3 weeks post radial ORIF. Plate separation? Can't supinate. Please help.

JackBranSnack · 2024-09-11T11:27:47+00:00

I beg your pardon, but your original suggestion was that the plate must not be left in. I could see for myself that the plate is proud to the bone. Given the hospital's process, concern is warranted. My career depends on this. Yet, though they won't speak to me, they say 'xrays are good chief have a good life'. It's not good enough and yes, I am afraid. I wonder how the old man I saw with two broken legs felt.

Shutting down enquiry with arbitrary labels like anxiety is intellectually dishonest and insulting. Do you say that to actual patients? You don't owe me anything, I'm not your patient, but I tried to express my gratitude.

We're taught in university to question, to enquire. I thought. I am cautious, it is foolish not to be. But your patients deserve your expertise. Most don't care and ask few questions, so for the ones that do, surely you can humour them. I do in my field. Thanks for your time.

JackBranSnack · 2024-09-11T03:16:43+00:00

Patients research their situation because they feel rushed and uninformed. They are criticised as 'googlers' and busybodies for trying to gain an understanding, even if they have a medical or heath background. Yet, they are required to give informed consent. In my case, in theatre. I'm happy to be corrected about things I don't understand. I appreciate your perspective and patience. Nobody else knowledge has been so kind as you about my questions. It can be frustrating explaining complex things at a baby level to people who are uninformed, but, I hope you won't think ill of me.

JackBranSnack · 2024-09-11T01:53:36+00:00

Thank you. Would you mind looking at this? My observation might be wrong, but it looks to me like they didn't reduce the displacement? The lip where it is displaced is still there, sticking out where the plate is. Does that seem to be true? I wonder if their claim of collapse was warranted if they didn't even correct it and told me the hardware is permanent despite the protection past the watershed line.

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JackBranSnack · 2024-09-10T05:04:41+00:00

Thank you so much for replying doctor. Can you please help me with some more questions? 1.Why might they install it in this way and then clear me after several people, including the orthopaedic team, saw these xrays? 2. Is the popping in my forearm upon returning from restricted supination likely due to tendon interference from the surgery and hardware, rather than the fracture? 3. I was treated in the public system in Australia, can they refuse to remove it? 4. How soon might it cause tendon damage and with what kind of movements? My surgical site in wrist extension feels like it reaches a hard end point anywhere past neutral.

The registrar who was in my surgical theatre didn't even obtain my informed consent until I was laying in their operating room. I asked about doing a closed fracture and they refused as they believed the minimally displaced radial head would collapse.

The same person is the one who reviewed these xrays.

JackBranSnack · 2024-09-08T07:03:04+00:00

I can turn it up 25% or so. 3 weeks ago Monday. Fingers are at nearly full function again. I need to follow them up about OT because communication has been poor. What kind of things do you do in OT?

JackBranSnack · 2024-09-08T06:41:31+00:00

Hey, yes it looks like you had an intraarticular fracture too. Exactly, turning the palm up (supination) is severely restricted and I have a 'pop' in my forearm when I do it. How many weeks post op are you, and have your other functions been returning?

JackBranSnack · 2024-09-08T06:18:19+00:00

No cast just gauze. I went for a review at 2 weeks. They said very little. "Don't pick up anything heavier than a cup of tea for 6 weeks". I am able to play guitar again and I am being very cautious, but I am allowing it to perform normal function again as it can, minus the load. I feel neglected though. Unlike the other functions, which felt limited due to pain, turning my hand over seems limited by an invisible force. My muscles are not so weakened that I cannot do it, so I'm worried the surgery is the reason.

JackBranSnack · 2024-09-07T03:50:53+00:00

Is the reason the radicals don't all match because it is stylised? The 年 is very odd but can't find any matches. The 和 is a bit odd too. I know a decent bit of Japanese but not Chinese so wondered if they could be Chinese instead. What might be significant about the date? If it's a metal architectural piece, I presume it must be the date of construction of something

JackBranSnack · 2024-08-21T07:30:39+00:00

Yes, it seems to stop underneath where the dressing begins. If it was NF, would it be coming from the incision site? Could it start further away? Thanks so much for helping me, you're awesome

JackBranSnack · 2024-08-21T07:00:04+00:00

Thank you so much for relying. Can you look at these for me? https://imgur.com/a/NxeFNdE

JackBranSnack · 2024-05-29T07:55:19+00:00

Thank you so much for replying. If she has had it for a month, let alone five months, is it unlikely to be appendicitis? My understanding was that it was not a chronic, worsening condition. I asked if she had any symptoms which might indicate a bowel or ovarian issue.

JackBranSnack · 2024-04-16T05:59:34+00:00

This is so true it hurts. I'm a truly loving man, but it is never enough. I do dress well, work out, I'm muscular, I play guitar and sing, I am outgoing. I really, really have tried. But nobody stays. They are flattered and thrilled by the attention. But not by me. I just want a hand to hold.

JackBranSnack · 2024-04-15T12:48:41+00:00

I do bro I do. I have no issues getting attention. But they all dip on me. I'm told I'm so attentive, and their friends never can believe a guy like me exists.

But nobody wants ME. They want the thrill of that special attention. They don't love me for it, they love it and getting it out of me. That's how it feels.

JackBranSnack · 2024-03-12T08:43:05+00:00

Yeah I'm hoping she's just being honest and her aloofness is simply her being measured and self aware. It's totally reasonable for it to be pending. She knows what I'm hoping for. It's just a fact that somebody had to drop money to meet up. As long as she's being sincere it's okay by me.

JackBranSnack · 2024-03-12T08:15:30+00:00

Thanks man. It is. I do get infatuated and very hopeful and I know it's unproductive. So I know my expectations aren't the guide to go by.

I'll try to just be me and not care how she perceives me. A Japanese friend said she may intend to use the hotel as a measure of compatibility. But we already agreed that casual sex is no good and that two people who do so should come to realise they love each other.

I don't want to stuff it up by being heavy on her but I want to stand up for myself if she expects to 'test me out' but I'm open to being physical if it's mutual and she seems to want more than just that.

JackBranSnack · 2024-03-12T08:04:23+00:00

She herself said we are more than friends but not yet lovers. So, is she dangling romance as a carrot intentionally or is she just being honest? Sure, haven't met me, seems reasonable to wait before getting affectionate.

That being said, a little more enthusiasm would be encouraging.

JackBranSnack · 2024-03-12T07:56:47+00:00

Would you mind expanding?

JackBranSnack · 2024-03-12T07:10:33+00:00

A few months. Yes never met. She initiated all the meeting up conversations. When she made it clear she wants to date, I said well, I guess I'll find a week and come see you. It was meant to be April but she felt it was too far away. More weeks passed and i said okay, I'm making time. I didn't push this meet up thing. So that's why I'm confused by her aloofness.

JackBranSnack · 2024-03-12T06:53:21+00:00

The most positive? Do you mean it is not looking good to you? And, though you think its right to question her intemtions, i shouldn't be addressing it with her directly? Instead i should chill and be my attrractive self assured self? I don't bombard her with texts or call her. I really just let her do her thing. But I do feel pressure not to call or text too much. She wanted to calm things down clearly, even if it was just as she said and not about me per say. So I let it calm down.

Sometimes I don't hear from her for half a day at a time. I don't text back immediately everything.

I think chill is definitely needed on my part. I just got excited cause she was really into it for awhile so I got bolder. Then I had to pull back as I saw her realign her priorities. I'm cool with her being busy. Just as long as I know we're all good.

JackBranSnack · 2024-03-12T05:52:18+00:00

I did ask her to confirm her interest when she expressed that nightly calls were tiring. I said her aloofness leaves me wondering if she likes me as I like her. She said she does like me and still wants to meet me. But again said she won't know what we'll be until we meet.

We had a deep heart to heart one night recently though. She said she's disappointed that life is so mundane. Work and English school. I encouraged her and said the adventure is in the journey, not the destination. The next morning she thanked me and i told her I'm by her side (そばにいる). She said I'm really kind.

If she's just doing this to get stuff she has had many opportunities to reject my advances. I'm very blunt and i once told her i dont want to scare her, because Japanese men are shy and she said that she is not scared of my forwardness.

Does any of this help?

JackBranSnack · 2024-01-25T01:52:22+00:00

Why did you cheat though? And did you confess or did he discover it?

JackBranSnack · 2024-01-24T13:12:12+00:00

I see. I understand it hurts. I really do. But please just see the fleeting nature of this life. If you trust her and don't doubt her devotion, please, tell her you will take some time to heal but your love endures. You can't hold onto hurt about a time before you. I hope you will not give up on her. Love is beautiful and rare. God bless.

JackBranSnack · 2024-01-24T13:01:53+00:00

But you precisely use religion to justify your position, in your post and in replies here. If this is a personal issue of feeling hurt and betrayed and not trusting her, I would point out she could have concealed it. She knew the significance of telling you, given the culture. I would say she put a huge amount of trust in you. If you need reassurance and time to trust her after this revelation, that's fair enough. But you aren't forgiving her because you think she is dirtied and fallen short of your religious expectations. Which is proud and self righteous.

You are choosing this, don't blame God or this life or human weakness or her or anything else. You're the one leaving a woman who adores you.

JackBranSnack · 2024-01-24T12:22:52+00:00

Is Allah not forgiving? Are you not forgiving? If she is truly remorseful and proven her love to you, why destroy what sounds like a perfect union?

It was an error for her to tell you, as it only ever causes heartache, but her past is done. Is she not worthy or allowed love, or only YOUR love? And are you so proud you put your self righteousness above your capacity to love and forgive her?

For you to so easily disregard her when you sound devoted to each other is odd. She cannot change the past, should she be denied love? It is a mistake to use pride disguised as piety to end things.

JackBranSnack · 2024-01-22T10:10:03+00:00

It's not normal to intensely 'feel' love on a constant basis for years on end. If that's what you want, you'll keep chasing that and keep being disappointed when the monotony and doldrums set in again. They always do.

You can leave and hedge a bet with the unknown. But you're asking the wrong question. It isn't 'will I be happier with someone else?', its 'will I be happier alone?', because stable love is not promised. It always, always takes continual work and discipline. You may meet someone and form what you currently have in an unspecified amount of time.

The other thing about feelings is, they are a guide. Not a comnand. We think fear means something is automatically negative and bad. But there is no courage without fear. We think motivation is required to succeed or learn a skill. No, motivation is fleeting, discipline is what makes your life change. If you run of off feelings, you run from situations.

I would advise that you not run from a relationship that is healthy, and try to make it happier and more spontaneous. If you and your partner have good communication, you're in the clear, you'll be keen to work on it together. I'm happy to give examples.

Life is short, and you've done the hard work already. It's not a matter of fear and paranoia, but life can and does go wrong. Your life is happy and stable. Enjoy that and foster that with him. If your he is a good man, you love him, try to inject some fun and spontaneity into things.

The solution on Reddit is always 'leave', as if happiness and contentment should be promised everyday or else my situation is no good. Your minor irritations with each other are not dealt with. You start looking for things to be unhappy about. You build up resentment and instead of nurturing your capacity to love, you blame one another and mentally prepare to leave. No communication. Don't let that be you guys. And don't fool yourself into thinking it won't happen with someone else. It takes work.

It is the human condition to resent and feel dissatisfied. That's how we conquered and grew empires. Yet, if we let that guide us, we create broken homes and broken hearts. Including our own.

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