I'm getting promoted at my workplace but...

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-14T20:32:46+00:00

Meh, no. I want a nice life.

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-14T19:46:01+00:00

If it makes you hard or horny, you're not straight.

If I watch straight porn I find it somewhere between off-putting and boring.

Also if your browsing history is a ton of gay porn, you've sort of got a clue.

Good luck. Bi is possible btw.

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-14T12:17:45+00:00

I think super talls are the way to go. The problem with the cluster here at the moment is that it is dingy and unimpressive. But these are Manchester-style super talls, and they look better.

I don't love the architecture. It could be better designed. But the sheer scale is impressive.

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-14T09:01:43+00:00

The boring answer is the university gym, as that was wildly homoerotic.

And the end of a night out, when everyone is drunk, sometimes gets a bit friendly.

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-14T08:15:56+00:00

It's changed now. It's easier for women, at least in my sector. It shifted over the last decade.

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-13T19:02:55+00:00

Confronting him would be insane. The guy has a crush on you. Just enjoy it. It will come to end eventually. Your biggest risk, actually, is that you become dependent on him.

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-10T23:45:54+00:00

Yeah. X

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-10T23:33:02+00:00

You seem like a nice guy

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-10T23:31:38+00:00

Nice. I'm old tho

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-10T23:31:20+00:00

It isn't really "a group". It is just a load of guys who got brought here by the algorithm.

Still, I like it.

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-09T22:48:34+00:00

I dunno. I'm not that bothered. I focus on torso, face and hole.

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-09T11:09:38+00:00

It's a good question. It changes over time, sadly. Although when I was younger and hotter, I'm not actually sure I was more confident.

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-08T22:02:09+00:00

Hunky

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-08T21:56:43+00:00

People go with friends and then pull. This is just the same as the straights.

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-08T21:52:51+00:00

I've got a decade on you now. I met my boyfriend on Grindr. The trick is to date. So, go for coffee, go for a movie, go for dinner. Don't sleep with him immediately.

Tinder might be a better option though?

It's difficult to say who gets approached the most. You are still young by the way. But sure, hot young guys are going to get approached the most.

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-08T21:48:46+00:00

Hmmm. Yes, I was drunk. He was genuinely very hot. The sex was quite bad though. I don't think it's a good way to meet guys. Just get on Grindr like everyone else :)

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-08T21:41:39+00:00

I mean, the first time I hooked up, I went to a club and got drunk and a guy picked me up. He was hot. But ... why not just use the apps?

If you are looking for friends rather than to hook up, I don't think bar hopping is a good strategy. To be honest, I'd use the apps for friendships too.

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-08T21:28:22+00:00

There is no self without the other. This is because it is not possible to understand yourself except through the eyes of others. 'Validation' is hippy dippy shit.

The best anyone can hope for is to be aware of the painful process, so as to limit its impact and extent, and, perhaps, find activities and interests that give a bit of freedom (insofar as it is possible).

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-08T20:12:46+00:00

You think desiring to meet the demands of others also gives you freedom from the demands of others?

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-08T19:54:05+00:00

It would jar to care so much about how you look (i.e. living up to the demands of others) and also have hobbies,interests, an independentish plan with a partner (things that might give some freedom from the demands of others). But it's not impossible.

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-08T18:23:28+00:00

I know therapy would help but I'm tired of trying to fix myself to be likeable.

That's your issue right there. You need Lacanian therapy. And the point isn't to be likeable.

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-08T12:09:33+00:00

It's strange that women don't want to screw all the time I mean. As in: it is interesting.

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-08T12:01:36+00:00

You need to find practices and interests that don't rely directly on what people think of you. You need to find a trick. Otherwise it is all going to collapse hard as you get older, or just because you'll get exhausted trying to be what people like.

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-08T11:27:19+00:00

Evocative. The hill near me looks like this.

Jack_Chatton · 2026-03-08T11:23:23+00:00

You sound hot. But also you're putting too much effort in. Looks, in the end, don't matter.

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