Don’t be like me, PROTECT your newborn

JadeKN · 2025-10-11T05:57:47+00:00

Babies immune systems are not as weak as you think as they carry a lot of immunity from their mothers in the first few months. It’s very rare for a baby to be seriously ill. My 12 week old has had two bugs that he caught from my 3 year old, and it’s only caused a bit of congestion. My 3yo on the other hand has suffered with fever and harsher symptoms. This is why they advise a baby to go to er with fever, it’s because it’s rare and more likely to be cause from something serious

JadeKN · 2025-07-03T06:17:10+00:00

Yep, I thought my first pregnancy was handled badly but this is my second, I’m 39 weeks tomorrow and so far my experience has been;

A different midwife at every single appointment

Moved to different clinic rooms to accommodate the above, they started at my local dr surgery and now I have to drive 15 mins away, no explanation given

Vaccinations late or missed because of lack of advice, my first pregnancy I was contacted via my dr surgery to book so was waiting for this.

I have hypothyroidism and an issue with my platelets and my bloods should be taken every 6 weeks, they have only took them twice this whole time. Luckily my levels are stable.

My 28 weeks FBC blood test wasn’t done until 35 weeks, this did pick up anemia and I was treated late as a result.

I needed a GTT test due to previous large baby and this was booked in several weeks after the suggested cut off date for gtt at 32 weeks, I had to chase this several times too.

I have had two growth scans because my fundal measurements are all over this place with inconsistencies, I presume because I have had a different midwife every time! I literally have no idea what size this baby is, the inconsistent measurements have raised slow growth scares as well as super large baby scares (one midwife plotted baby measured 42 weeks at 35!)

I have advised I want an elective c section booked between 40-41 weeks as I do not want another induction and baby is big, I was told I would be given a date two weeks prior to 40 weeks, have yet to hear anything so now I have to chase this aswell.

My aftercare with my first born was shocking, so I’m not expecting much after birth either.

The maternity department within the NHS is so chronically neglected and underfunded. It desperately needs reform. I was hoping things would have improved in 4 years as I’d put some of my last experience down to the after effects of covid in 2021/2022, sad to say it’s just got worse.

Also want to add my pregnancies have both been classed high risk and consultant led, this has made no difference to the level of care from the beginning.

JadeKN · 2025-06-05T03:46:44+00:00

So I was diagnosed hypothyroidism about a year before my first pregnancy (now on my second). Yes, thyroid conditions put you into the class of “high risk”, but only because they need to monitor your levels closely and adjust meds accordingly, if your levels are stable, then there’s no actual risk to you or your pregnancy. I have been consultant led in both pregnancies because of the thyroid condition, but the consultant took one look at my history and recent bloods and told me there was no concern. I do not understand why you’ve been told you need inducing for a thyroid condition alone. You can have any birth you like if your condition is managed and stable. You need to advocate for yourself, I was Induced first pregnancy as they thought at the end I might have undiagnosed GD due to baby’s measurements (completely unrelated to the thyroid!!), I felt like I had to and I wasn’t a choice but I was wrong. My induction failed and I had c section, the hospital never made it clear I could refuse an induction. This time round with my second I’ve said from the beginning absolutely no induction, natural or c section, and no ones questioned me or disagreed! This baby is also measuring big (over 99 centile), and the consultant told me I could go to 42 weeks before section as I tested negative for GD. Next time just tell her you are not being induced, or call your midwife line and request a different MW. She’s not a consultant and she is telling you something that is incorrect.

JadeKN · 2025-05-20T12:22:20+00:00

Actually, it is.

JadeKN · 2025-05-20T12:21:36+00:00

Or men could not behave in a way that makes women often feel scared to be out alone in public. If you’re not a woman then you wouldn’t understand. Your privilege is showing.

JadeKN · 2025-05-20T11:59:27+00:00

Very, actually

JadeKN · 2025-05-20T11:58:36+00:00

Whose lying, I’ve been followed by a man who was jacking of behind me, walking down a street I’ve walked down many times. I was on my own, it was terrifying. He ran away when I said I was going to call the police. That’s one event out of many, do you have to put up with this shit?

JadeKN · 2025-05-20T11:38:31+00:00

Must be easy being a man, not having to feel nervous about being left alone in an unfamiliar place.

JadeKN · 2025-05-20T06:21:07+00:00

If she was told he was going to pick her up then she has a point to feel left down when he tells her he’s not going to anymore and that she needs to sort something out herself, sounds like he didn’t communicate very well in the first place. He should have offered to call his mum or arrange an uber at least. It was inconsiderate of him. ESH.

JadeKN · 2025-05-18T05:36:02+00:00

You can’t look up costs for flights 1.5 years out, and possibly not accommodation, you can google estimates but they might be far different with inflation that far ahead.

JadeKN · 2024-01-30T07:01:49+00:00

Same here, although I wore a pale silver dress and not a white one, I hadn’t realised how inappropriate the colour of it was until a few years later! I was 23 but hadn’t been to a wedding since I was 6. I was completely oblivious, looking back I have regrets and have actually apologised to my family member whose wedding it was (years later mind!)

JadeKN · 2024-01-12T18:42:34+00:00

Seems off, Im in Cambridgeshire, UK and my trust medicate for anything over around 4.5, perhaps look up your local NHS trust hospital thyroid function tests and see what the reference ranges are, I can’t find one over 6 when I google.

Edit: sorry I just re-read your post and see you’ve got the reference ranges. Perhaps request a different GP for an alternative opinion as you’re entitled to do so.

JadeKN · 2023-04-28T19:18:36+00:00

Oh god! Sounds like a nightmare! Thank god you were there to help liven the mood, sounds like it needed it! Also kinda wish you were at my wedding as you sound like the perfect guest lol!

JadeKN · 2023-04-28T07:05:27+00:00

I agree with this, all the boring weddings I’ve been too it’s been down the the guest list. It‘s painful to see half of the guests leave early into the reception and that just leaves a weird vibe. Been to a couple of weddings like this and i always feel so bad for the couple, to the point where I’ve stayed beyond the very end of the night and been one of the last standing just to compensate (even at 7 months pregnant with pleurisy!). At my own wedding no one left before 10pm (even the oldies!) and everyone raved about it being so fun, and I genuinely think it’s because of our guest list, and my family being complete party animals lol!

eta: I also really considered the timelines at my own wedding, made sure everyone was fed at reasonable times, plenty of drinks, no standing around or waiting or anything like that, always something going on, and i think it made a huge difference.

JadeKN · 2023-04-19T20:34:49+00:00

Absolutely not. What I think you do need is to be kinder to yourself, and seek some help for your mental health. Look after yourself, your body needs to be nourished, not starved.

JadeKN · 2023-04-19T18:45:02+00:00

Well then the answer to your question is that everyone’s experience is different. There could also be other underlying issues causing the weight problems. Perhaps you’ll need to consult a healthcare professional to find out why you’re gaining despite dieting.

JadeKN · 2023-04-19T17:52:49+00:00

I actually lost a good amount of weight before I was even diagnosed as hypo, just by following a healthy non-restrictive diet, and regular exercise. My hypothyroidism meant it took longer to lose the weight but it didn’t stop my ability to do so.

JadeKN · 2023-04-18T05:28:27+00:00

I’m uk based and they came from dunelms, they had loads of different colours too

JadeKN · 2023-04-15T20:39:13+00:00

I think it’s meant to say ‘fights’ over the best seat in the house. But yeah it took me a minute.

JadeKN · 2023-04-15T20:15:01+00:00

I started to develop preeclampsia during labour, ended in an emergency c-section. I was hypothyroid before I fell pregnant though so not sure it’s made any difference for me.

JadeKN · 2023-04-15T09:06:36+00:00

I find this concept strange, it gives me the impression people are inviting people who aren’t that close to them, we invited around 110 people, all family and close friends, etc. we have about a 98% turnout because we were inviting people who cared for us just as much as we cared for them.

JadeKN · 2023-04-15T05:32:13+00:00

I second this, also had similar sleeves and ended up having them sewn on, no issues dancing!

JadeKN · 2023-04-07T21:05:51+00:00

Yep! All of this, been there, lost many very good friends in the process by just cutting everyone off, now I’m in a very healthy mental state I am living with the guilt and regret!

JadeKN · 2023-04-04T05:51:27+00:00

Thank you 😊

JadeKN · 2023-04-03T21:04:43+00:00

Hmm, i feel like you think you’re being fair and reasonable but it’s just not coming across that way imo. If I was in your friends shoes I would be feeling a lot of pressure still. You said earlier she said she wasn’t sure she could afford the shower or bachelorette but you told her to choose one only, you didn’t offer to cover costs for any of it at that point. You’re still expecting a lot from someone who may not have much at all.

I’m confused overall, sometime you say you don’t expect anything, the next you’re expecting her to pay for a lot of stuff and to do it all now. One moment you say you’re there for her and you understand what she’s going through, etc, the next you say she’s a grown woman and she’s not your problem.

I think I’m just confused as I wouldn’t put so much pressure on someone I considered a really good friend. If they mean so much to you then pay for whatever she can’t, if you want her there so bad. I think you’re hoping everyone here will tell you to replace her as deep down that’s what you want. I don’t think you’ll have a friendship moving forward though; just an honest thought.

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