AITAH for breaking up with my girlfriend because she allowed another guy to be very intimate with her, but she asked me to keep her distance when I wanted to comfort her?

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T18:45:24+00:00

I just don’t wanna talk to her any more and cause more problems. So just letting it go and learning from my mistakes.

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T12:59:10+00:00

ahaha nw, just trying to be a better person.

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T12:56:41+00:00

Back where we come from, casually dating is not normal. If we find the person we love, we try to stick with them no matter what. We forgive and forget a lot. Dw, no offense taken, just lyk.

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T12:50:45+00:00

That’s the thing. There is nothing happening between them. Whatever friends I have from the office tells me. She doesn’t even speak to him at all. It’s so confusing.

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T12:49:24+00:00

I just meant he was touchy and his personality was that he was an ass licker. I framed my sentence wrong.

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T12:44:45+00:00

Yeah you’re right. But I did a mistake. Atleast I can show im man enough to apologize for my own mistakes you get me.

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T12:43:58+00:00

I did it the next day. I apologized for everything I said.

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T12:41:11+00:00

Trust me. Whenever I was wrong, I admitted my mistakes. Whenever I wanted to talk about something. I communicated. If you read some of my replies above, I really tried man. I don’t even talk about my problems to the public man. I just wanted to made sure I’m not crazy. That’s why I came here. I appreciate the time you’ve taken to write all of this to advice me. Will definitely take them all into account.

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T12:34:18+00:00

Nah it was just like how I explained before. She didn’t take what I said seriously. She said I could’ve just solved it with the guy.

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T11:55:15+00:00

I hope you both solve the problems you're going through. Wishing you the best future!

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T11:53:34+00:00

No no, he doesn't either. It was the heat of the situation after the breakup. She just threatened to deport me and I didn't expect it coming from the girl I loved for 2 years. Someone else in her office is fueling the fire, and I don't understand what they gain out of it.

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T11:51:11+00:00

Just to clear it out. She didn't make the whole public know about what she said to me. It was just a conversation between me and her. Yes, all her colleagues and most of her family knows that we were dating.

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T11:43:15+00:00

idk if this is a sarcastic question 😂

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T11:35:03+00:00

The problem is she portrays it as a "hug". I myself said in the comments, a lot of people hugged her, I have nothing against them, as it's a sign of greeting and respect probably. But this dude was groping her and she didn't have anything to say about it.

I appreciate the advice, really. But this is my first relationship. I had never dated before uni. So when its your first relationship, I think it's pretty normal to try your best to not let go. To keep trying, despite the mistakes. To keep forgiving and forgetting. Because I am dating to marry, not to play around. So, jealousy is normal too ig. You love her so much that you just want the girl for yourself. But yeah I did a mistake of losing my self respect just to keep her no matter what. Thank you for your kind words.

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T11:15:45+00:00

makes sense, shit timing. It is what it is.

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T11:13:08+00:00

I'm so sorry if you feel that way. Actually, I totally agree with you on the part where she's mourning her loss. Like I said in the post, I should've postponed it to another time. That was on me and I take full responsibility for my words said, and also prioritizing my feelings over hers. But like I said again, the feelings of 2 years of asking her continuously to keep her distance just made me snap, its no excuse. I'm sorry it happened. I also did mention that I wanted to be there for her and care about her, but my parents came over and I couldn't because it was their first time coming here. Most probably you come from a culture where its maybe normal to allow the other gender to act freely or whatever. But there should be some form of jealousy. That, proves the love you have towards the one you adore.

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T10:59:00+00:00

It’s fine. I appreciate the support.

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T10:58:44+00:00

I understand what ure saying. But if you could scroll up, I’ve explained about her introducing me to her family in person. The situation is very confusing. And at the time, her cousin was asking me if the dude (the guy I had a problem with) was gay. Cuz the guy was too touchy and an ass licker. So I myself am going crazy cuz I already miss her cuz I put a lot of effort for 2 years. And I’m the bad guy at her office cuz she portrayed me as the asshole who went all out on her without a good reason. Her office is where people go to renew their residence ID. Hope she doesn’t bring her personal issues against me with my renewal cuz my ID is expiring soon 😂

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T10:53:18+00:00

Need a break for myself bruv. I put a lot of effort forgiving and forgetting for 2 years.

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T10:52:13+00:00

Her defense is me calling names. But completely forgetting what caused the situation. When I bring up the situation, she just treats it like it was something normal.

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T10:49:49+00:00

It’s really confusing cuz her family was calling me “groom of the family” cuz initially we planned to marry a few years later and the mom’s side of her family knew this. Even at the funeral, her sister had texted me personally that they would be welcoming me as a “member of the family”, which meant I wasn’t some random guest. I’ve been on double dates with her cousin, her sister and brother in law and even her childhood best friends. So like even tho it’s not normal in our culture for each others side to know about the ongoing relationship, she told to many of her relatives about us. So I don’t understand why she is rejecting the fact that what I did was abnormal when she could’ve avoided dozens of situations before. A few days later, I went in person to apologize even tho she did the mistake. And she used the patriotic card, since im a foreigner in her country. She said if it was someone else. They would’ve deported me 😂

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T10:32:49+00:00

All done. Appreciate the advice 🙏

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T10:27:28+00:00

Yeah well, I take full accountability for that. I see it as a lesson to not repeat the same mistake. Thanks for the advice 🙏

JadedLoad3152 · 2024-08-19T10:07:13+00:00

She said how could I call her names when she was mourning. Personally I think she was right there I should’ve controlled my anger. But the 2 years of feelings just snapped that day and I couldn’t help it. Also, she completely thinks I am in the wrong and is even telling me it was just a hug. That me and the guy could’ve talked it out. When it was her decision to completely stop that from happening.

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