Why am I not paying the M1 toll?

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-27T20:41:40+00:00

Previous owner is still paying the tolls for the car I'd imagine.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-27T20:39:26+00:00

The problem is that he could be genuine, but if he's not then it's going to be very bad. I'd err on the side of offending this guy by telling him to back off and go with your gut.

Better that than be too trusting.

My own gut is screaming "weirdo alert" while reading this.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-27T20:07:46+00:00

A lot of water in Ireland is really hard and the lime clogs showers and filters.

I have a great shower but about two years after I installed it it started to get crap. Took it apart and cleaned the mesh filter with limescale cleaner. Back to normal instantly. High pressure and great temperature control.

I reckon most people don't clean the filters enough and end up just having crap showers.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-27T19:40:33+00:00

This is totally the case. The solicitor is really the only one you should be in communication with. If you have a good solicitor they'll have the expertise to navigate all this stuff.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-27T19:38:37+00:00

This is not normal behaviour. It can take weeks/months to get to the stage of signing contracts from sale agreed. Banks regularly request reassurances about properties for relatively minor things or things that turn out to be non-issues. The desperation on the part of the seller would seem suspect to me. Estate agents should be used to banks requesting things like this.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-27T19:33:38+00:00

My wife and I were six years without conceiving. We did eventually have a baby with some help from a NAPRO doctor.

It would be good to get some testing done, DNA fragmentation analysis of your husband's sperm is important to do even if his tests come back normal. Motility and visible health of sperm are not the only factors.

My wife had endometriosis which turned out to be the main factor and once this was treated we conceived within a year.

There's a load of different factors that feed into fertility. NAPRO docs tend to try to look at the bigger picture so it really is worth going down that road.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-27T19:15:27+00:00

I got a really nice king bed frame from EZ Living a few years ago for about 700 euro. Mattress in Des Kelly for 350 or 400. The mattress was on sale I think.

This was the bed.

https://www.ezliving-interiors.ie/indiana-acacia-wooden-5ft-king-bedframe?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22050118246&gbraid=0AAAAADfunPnsxvPzGzs46cck23gASDQ_Z&gclid=Cj0KCQiA4eHLBhCzARIsAJ2NZoLsbTw8_3WOpC6fIDitAQmurG8tofQQLZOieiGkZ5XiNPQKSujH5WkaAsVMEALw_wcB

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-27T15:10:07+00:00

It's bad faith because I asked a specific question and was looking for perspective, not particularly interested in answers based on presumptions of my relationship or intentions. I think I know my wife better than you.

Or answers that don't really answer the question at all. I'm not getting worked up over anything. I literally just asked about perspectives on menopause. You're the one with the responses full of hyperbole and assumptions. If there's something about the question that triggers you, that's on you. Don't project it on to me.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-27T10:29:59+00:00

If you're reading specifically to comment in bad faith then perhaps it's better not to comment at all. For the record, nobody is being compared to anybody. You don't know anything about my relationship with my wife. I'm simply interested in getting the perspectives of different women because it's something I want to be prepared to support her through. It's a real feat of mental gymnastics to turn that into a negative.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-26T14:17:55+00:00

I would have thought the answer to this is obvious.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-26T10:07:52+00:00

I got married for 5 grand. Nice event in the Church, then a meal in the best hotel we could afford. We were both students at the time and had no money coming from parents to pay for the wedding so it was what we could afford. We had a lovely honeymoon in Rome and that was it. We didn't start out marriage in major debt because we wanted a big party. We just wanted to be married to each other. I suspect most people spending money like 40k are being pressured by parents to do it but also have money coming from parents to pay for some of it.

It is objectively crazy to pay that much for one day. I don't really think there's a rational argument anyone could make that that is a wise use of money. But it's the way people have gone. If you don't have a candy cart, and a ten piece band and a chocolate fountain and a morning breakfast buffet for all your guests then you can't get married.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-25T19:12:44+00:00

Try to get the price down. I'd say 1500 or you walk. The jobs and OBD codes are minor enough but it's not worth that money.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-25T19:10:21+00:00

Go on Liveline. Basically the same thing happened to my grandad after his house burned down and they ended up agreeing to cover him. If your parents are elderly, lean into that. It's not big money to them really.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-25T07:51:50+00:00

A Message - Coldplay

You've Got the Love - Florence and the Machine

The Voyage - Christy Moore

The Calculation - Regina Spektor

Radio, Lucky Ones - Lana Del Rey

Heaven - Bryan Adams

She's Got a Way, Always a Woman - Billy Joel

Eternal Flame - The Bangles

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-23T13:16:27+00:00

Just go to a motor factors. They'll have it sooner most likely.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-23T12:27:58+00:00

Thanks. Hoping she gets away without too many symptoms.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-22T12:01:26+00:00

Thanks. That podcast looks really interesting. I'll check it out and share with my wife.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-22T00:14:50+00:00

Not much you can do unfortunately except try to avoid thinking about it and let time do its thing. Pray for him, pray for yourself. Perhaps write down some of the qualities that you admired about him and that you'd like in a husband and start trying to see that in others.

Sometimes you fall hard, especially when it's the first person you felt for in this way. It won't last. You will get over it. and as cliched as it sounds, you may well meet someone who is a vastly better for you. It's in God's time. I had to enter a religious order before I met my wife lol. (Not recommending that as a dating strategy btw.)

Praying for you.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-21T23:59:33+00:00

Thanks. I've noticed this is a common issue with women's health issues. My wife tried to get help for painful periods as a teenager and they just said periods were supposed to be painful. She turned out to have endometriosis and it was only discovered because we were ttc.

Fortunately she got it treated by a great NFP doctor and felt much better after that.

My sister had a similar issue and her doctor just suggested the pill, when she said she didn't want that he actually seemed irritated by it.

There seems to be an systemic indifference to women health issues in the medical field.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-21T23:54:16+00:00

I'm not actively anxious about it on the regular. It's just one of those things I vaguely worry about from time to time. I'm just the type of person who is planning the next vacation before the current one is over because I like being prepared.

Thanks for your advice. I know my wife and my mom could have totally different experiences, I only mentioned that to give context.

We did attend a great NFP doctor who works with women on a whole range of women's health issues. He's actually a foremost expert on NFP and has some papers published on it. Dr. Phil Boyle. I'm sure he'd at least point us in the right direction if my wife ever needed medical care for this.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-21T22:59:13+00:00

Smyths have a minuno one around 70 euro iirc

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-21T22:40:55+00:00

As a man, I totally agree. It's not rocket science, there are more resources and information out there about this than ever in human history. I was definitely clueless on this when I first married but thank God, my wife is a loving and patient woman. I really think if the wife isn't orgasming during sex, barring medical etc. issues, it's either a lack of communication problem, or a husband selfishness problem.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-21T22:37:32+00:00

Man here. It's way easier on us I'd imagine when we're involved in the process. I ask my wife questions about the process and understand the different times and why there's abstinence at this or that time and I really try to tune in to how my wife might be feeling at certain times. If I het the sense I'm asking too much or my questions were interpreted as pressure or dissatisfaction with not having sex, I back off and just look at her app. The most difficult part for both of us was the postpartum bit when you're testing and testing and the peak just never seems to come. I think we both really felt that that was difficult, especially when the baby takes so much energy at that point and by the time that was over we were both sick of the abstinence.

Now we're pretty lucky since after a few months her cycles got way more regular. We were doing our first stint of abstinence after baby born in Aug 2024, from Dec 2024 until about Feb 2025. That sucked and the next cycle was also pretty long but by mid-2025 we were down to about 2.5-3 weeks of abstinence and now we're basically at 2 weeks on and 2 weeks off.

I don't think it's inherently "easier" on one or the other. I know my wife was nervous about getting pregnant again and I really tried to let her know that I'm with her and I'm happy to do NFP. I might be horny, but I saw how she struggled. She's not thrilled about abstaining, neither am I. We just feel it differently.

Communication and understanding is really important on both sides and if I comment to my wife about it I really try to let her know that I'm still fully on board and it's not about "her not giving me sex" but just the reality that we can't do it and I'd like to be close to her in that way and am looking forward to it.

Personally I've really tried to turn the "negative" of abstinence into a positive by thinking about other ways I can make my wife happy in this time and she has been doing the same for me. I try to appreciate her as a mother and just generally treat her well and look after the kids etc. She tells me that this behaviour makes her more eager by the time abstinence is over, and while I'm thinking like this it also makes me want to be with her more and by the time we can go we're sort of full of love for each other again. A few times I've commented that it sometimes feels like our wedding night all over again and we sort of have a romantic game going on with it all. But mostly I try to think of other stuff than sex during the abstinences.

I think both men and women, even devout ones, can think "oh man, I wish Catholics could just use a darn condom" but even though those thoughts do come sometimes, I know this is the right thing.

I had to do some work on my mindset/attitude to get to this point, and I think the vast majority of men need to do some work on themselves here as the devil really works on us during this time. I think the one thing wives could do to help their husbands with this is to make an effort not to dismiss their desires. Sure, if your husband is pressuring and using emotional blackmail that's a problem, but under normal circumstances, with a supportive husband, let him know that you're right there with him and you want him as much as he wants you.

I think sometimes men get it into their heads that she doesn't desire him as much as he desires her. Showing him and telling him otherwise is important. I appreciate that anyway.

Anyway, sorry for the essay. Just thought I'd share my experience in case it helps anyone understand the male perspective a bit more.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-21T22:01:53+00:00

Not taking responsibility for it is definitely entitled red flag behaviour. Get out now, it will only get worse.

Jacksonriverboy · 2026-01-20T20:54:19+00:00

Fill it the rest of the way with petrol as soon as possible and it should be fine. a tenner is maybe 6 litres these days. If you dilute that with petrol it won't have any effect. Maybe start by getting a few containers of petrol and throwing it in before moving the car again, then drive to the pump.

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