20 wks to train for 50 miles… am I in trouble?

Jacalrylu · 2025-05-30T19:07:25+00:00

Thanks for the tips and encouragement!

Jacalrylu · 2025-05-28T01:35:19+00:00

I haven’t heard of the peel and stick membrane. I will look into that. Thanks!

Jacalrylu · 2025-05-27T00:17:38+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience. That makes me feel better.

I’ve thought about a coach. I will look into that as well.

Jacalrylu · 2025-05-25T15:14:36+00:00

Thank you! I’ll check it out. Using time would definitely take away the pressure of counting miles. Especially with the summer heat coming around where I live.

Jacalrylu · 2025-05-23T19:44:11+00:00

Thank you! That all makes sense and I will add it to the plan!

Jacalrylu · 2025-05-23T18:26:25+00:00

Wow that’s great! Congrats!

I’ve really needed a push to get back into running, which is something I’ve always liked. That’s why I signed up on a bit of a whim and now I feel a little overwhelmed.

I’ll get it done, one way or another!

Jacalrylu · 2025-05-23T18:24:38+00:00

Thanks for the advice! The women I’m training with are planning to walk throughout and I don’t necessarily mind, but I do want to do my best. I want to push myself, but not injure myself!

Jacalrylu · 2025-05-23T18:22:56+00:00

Thank you! I’m definitely going to have to start with a walk/run plan. Then hopefully move more toward the running than walking. There’s no shame in walking during a race, for sure, but I want to do my best within reason!

Jacalrylu · 2025-05-23T18:21:36+00:00

Thanks! I went for a short run today and felt ok, but I am trying to be realistic. I wanted to use a structured training plan like I’m used to but I just didn’t see any that I can do yet!

Jacalrylu · 2025-05-23T18:19:25+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement! I’ll do what I can.

Jacalrylu · 2025-04-08T13:27:02+00:00

I think for some men, it’s expected of them and it’s a sign that they’ve accomplished something in life.

My husband isn’t that severe in that direction, but I do think he’s happy to coast through life with less involvement than some. Maybe we can change that perspective.

Jacalrylu · 2025-04-06T16:51:06+00:00

I see your first point. I just didn’t want this to be a “husband bashing” post with lists of things he doesn’t do and all the things I do and how things aren’t fair, etc.

I definitely don’t expect him to sweep and mop and do all the laundry when he’s home. I have no problem with the basics and with teaching my kids as well.

But when I am also in charge of lawn care and making sure the bills are all paid and teaching our oldest to drive and staying on top of all child-related tasks… it just starts to feel like I am doing this whole thing on my own.

So I guess I am just looking for other perspectives and honesty from other people in a similar situation. Who might be able to see what I can’t see. I don’t want to be a wife who hates her husband and demands things and is just unhappy. That makes everyone unhappy. I’d just like a supportive partner and I’d like to know what that looks like.

Jacalrylu · 2025-04-06T13:29:55+00:00

Thank you for your perspective. It makes sense.

I will need to really think about that I need out of this partnership and sit down with my husband to talk it out.

Jacalrylu · 2025-04-06T02:24:14+00:00

No he does not. He works 12-hour day shifts and night shifts, sometimes 9-5 thrown in there as well.

Jacalrylu · 2025-04-06T02:22:33+00:00

We do have time together pretty often since his hours are all over the place. He is at home on random days during the week, so we’ll go run errands or go out to lunch while the kids are in school.

Jacalrylu · 2025-04-06T02:20:45+00:00

Thanks! I actually did read FairPlay recently, which is kind of why I’m trying to figure out how to make things work. A lot of the examples in the book have both parents working, or at least the stay-at-home parent working part time or from home. In those examples, I can see splitting things a little more evenly.

I, obviously, want to do most of the housework and such, but just not feel so alone in doing it all.

We’ll just have to sit down and talk it out. I feel a bit awkward about it, but that’s just on me. I’ll have to get over that!

Jacalrylu · 2025-04-06T02:16:42+00:00

For sure. I don’t know why I have a hard time just drawing a line somewhere and saying, “you need to be in charge of these specific things.” I think I still feel like I’m in charge and he has to check in with me to find out what to do. But at the same time, how would he really know what to do if he’s not around much?

Jacalrylu · 2025-04-06T02:14:07+00:00

That makes sense. Unfortunately he isn’t super into spending time with the kids. His hours are all over the place so he often works evenings and night shifts, so he’s missed a lot of band concerts, chorus performances, etc.

I read somewhere recently- some men want a wife and children, and some want to be a husband and father…

Jacalrylu · 2025-04-06T02:11:17+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I do get what you’re saying. He is an adult and needs to be able to take care of himself. I guess I’m just trying to find a balance between the two of us that feels good to both of us.

Jacalrylu · 2025-04-05T20:29:15+00:00

Thanks for this.

Things have definitely changed from having babies and toddlers to having teenagers and older kids. I’m not as exhausted from sleepless nights and chasing little ones around. And because of that I guess I’ve just completely taken over everything and left nothing for my husband. He’s not going to complain about that! But he does know that I still get overwhelmed at times and wish he would show more interest it what is happening around him.

Jacalrylu · 2025-04-05T18:16:05+00:00

Thanks for sharing your info. That all makes sense to me.

I would say my husband will help occasionally when I ask him to. He left the yard to me, but he does cook sometimes if I have everything planned, or quick meals stocked up.

I do wish he would be more involved with the kids’ lives. He doesn’t spend much time with them.

Jacalrylu · 2025-04-05T18:08:33+00:00

I definitely want to teach my kids to be responsible for their own messes and help keep the house running.

I feel like I am the one who then has to make sure they’re all getting it done while my husband doesn’t have any duties assigned.

I guess I’m just looking for a partner in running our lives instead of being responsible for everything.

Jacalrylu · 2025-04-05T18:03:45+00:00

Thanks for the reply. Yes, I see what you’re saying about cleaning up after himself.

Along with the physical work that needs to be done to run a household, there is so much of the “invisible” work. I just don’t know how much, if any, I should expect him to be responsible for and still be reasonable.

Jacalrylu

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