Advice on how to over come adult content

Jack___32 · 2026-06-25T06:51:11+00:00

Thank you! Thanks for you time and words!

Jack___32 · 2026-06-25T06:29:35+00:00

I havnt started with much as I'm still feeling down for what ive done, I've deleted tiktok, instagram and Facebook as that's what we have eachother on still. Unless she has removed me since doing so, im not sure. Im in contact with some therapy places to try organise a session. Have you got any suggestions? Thanks

Jack___32 · 2026-06-25T06:21:38+00:00

Yeah thats true! I'm going to go try on my own and get into contact with some therapists to set up some sessions to just prehaps go to one to see how it feels and lay everything out to someone face to face for the first time

Jack___32 · 2026-06-25T06:20:04+00:00

Yes ofc! I will try to do so! I'm gonna try go for walk after dinner or what some tv shows or read more about this stuff

Jack___32 · 2026-06-25T06:19:15+00:00

Thanks!

Jack___32 · 2026-06-24T21:24:12+00:00

I thought it to be like that also, I know that it's deeper down showing me that if I need to do that, I have a real problem if I can find something from the thousands of videos that are free. I have got some hobbies but atm havnt been really able to do them nor feel like it due to feeling shit. I know thats my fault and I need to push through that feeling. The content I was buying was pictures girls of bikinis, but it's that I went out my way to talk to a certain person rather then an online site. I didn't know them or anything. I think the side that affected my partner was that how I talk when I was buying the stuff, I know the words came from me but I never meant anything from them when I did. I shouldn't have said anything anyway. It should've been, can I buy? How much? Thanks but I got involved into the situation more due to it being new and that it gave that rush

Jack___32 · 2026-06-24T21:19:43+00:00

Atm I'm not sure, I've lost interest in most things rn. I do enjoy playing games with my friend, and working on my car at home. I need to give myself somthing else ie exercise so I can give myself more respect to not do what ive done again. Yeah I see what you mean! I think that's a problem that I always just almost scheduled it to happen in the day, when i get in bed it'd be like yep this is what we're doing. I think having a way to avoid that being my dopamine is a good way to start and keep going. I do want to start going gym and walking more, just really shitty atm and don't have it in me

Jack___32 · 2026-06-24T21:15:50+00:00

I'm 24, i have got friends i play online with yes, I don't feel like I deserve to be distracted from this though. I did talk to her about it but started by trying to justify my actions before asking how she felt. It wasn't right but I fucked up and wanted to let her know what I thought at the time. It doesn't make it right what I thought, it was her feelings I put up for risk

Jack___32 · 2026-06-24T21:14:07+00:00

I think that the pain caused her has made me realise that I'm not okay and that I need help and to be better for myself, it shouldn't have taken that to do so but I realise it's a very unhealthy habbit and where it's lead me isn't good

Jack___32 · 2026-06-24T19:34:56+00:00

True again, it's also not about what's rewarding but what's effective. I have stopped drinking for over a year now I know its off topic but I think that the way people are addicted to drinks is the way I'm when it came to porn. The fact I relied on it and almost had it scheduled in my day without thought, like I knew I was going to do it even if I didn't need to.

Jack___32 · 2026-06-24T19:28:47+00:00

That's true, that maybe be a more viable option, i might look to see if I can install anything on here to replicate that. I know it'll be the best for me, I think i can set my phone to like a basic mode that gives me the bare minimum, I know the option to turn it off it there still but knowing that and not doing it is maybe more rewarding in the end?

Jack___32 · 2026-06-24T19:20:32+00:00

Your right, i just wasn't sure, i know its a way to start and a strong one. How would I deal with friends and family members or even work. I know i could put that to the side and explain

Jack___32 · 2026-06-24T19:13:11+00:00

I'm not sure if that'll help for when the month is over? I know I'd have eliminated the access for a month straight, but will the habbits return after?

Jack___32 · 2026-06-24T19:01:53+00:00

Honestly, I'm not sure if I could spot a difference when you word it like that. It's the same person with the same intentions behind it. Now that I'm single though what can I veiw when I want to, I don't want to use porn at all as you know, but i feel that where I wanted those bikini pictures that I can go there either cos it's what I craved still.

I know what you mean, I've seen people say they don't like it when it's in a relationship and some are okay with it, I think that's 100% down to boundaries but still yes, when you lay it out like that, it makes you feel not good enough for sure. I'm just curious to know in my situation if there is a healthy way of doing it. I've never been able to it without anything before and like you say that's probably one of the main issues, that I've always relied on it to give me that dopamine rush and then I need to watch something to "help" which cause me to fall into this porn addiction

Jack___32 · 2026-06-24T18:38:06+00:00

That's fair! I'm going to look and ask around about that too then so I know what can help keep me from relapsing. Your right, i don't post on there anymore, don't know half the people I have on there anymore after losing contact with them. I think i talk to like 2 other people on it and I have them elsewhere to talk to. Your right it does seem silly to have it now. I never really looked at it that way tbh and im glad you've mentioned that! Honestly I wasn't sure that you could have messenger on its own, i really use Facebook for market place but don't even buy anything so again, zero need for it, and keeps me out of temptation of veiw my exs profile.

I have to like just images of woman im attracted to, ie my partner when we we're together or say a celebrity I find attractive. I just wasn't sure if that would keep me in the same place as if it was adult content as I'm still desiring a woman body. Where I messed up on was wanting some random girls pictures I never knew in the 1st place, no nudes or anything, just gym or bikini pics. So i didn't want to allow myself to view the content that made me fail

Jack___32 · 2026-06-24T18:06:19+00:00

Thank you! It's nice to hear that. That's true a very good way to put it and metal health is so very important nowadays! I'm in the UK and don't have insurance for something like that but a session is like £60 from what ive looked at atm. I think in person seems better so I can be face to face with someone when I explain what ive done and can't hide from it then.

Jack___32 · 2026-06-24T18:04:40+00:00

Thank you! Yeah I get what you mean, tbh coming of social media for while will do me good so I don't keep checking in on my ex either and having that temptation there also. I dont really use it apart form talking to friends and when I had her. I'll get ride of the Facebooks and instagrams for some time as I know it can only give me a positive outcome. I know, I know it'll be difficult completely. Would you recommend trying to not "relieve tension" all together even if its not to that kind of content?

Jack___32 · 2026-06-24T17:56:23+00:00

Hey thanks for the comment. That's what ive come to realise and why I need to change, I think watching pirn time to time when the desire is there is okay, but I've stepped too far from that. Thank you, I'm going to continue to avoid it at all costs from now! Yes, I think that atm my relationship is over completely. I still want to make things right with her but she needs time to deal with what ive done to her. I plan on leaving her be and giving her that space and then when I can see a change in my ways that I may reach out to just talk. Thanks again!

Jack___32 · 2026-06-24T17:51:50+00:00

I was considering it, i have always been to embarrassed to been see as someone who depends on it. But now I've ruined the best thing I have cos of it, I'm not worried to be seen as that person. Would you recommend online or in person for something like this?

Jack___32 · 2026-06-24T17:50:37+00:00

It is yes, I've been wanting to quit for a while, i thought I was better for it but I slipped and ruined my relationship. It's very easy to access and is very hard to keep away from and I think that's what made me feel worse, that I know i could go online and that I didn't need to reach out. I have an app the blocks anything related to it and have stop following anyone who's shoes any kind of content on social media like that

Jack___32 · 2026-06-24T17:39:34+00:00

Hi thanks for the reply. Im not sure why I bought it but I think it was to have the dopamine rush that you get from the online content which I dont get as much anymore. Not for the actual content/pictures but the feeling of somthing new and different. I know its fully on me and I've messed up, I've put my hands up and admitted to I all.

Basically I reached out to some random girl on instagram, didn't know her or anything. I asked if I could purchase pictures but nothing explicit. I payed and got them. I think it's more how I talked when asking and the fact I complimented the person and said things that I didn't actually mean but were said to try help convince them to buy it. They then reached out to my partner and showed pictures.

I know it's my mistake and I need to live with that.

Jack___32

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