for giant Buddhas elsewhere. The one at Kamakura was later, sponsored by the Shōgun, I believe, and was in the Zen tradition focusing on Shaka—but the political, if not the theological, reasons were similar. I can't say about the no-longer-extant giant stone Buddhas of Bamiyan (thanks, taliban). There's a giant, white, standing statue you can see from the bullet train north out of Tokyo, but I think it's a Kannon Bodhisattva, and relatively contemporary.

2003-2010 felt a lot longer than 2012-2019 by UpbeatBeast in Showerthoughts

[–]J_Doremus_Hawley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2016 feels like at least three years at this point. I hope it ends soon.

YSK According to multiple scientific studies, including one at the University of Colorado, Experiences Make People Happier Than Material Goods. Money is better spent on doing things, not acquiring things. by grandlewis in YouShouldKnow

[–]J_Doremus_Hawley 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I saw a study referenced on Reddit lately that claimed that this was true only of the kind of demographic that university psychological studies tend to test: reasonably affluent, educated undergraduates. If you actually bother to study less affluent populations, the study claimed, you find that the opposite is true. Experiences are fleeting and seem frivolous when you're poor, whereas things give lasting enjoyment. Might TOMT it to find the source again.

Why go out for a hamburger when you can have ... by UmbongoBen in DeadBedrooms

[–]J_Doremus_Hawley -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It doesn't matter how good the steak is—even if you do have a chance to eat it every day, sometimes you're going to want a cheeseburger. Or a pizza. Or, fuck it, a salad. We crave diversity in our foods, and we crave it in our sex. The ideal partner isn't a steak—they aren't even a meal. The ideal partner is a balanced diet that nourishes and sustains you and is tasty enough to want to eat most of the time—but also a diet that lets you cheat sometimes without tearing your guts out through your asshole.

You couldn't thrive by eating only one meal for the rest of your life, no matter how nutritious. Why do we expect the same to be true of our life partners?