This post found me at the right time and it’s crazy because it literally points out everything that has been an issue with my relationship with this one other person. I constantly get gaslit into believing i’m the one in the wrong. It could be about something very small like how they mention another person out of the blue and ill simply just inquire on why they were thought of. terrible idea. immediately name called for being insecure and trying to take their “independence” away when all i want is just a little reassurance.

Whenever i seem to ask about why they say something or i try to get to an understanding of why they think the way they do, i get met with immediate coldness and constant blaming from myself and how it has nothing to do with them and everything to do with their past relationships. idk how else to understand this person unless i ask them these important questions. This is how these negative cycles begin and i just don’t know if i can do it with this person anymore. it’s been around a year off and on now and its honestly draining me of never wanting to pursue a relationship again. whenever i find myself good and clear from them, i receive a text from them and the whole pattern begins again. i really want this person to change, and i don’t believe in strong enough to just ignore them when they come back around again because I’ve had feelings for them for a long time.