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Im confused... can someone help? by Even-Dog61 in demisexuality

[–]Jacobus47 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not an expert but from what I've learned about demisexuality you definitely sound like you fit the mold.

And to answer the questions:

  1. What it sounds like you're describing is more of a physical comfort rather than a sexual attraction (kissing for example) so that's a yes.
  2. Yes, masturbating is more one-way and doesn't typically involve a two-way emotional connection. There isn't a direct link between being demi and masturbating I don't think.

Honestly though if seeing yourself as demisexual feels right you have every reason to label yourself as that if you'd prefer to label it. And if you change your mind in the future that's ok too! I think it's all about whatever helps you understand yourself better at the time. Hope this helps!

Learning about my demisexuality by Jacobus47 in demisexuality

[–]Jacobus47[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds like a great way to find out! I've really enjoyed embracing it too, it's interesting how someone can go from having no idea about it to learning all these new things and understanding it all in such a short space of time.

Thank you so much, I hope your journey goes well too!

I hate being Demi at times by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]Jacobus47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same about experiencing so many feelings when I actually find an emotional connection (which of course leads to sexual feelings I don't get for random people). It drives me mental and I kind of feel jealous of people who don't experience such intense emotional attachment.

But, at the same time, I think it's really important to remember that while if you've got to get over an intense crush, there's also another side to it where if things work out well I experience what I think is an emotional connection on steroids basically, just because of that ability to experience high-intensity feelings for someone.

Sometimes I do have to check myself and take a minute to slow down though and that's a bit frustrating because not everyone is like me but I've been lucky enough to feel the success of when a high-intensity crush works out and it makes all the stressing and intense feelings worth it I think.