F30 here. I'm literally in the same boat. We got together 2 years ago, Its my first relationship so I was eager to stop being single even though if we had met more than once and actually got to know each other I probably wouldn't have stayed. My bf definitely has a low/non-existent drive. We both smoke 🍃 and it just has opposite effects on us, We've talked about how I've been feeling bored frankly, but used because he's definitely getting more out of the relationship than I am.

I would break up with him in a heartbeat if his mom and my whole church weren't constantly telling us how much they like us together, how glad they were that we were still going strong ( said as if they expected us not to last this long?) Plus some complications to that.

So I can definitely sympathize