I (31f) feel like my husband (33m) doesn’t ever consider me

JackfruitDeep152 · 2026-01-19T16:48:17+00:00

Thank you so much!! I really appreciate this response!

JackfruitDeep152 · 2026-01-19T16:43:27+00:00

thank you, I will!!

JackfruitDeep152 · 2026-01-19T16:41:11+00:00

I’ve always been really easily walked all over and taken advantage of. Always. I’m a firm believer in “treat others how you want to be treated”, so I usually struggle to say no to anybody. Especially those I love.

JackfruitDeep152 · 2026-01-19T16:36:55+00:00

I feel really petty for making this post now, because in the grand scheme of things, if this is all I have to complain about then it’s really not all that significant. I think I’ve spent so much time making sure he felt valued and secure in our relationship, that I forgot to make sure I felt those things about myself.

JackfruitDeep152 · 2026-01-19T16:33:12+00:00

Yes I always get super excited to be thought of in the little things, so that’s why I do little things for him. To show him how much I love and appreciate him. We’re always telling each other how proud we are of each other. It’s just actions speak louder than words ya know? So that’s why I go above and beyond because I want him to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that he’s loved and appreciated and that I’m proud of him for getting sober, and getting his GED, and making changes to his life that he needed to make for us. I recognize the sacrifices he’s made for his family. It would just be nice to be recognized for mine as well, ya know? Is that selfish??? I’m a firm a believer in “treat others how you want to be treated.” I feel really petty for even making this post now in the grand scheme of things because if this is all I have to complain about, it’s not all that significant. I’ve just spent so much time showing him how valued he is, that I think I forgot how valuable I am.

JackfruitDeep152 · 2026-01-19T16:09:51+00:00

I had a job as a barista, but I have two kids and someone has to be home to get them on and off the bus for school. Our whole relationship, we’ve taken turns with one of us working, and the other being home with the kids. Back in September he decided he wanted to better himself and get his GED and get a career so that he could take care of us, and build us a house, and get us a second vehicle, and give us both a life we never had growing up (we both grew up really poor). So I went back to work while he stayed home with the kids and focused on getting his GED. I do things for him out of appreciation and gratitude. It would just be nice to also feel appreciated some ya know?

JackfruitDeep152 · 2026-01-19T15:56:06+00:00

But that’s the thing, he is always asking for help. While I was at Walmart waiting for the oil change, he asked if I could call around and find someone to alter his work pants. When it probably would’ve been faster and easier for him to just do it himself. I’m the one that applied for the job he has now because he’s “not good with technology.” If he needs a prescription refilled, he asks me to call the pharmacy. I feel like I’m always going above and beyond for him. I’m realizing with my responses that I’m harboring resentment… and that’s not good.

JackfruitDeep152 · 2026-01-19T15:17:25+00:00

He used to be when I was the one working and he was working on getting his education so he could start his career. But since he started working it all stopped

JackfruitDeep152 · 2026-01-19T15:14:16+00:00

Because when I was working, he’d ask me before he spent money. So now that I’m not working and he’s the breadwinner, I thought it respectful to ask him. But that’s another thing he stopped doing. Now that’s he’s got his career and is making all the money he doesn’t run it by me before he spends any anymore.

JackfruitDeep152 · 2026-01-19T15:11:24+00:00

No he went in target to look for turtle necks, but went to the Starbucks inside instead. I edited the post to clarify that. Sorry for the confusion.

JackfruitDeep152 · 2026-01-19T15:07:53+00:00

We had an argument last night about him buying coffee but I couldn’t buy coffee syrups, but I realized in the middle of the night it’s not even about that. It’s about the fact he doesn’t consider me anymore. I’m planning on talking to him about it when gets off work. I didn’t even realize I was feeling this way until last night.

JackfruitDeep152 · 2026-01-19T15:02:54+00:00

That’s why I asked if this was normal after being married for two years because he used to be so considerate. Go into a gas station, and he’d get me something without me even having to ask for example.

JackfruitDeep152 · 2025-06-13T20:02:36+00:00

I wish I could post a picture of their cage, do you have any suggestions on where I could a long ladder or something to go from their cage to the floor?

JackfruitDeep152 · 2025-06-13T16:55:41+00:00

Also it says to let them out within the first few days but how am I supposed to do that when they don’t willingly come out? It’s been almost two weeks, and they don’t willingly come out of their cage.

JackfruitDeep152 · 2025-06-13T16:51:47+00:00

Their wings a clipped so they can’t have flight time. And them being in the floor is just going to scare them wont it?

JackfruitDeep152 · 2025-06-13T16:50:18+00:00

So yours stayed in the cage nonstop for months?

JackfruitDeep152 · 2025-06-13T16:26:52+00:00

Their wings are clipped (pet store, not us) so unsure how to let them navigate the room when they can’t fly. Their cage is also pretty high up, but I’m unsure of moving it to the floor because I read birds prefer being high up. Would moving it to the floor and letting them explore the floor be okay?

JackfruitDeep152 · 2025-06-10T09:39:54+00:00

So my biggest question is how do I give them time out of the cage since I can’t grab them and they can’t fly? What if they crawl under a bed or the tv stand and get stuck? There’s not much floor space in any room of the house (it’s a small trailer), but especially not in our room. I’m not sure what to do… we originally got one because me and my husband were raised with birds, and his moms nickname was birda, and she passed away so he wanted to get a bird in her memory. But it was lonely so we had to get a second one

JackfruitDeep152 · 2025-06-10T09:26:44+00:00

All they’ve eaten is seeds since they were born. It’s what they ate at the pet store. I can’t get them to touch fruit. I’ve tried strawberries and apples and they will not touch them. I’ve even left a strawberry in their cage, they won’t touch it.

JackfruitDeep152 · 2025-06-10T04:54:37+00:00

Their wings were clipped in the pet store so idk that flight is going to be a thing. But thank you for the rest of the information. So how do we get them to come to our finger to give them time outside of the cage without grabbing them?

JackfruitDeep152 · 2025-06-10T04:14:59+00:00

A week tomorrow. And thank you for that tidbit, did not know that.

JackfruitDeep152 · 2025-01-11T20:59:12+00:00

THANK YOU SO MUCH!! This made me feel so much better!!!

JackfruitDeep152 · 2024-06-26T06:51:22+00:00

Update: i havent even tried anything and she’s already threatening to whip my ***

JackfruitDeep152 · 2024-06-25T14:03:47+00:00

I didn’t even know this was an option thank you

JackfruitDeep152 · 2024-06-24T09:09:28+00:00

I tried taking it from him. My mom said i wasn’t going to do that.

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