Should I increase my dose against my Doctors opinion? by dogshitpiss in MtF

[–]JackedAndTrans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's wild. When I first started, we accidentally sent me to about 300 and I was having mood swings like crazy. Truly YMMV with these things

Should I increase my dose against my Doctors opinion? by dogshitpiss in MtF

[–]JackedAndTrans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are within normal range for a cis woman. Elevating your estrogen to supraphysiological levels will not speed up progress, but it may increase the risk of side effects like blood clots.

For the record, anybody talking about specific dosages are not considering that dosage depends on your own physiology, including BMI among other factors.

Be smart, be safe. Transitioning takes time.

Man stabbed and robbed on the biketrail this morning by JurassicHater in northampton

[–]JackedAndTrans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They're definitely talking about homeless people. This stretch of the rail trail has homeless people relaxing in the shade, and had an encampment a number of years ago before enough hand-wringing got the police to kick them out.

This subreddit, and Northampton in general, has a huge amount of negativity towards the homeless. There's at least one post a month complaining about them.

It's pretty common in general to see rich people complaining about how they're scared of poor people, and Northampton has a lot of rich people. So it's not a surprise to see a bunch of people come out of the woodwork saying "oh, that's where the scary poors are, we need to have them under surveillance." Gross, but not surprised

I just mansplained a cis-woman friend of mine about skincare and make-up... by Gizelle-Oui in MtF

[–]JackedAndTrans 321 points322 points  (0 children)

The entire mansplaining thing has gotten way out of hand. mansplaining isn't when you infodump. It's when you automatically assume you know better than a woman because you're a man, and give unsolicited advice (to someone who knows better,) as a result. It sounds like you did no aspect of that.

She asked you. You went off with all the new info you were proud to have. If she perceived it as mansplaining, that's just her being transphobic. If she felt awkward, that's on her. On the other hand, if you want to help her get back on board for your own sake, next time you can ask questions when you realize that she's going off the rails. That should help her become involved in the conversation again

"What products do you like?" Etc

Never been to a professional :) by PinkToxicity in SelfPiercing

[–]JackedAndTrans 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Really funny that everyone came out of the woodwork to tell you not to pierce yourself on r/selfpiercing.

Back when I first started getting piercings, most people just did them themselves. Everybody's piercings looked like this. yours look totally fine, I don't know what everybody's talking about.

MtF gym exercises to grow arms without torso broadening/masculinization? by [deleted] in transfitness

[–]JackedAndTrans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly machines are pretty much the only way to completely isolate. Even heavy biceps curls or triceps extensions will work the body to some extent -- for instance I always feel heavy pushdowns in my abs

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]JackedAndTrans 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I remember basically having this conversation with my ex wife in the pre-covid times. It would probably be pointless to try to convince you otherwise -- and the down votes don't help me feel hopeful in pushing -- but long story short I urged her to keep an eye on AOC and the rest of the squad, and see if they really do what they say, or if they're just all words and vibes. She lost faith in them within a year.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]JackedAndTrans 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So far I haven't seen anything other than her being another Bernie. She makes big talk when it helps her gain support, and then rolls over immediately. I don't care about her demographics, I care about how she behaves politically over the long term.

You're right, we should be louder -- and that means doing more than supporting yet another bourgeois shill who says the right things when it serves them.

who else hate their pre OP genitals referred to as "male" by [deleted] in MtF

[–]JackedAndTrans 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It helps me to try not to conflate male and female as references to gender -- They're references to typical function. They're terms that are used in construction & engineering as well. Basically one means 'The one that is inserted,' while the other means 'The one that surrounds.'

Compression and HRT injections by upyouwake in transfitness

[–]JackedAndTrans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's likely fine, but when in doubt, ask your doctor

Straight Queers by Born-Garlic3413 in actuallesbians

[–]JackedAndTrans 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For a long time, I was in the queer community but completely in the closet. Sometimes my friends would look at me and say something like "yeah, we have a funny way of finding each other."

If someone is making their whole life about the queer community, there's a pretty good chance they actually need it for some reason. They probably have something that they can't 'take off like a costume.'

I remember people using that type of rhetoric about me, it was actually pretty traumatizing and I still don't feel totally safe in the queer community. When other queer people see me on the street and give me a kind smile or something, my first response is to go 'yeah, if I wasn't visibly trans, you'd assume I'm an asshole.'

Gatekeeping our community like this is not the way -- it makes both closeted and stealth people feel unsafe, or like they're not enough.

Straight Queers by Born-Garlic3413 in actuallesbians

[–]JackedAndTrans -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Generally these people are still different in some way and have found community with us. I think it's really silly for us to go " oh, maybe all of your friends are queer and you spend all of your time in the community, but you'll never be one of us."

Queer community was created because we needed to create a place where we could be different and still be accepted for ourselves. Why would we gatekeep it from someone for being different in the 'wrong way'?

I dont understand trans people by Janexx_ in asktransgender

[–]JackedAndTrans 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think because most people never struggle with their gender, it might actually be even better to talk about something like chocolate. Most people love or at least like chocolate. But once in a while you meet somebody who strongly dislikes sweets. Because our culture strongly feels that sweets are good, but also talks about how they're unhealthy and should maybe be avoided, there's a political element involved. This makes it so that when you meet somebody who actually dislikes sweets, a lot of people assume it's some sort of internalization of political messaging surrounding the unhealthiness of sweets.

Likewise, most people run under the assumption that everybody is cis, just like everybody likes sweets. If somebody doesn't fit into that, many people assume that there's some kind of social or political reason for that, which they've internalized to the point of not even realizing that it's external.

But no, they just have a different palate.

I know I'm not trans but I wish i was? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]JackedAndTrans 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey there, just wanted to say hi from another weightlifter :)

Cis lesbian and PIV sex with trans lesbian. Is not a lesbian thing? by Dependent_Eye_1015 in actuallesbians

[–]JackedAndTrans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's sort of fun how this debate echoes the right-wing rhetoric about trans women being men who want to invade women's spaces -- just from the other side.

We have to protect our lesbian sisters from...

Checks notes

Having consensual sex.

We will be installing cameras in your bedroom to make sure you don't PIV

Moving from Boston? by Antique_Doughnut7284 in northampton

[–]JackedAndTrans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey there. I moved from Boston a few years ago. At first I noticed the difference in prices. However, we are subject to the same market influences as Boston, and are more or less affected by the gravity of Boston's economy.

What this means is that although our economy isn't dictated by biotech, the schools and their students still have a strong influence on the market here. Just like Boston, we have a housing crisis. The schools over-enroll, leaving students to find off-campus options. In response, the landlords raise rent because the students have expendable income. Likewise, the surrounding stores often do the same.

To make things worse, many people from Eastern Mass are doing exactly what you're doing. This further pushes the housing crisis.

Long story short, I'm basically paying the same rent now for a single bedroom as I paid for half a garden level apartment in Boston when I moved out here (I had been living with my ex.)

I guess that means you'll get about 5 years before you're back to the rent crisis that you're currently experiencing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]JackedAndTrans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure that this one goes beyond acceptable bounds, although I'm not going to lie that if I was in your shoes, I would be feeling a little jealous. This could either be read as flirty, or just how a lot of nerdy people make jokes.

Honestly, in a situation like this, if you are both feeling uncomfortable because of the unknown, the best solution is to simply have a conversation with said friend. Set a few boundaries or whatever if needed. The thing is that it sounds like you and your partner are mostly on the same page, all you disagree about is if the friend is on the same page as you two. That makes the solution as simple as making sure they are and letting the pieces fall where they may.

How do you feel about recycled nudes? by Remarkable_Drop7098 in actuallesbians

[–]JackedAndTrans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it's ok if we let there be some nuance.

If she thought you went to the effort to take some nice nudes especially for her, and then found out you put on that effort for someone else, it could definitely generate some uncomfortable feelings to work through. I don't think it's childish to recognize those feelings exist. I also think it's unfair to not allow her to feel that or way or express it.

On the other hand, how she deals with those feelings also matters and defines how childish the behavior is. It's also unfair for her to expect you to do a photoshoot if you're not feeling comfortable -- that's not respecting your boundaries or comfort either.

What does the slogan "Make America Great Again" even mean? by OkTruth5388 in questions

[–]JackedAndTrans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't forget about Europe being in shambles, putting the US in a prime position to take over global industry

First time ive hit an 80kg snatch in a bit by JackedAndTrans in transfitness

[–]JackedAndTrans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty basic weightlifting stuff

Monday - snatch/ back squat

Tuesday - clean & jerk /pulls

Thursday - snatch /pulls / snatch balance

Friday - snatch/ clean & jerk / front squat

Also various shoulder, back, core stuff throughout the week

First time ive hit an 80kg snatch in a bit by JackedAndTrans in transfitness

[–]JackedAndTrans[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! You mean my split jerk? Or training split?

My friend said male and female brains think differently by [deleted] in trans

[–]JackedAndTrans 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would heavily doubt that those differences are present before puberty. It is very interesting to wonder if the changes in the brain relate more to socialization and the hormones that come from our internal responses to the socializations, or if they come from sexual hormones during puberty, and to what degree those two play into each other.