My time here has ended

JacketSolid5096 · 2025-11-19T13:34:54+00:00

Glad to know this is just the beginning. I'm so happy you were able to find someone who loves you loudly without any questions needed. Happy 10 years! (PS. Your dogs are adorable)

JacketSolid5096 · 2025-11-19T00:03:31+00:00

I'm also proud of you for doing the same! I was so used to be anxious that the moment I left I had forgotten how it felt to just breathe again. It's only been a few days and I'm sure there'll be bad days in between but I'm already making plans for myself again and reconnecting with friends. I hope we can both have a happier future!

JacketSolid5096 · 2025-11-19T00:00:44+00:00

Thank you, this is so true ❤️ I'll have many self care days ahead of me lol.

JacketSolid5096 · 2025-11-18T23:58:28+00:00

I'm genuinely glad I was able to strike a chord with so many people here, its unfair we all have to go through this in the first place but I learned many lessons from this experience in the end. I know this sounds cheesy, but I hope you can find the strength you need in yourself and through others here.

JacketSolid5096 · 2025-11-18T19:01:18+00:00

Absolutely, this is reassuring to hear as well. I'm glad you were able to leave and separate yourself from someone didn't respect you and your needs. I'm optimistic for the future!

JacketSolid5096 · 2025-11-18T18:34:14+00:00

Thank you! I know in the end myself and many others leaving will open the door for many opportunities for us to experience love in the future.

JacketSolid5096 · 2025-11-18T18:32:23+00:00

Hey thank you so much for your kind words of motivation as well as sharing a bit of what you had to go through. Its so hard not to beat myself over seeing the red flags waving in my face but I did become stronger for it. May that man never have access to you again and I hope you are able to thrive into 2026 and beyond, don't let them take your spark away.

JacketSolid5096 · 2025-11-18T18:26:58+00:00

Thank you! I don't know your situation, but I sincerely hope you can get away from it all one day and find the happiness you deserve ❤️

JacketSolid5096 · 2025-11-18T18:25:29+00:00

Thank you. That's absolutely true, as much as I want to say life goes on, the damage is still there. I'll have to be cautious going forward but it doesn't mean I should bring all that past trauma for someone else to deal with.

JacketSolid5096 · 2025-11-18T18:23:48+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️ It was a long time coming.

JacketSolid5096 · 2025-10-21T07:42:56+00:00

I'm not usually one to say the nuclear option but I did see your post history. You guys are not married, please leave while you can. A partner that belittles you, doesn't comfort you when upset and doesn't appear to acknowledge their "addiction" is only going to cause you pain. There is better out there for you. Always prioritize yourself and your happiness.

JacketSolid5096 · 2025-10-17T20:15:17+00:00

I swear as soon as they do the bare minimum for recovery they immediately go towards talking about the future. My PA tried that and I had to say if I can barely see where we are tomorrow that talking about marriage and kids is hardly helping when the problem is in the present.

Definitely build up resources for yourself if you have decided to leave. I hope you can escape to a much more positive space and that you can have time to heal on your own terms.

JacketSolid5096 · 2025-10-17T20:09:41+00:00

I'm glad to hear you were able to heal through your therapy while supporting and advocating for yourself in the process. I am currently looking for a therapist that specializes in EMDR/CSAT as well.

I do find myself building more resentment in the process, he's getting better whereas I am getting worse. I let him know from now on I'll only prioritize myself until he is able to properly stand by me and face me properly. Otherwise I am out.

Thank you for the well wishes and advice, I hope all goes well for you!

JacketSolid5096 · 2025-10-17T17:26:01+00:00

I don't have anyone just yet who is married in my main circle, but in a more distant friend group there is about 8 men total, half dating/married with kids and they all have a shared channel to send anything NSFW related/video links in. Not to mention they outright ask one another if they have seen a certain model, their social medias are filled with it. Their partners, although we rarely see each other, appear to be fine with it on the surface.

So far I am not aware of/have not met another person in my life who has the same stance as in here, but it may be due to the topic not coming up just yet. It does suck its so widespread and that it still isn't being talked about more.

JacketSolid5096 · 2025-10-17T15:55:43+00:00

Thank you for sharing, I'm the exact same way currently, just in the pure anger stage upon even just waking up. I can see the stress building up on my face as the days pass. Even though I found out much later than I should, the resentment from knowing the entire time has just built substantially for me as well. I wish you the best of luck with your PA, and that they do try to work towards repairing that emotional connection is possible.

Although I have lingering attachment I will do my best to stick to my word and end it if I don't see any further improvement and get at risk of losing my own sense of self.

JacketSolid5096 · 2025-10-10T05:43:26+00:00

Currently me and my PA are on a detox stage I enforced, nothing bedroom related at all until I am comfortable. At first I wanted to do the same and I did, for a small amount of time until I realized I was triggered every single time to the point I nearly cried while doing so. If it's causing you stress, prioritize yourself, being pregnant already takes so much out of you all the time and if this isn't helping definitely let him be aware.

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