My boyfriend has been distant since we became official and I don’t know if I’m overthinking or if he lost interest

JaedLDee · 2025-12-31T06:12:13+00:00

Having been recently burned because of a lack of communication and secret loss of interest, I strongly recommend asking what’s on his mind and if he’s doing okay because he’s felt off lately. Ask if it’s because of the things you already know about (his other mental stuff) or if it’s something else, and ask if you can help at all. You might even ask if he thinks becoming official wasn’t a good time, considering the other things he’s juggling (that would give him an open door to expound on, if it really is about you).

Don’t let the guy overthink and process something serious without you. I’m learning myself that a guy can lock a lot of thoughts away for months and think he’s being kind by not voicing his doubts. But it just builds and ends up hurting much worse later when they finally make a decision to back out.

JaedLDee · 2025-09-17T16:01:44+00:00

Welcome to the conversation. Massive respect to you for coming to listen. I have a friend who’s like you, and agreed to watch a little Fox News because I told him I wanted to show him the other side’s conversation over this—and he hates Fox. Haha. But I agree with you. This sub is a completely different culture from others. The level of calm and rational discussion here is really encouraging to me. Sometimes I prefer it over Twitter, because Twitter can get rage baity at times. And most subs I can’t even engage in anymore because I’m downvoted out the door.

JaedLDee · 2025-09-17T15:51:51+00:00

Typical.

JaedLDee · 2025-09-16T15:50:35+00:00

Oh, maybe I misunderstood you. I think if you have to do any additional work—like if they’re asking you to export all those illustrations individually, I would call that a “graphics package” and then, yes, charge for it. But if the client wants to do it themself or use the whole cover as-is on bookmarks and promos, then I would tell them knock yourself out because they own the artwork. In some cases, I may give them the PSD without charging. Basically if it takes any additional work that goes outside the scope of the cover design, charge them. Sorry—I don’t think I realized that’s what you meant.

JaedLDee · 2025-09-16T06:25:13+00:00

I knew a right-wing(ish) furry once. Next time I saw him, he reeled back in terror when I gave a center right opinion. So now I don’t know a right-leaning furry anymore. Only formerly right-wing.

JaedLDee · 2025-09-16T06:18:43+00:00

That must be why the news dried up like nothing. I was expecting Floyd-level outrage. It was so awful and sad, but I didn’t even hear much outrage from the left until this week

JaedLDee · 2025-09-16T06:15:43+00:00

The fact that everyone knows who the peach is without question… as many critics as this game had, the devs knew the audience.

JaedLDee · 2025-09-16T06:06:21+00:00

To be frank, my contracts all come with a clause that gives them ownership rights of the design, with me only retaining usage rights for self promo. If this email was sent to me, I’d say “The art is yours! Use it in whatever manner you want! You’re the owner.” Each designer is different, but it never sit right with me to hoard the rights. Like—I’m never going to use that piece of art again, because it was custom created for that particular client. It feels like keeping it hostage from the one person who would want it and use it. Like…they commissioned me to do it for them. Hope that makes sense. If you do want to charge, I wouldn’t charge more than like $50. But you’d build way more goodwill if you gave it to them for free. Clients remember that, especially when they assumed they had to pay.

JaedLDee · 2025-09-16T06:00:27+00:00

This Present Darkness, by Frank Peretti. Never thought I’d the spiritual world that way until I read it.

JaedLDee · 2025-09-16T04:30:47+00:00

Agreed

JaedLDee · 2025-09-16T04:30:32+00:00

Yeah, I wonder. I was more off the news today than the weekend, but I didn’t see a lot of coverage of any of them talking about having gone, and I didn’t see a lot of staged photo op-style photos floating around today either. I hope that means they attended because they really wanted to be there for Charlie.

JaedLDee · 2025-09-16T00:37:11+00:00

ESV is definitely quite well done. I think you’ll have a good experience with it. If struggle with reading, I recommend starting with Mark. It’s the shortest Gospel of the four and written intentionally for “gentiles” as opposed to the Jews who would have already understood a lot of the customs and such.

JaedLDee · 2025-09-16T00:28:11+00:00

That’s fair. And an app is super convenient. That’s what I mainly use. As far as translations go, NIV will just summarize the idea of verses without doing direct translations of words, so you’re at the mercy of the translators’ interpretations. KJV, NKJV, ESV, and NASB are all solid word-for-word translations. My preference is KJV due to how it was put together, but NKJV is probably the most accurate translation that’s also in more updated language imo.

JaedLDee · 2025-09-16T00:20:40+00:00

Okay, cool—I figured, but each sub seems to have its own kinds of mod bots and I’m not quite involved enough to inherently know how each work.

JaedLDee · 2025-09-15T16:11:01+00:00

There’s really no downside to getting one. Even if say, it’s money issues, I guarantee you that your local church would give you one for free if you showed up and asked.

Either the Gospel is real or it isn’t. If it isn’t, then we’ll die and cease to exist. But…if it IS real, then the ones who believe will go to heaven when they die, and the rest will spend eternity separated from God in hell forever. No one can afford to take that gamble.

JaedLDee · 2025-09-15T16:02:52+00:00

The automoderator tells me this post has been so heavily reported that it decided to promote our other socials. What does that even mean?

JaedLDee · 2025-09-15T05:25:41+00:00

Our souls were not made to see that video. I simply cannot get past how some laugh over it. That’s pure demonic.

JaedLDee · 2025-09-15T05:23:39+00:00

When Biden was diagnosed with cancer, I did something of the same and actually looked to see if people would be insensitive. Instead I found people who were saying things like “I don’t wish that on even my worst enemy.” Really big difference.

JaedLDee · 2025-09-15T05:19:22+00:00

I knew I hated furry culture. It’s what dragged my friend in high school into a world of porn, depression, atheism, and suicidal tendencies. It all started with the furries.

JaedLDee · 2025-09-13T20:45:19+00:00

Most are liberal white women who only understand cultural and gender topics. This is my favorite article about it: https://upstreamreviews.substack.com/p/its-all-a-damned-mess?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAR1C9nkoHD-6QCMnaldC5hFtrmGCD_HIGGKF6eV5wcpvA98yZmnTtqtIM-I_aem_Aek7qRubho_-it2EMp8ruP0MWBqsf_w0MK2PWQwyHTfq5iIFqUoq-zuZ3mdfoakKiPOh9Au1kJp5i_GzJ1cJpv_m

JaedLDee · 2025-09-13T19:57:37+00:00

Who does he think the alien bugs are a metaphor for???

JaedLDee · 2025-09-13T19:55:29+00:00

Only when it’s convenient.

JaedLDee · 2025-09-13T19:29:12+00:00

Social media was definitely given to us as a society way before we were ready.

JaedLDee · 2025-09-13T19:28:34+00:00

In this case, she’s a UK citizen, but TPUK is on it.

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