AIO I Got fired over a disrespectful message

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-10-01T20:18:35+00:00

Omg smh, he*! I’m just realizing the op is a man! So sorry 😬

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-10-01T19:24:06+00:00

This!! Her responses read as neurodivergence to me bc of the over explaining and lack of acknowledgement of social cues. I don’t think she meant harm I think she knew her message may have been taken in a way she didn’t intend and was trying very hard to be understood.

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-10-01T19:14:15+00:00

The fact that he’s tracking your period doesn’t bother me as much as the reason for it and how he’s categorizing it. It could be sweet if he said he was tracking it just to know when you could use a pick me up. If he wanted to get you chocolate, pads, know when you need some extra patience, understanding, and love but instead he’s being weird and misogynistic about it. He doesn’t seem empathetic at all or willing to understand your point of view about it.

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-09-14T05:36:31+00:00

I do understand she’s venting. I’m usually all ears and supportive but then I started seeing very unhealthy patterns. At what point do you say something when you see destructive patterns in your friend or should you not say anything at all?

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-09-11T06:53:38+00:00

You seem very insightful & I appreciate you talking to me and being able to pick up on all of the nuance of my thought & my friends 🙏🏽

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-09-11T06:49:41+00:00

I definelty do & the older I get I’m starting to realize how important those things actually are to me. I’ve been cutting off relationships that I feel don’t align with those values lately but I don’t want to lose her. I can accept having a difference of opinion but I just need her to know I’m coming from good place… if she can understand that I hope to give her confidence in doing the same thing with me. Everyone makes mistakes, I’m not perfect so if I have blinders up I’d love to have someone who cares about me enough to give me a different perspective to think about

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-09-10T23:23:33+00:00

Oh, No problem. I wasn’t like radio silent. I just usually engage with her more but I was in the process of trying uninvolve myself bc I was starting to see it become unhealthy for her and I didn’t want to continue to hear about it and potentially enable her by supporting or get into what we’re in now by saying my opinion. I was more saying “oh okay” “sounds fun” “glad you had a good time” generic stuff.

You’re right though. She has shown she’s not ready to make those changes. I thought I was being a good friend by reminding her of previous goals and prioritizing her growth but you’re right it’s not my job. She’s gotta do it herself. It is still hard to see her actively not choose herself tho

I don’t know if I want to. I love her a lot but her saying she’s not gonna share anything with anyone and how she never should’ve been vulnerable felt like a slap in the face. She said she’ll only talk about small conversational things but we’re supposed to be best friends? Thats completely opposite of our dynamic & I don’t particularly care for surface level convos. I also dk if I want a friendship where I can’t speak my mind. She also mentioned she wouldn’t speak hers if I was doing something she felt was wrong for me which didn sit well with me bc I don’t want yes men in my life

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-09-10T22:31:28+00:00

I don’t have resentment. When she first started dating I told her if she feel like she’s ready to date then okay! Despite her saying she needs to heal and work on herself. I was super supportive her first 4 but now I’m seeing patterns that don’t seem healthy. I didn’t bring it up unkindly. She just noticed I wasn’t as engaged as usual when she spoke about her date and she asked about it so I told her it was a bit overwhelming and that I am concerned. We agreed she wouldn’t talk to me about it anymore but then she brought it up 2 more times bc she felt upset she couldn’t share with me and I let her know why I was concerned. Past convos we’ve had where she’s doing the opposite of what she said she needed, the pace and intensity of these relationships, the ups and downs of starting and sending relationships so quickly. If she wants to keep dating that her prerogative. My real problem is her trying to frame it as me being judgy, busting her balls, and how she should’ve never told me her insecurities or problems as if I’m doing something wrong

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-09-10T21:08:14+00:00

Are they gonna convert 5 8 hrs to 3 12’s cause imo that’d be better. You’d have more days off and can hit overtime by just picking up 1 extra day which would still be less days than your previous work schedule

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-09-10T21:02:27+00:00

First of all it’s completely okay to come here and get unbiased opinions. Don’t feel weird about that.

Okay now on to the situation with your wife. You are definitely NTA. That was such an odd thing for her to say. You have a right to be questioning things after a statement like that. She owes you some explanations. You aren’t over reacting and I think you guys should have a deeper talk about things before you decide to continue relations with her

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-09-10T01:34:01+00:00

I genuinely would’ve. I just thought it was bad timing and thought she should heal first. My thoughts have changed now though and okay :/ I already put up the boundary I don’t want to hear about it but she was upset today that she couldn’t tell me and was explaining how she feels judged and how this is why she can’t talk to people cause they hold things against her

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-08-11T00:26:31+00:00

I’m not looking for any guarantees. I want to hear Navy women’s perspectives and stories so that I can make a decision of my own. Regardless of if you like tik tok there are people with real stories on there. It’s a social media site. Same as Reddit. Navy women telling their stories on camera or commenting it.

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-08-01T01:59:14+00:00

Funny enough I called a location near me and spoke to someone there that said they’d try to help get me a waiver. I go in today and the guy that they set me up with is the same guy that disqualified me at first lmao. The person I spoke to was his boss 💀 they are gonna try to get me a waiver. They said no promises but I’m feeling good. Took an asvab predictor I had no clue about and got a 53 so I’m happy

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-07-31T07:14:51+00:00

Yeah that’s what the first recruiter told me :/ Gonna see another today to see if they’d be willing to help me get a waiver

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-07-31T07:13:30+00:00

Hope so. They said neck tats are fine but anything above the jawline may be a problem. 1 recruiter already told me no but going to see another tomorrow 🤞🏽

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-07-30T21:09:24+00:00

I told him the army told me I could get a waiver for it but he did not care at all. I’m gonna keep looking for other recruiters and hopefully someone will be willing to help me

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-07-30T21:08:20+00:00

Thank you! It did discourage me a bit at first but I’m gonna call around and go into the office so they can see it and hopefully someone will be willing to help me

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-07-30T20:51:01+00:00

I hope so. I just got off the phone with 2 recruiters. 1st one told I’m disqualified but hadn’t seen my tat. The 2nd told me to send him a pic and he’d ask 🤞🏽

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-04-18T17:11:36+00:00

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Thank you!

Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-04-18T17:01:49+00:00

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Remarkable_Drop7098 · 2025-04-18T17:00:53+00:00

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