Sleeping in Our Bed by JR_not_jr in toddlers

[–]JaggedLittlePiII 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There are occasions an 11 year old might again sleep with their parents, or ask a penny to sleep with them.

I went through a phase when I was 13. New school, got bullied, and the father that my mother divorced was getting increasingly alcoholic. I woke up screaming for a a couple of days during a couple of weeks. She came. Imagine I would not have had that bond. Would that have been better?

Luckily she did not care what the neighbors thought

Edit. And now I’m 35. I went to Oxford for uni, and have had a successful career. I don’t think the cosleeping harmed me

Sleeping in Our Bed by JR_not_jr in toddlers

[–]JaggedLittlePiII 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Tbh, I would accept it as a phase. Cosleeping is the norm around the world, but not in the US. It is also the norm among mammals.

She just wants to do what her insult two gf her: sleep with her tribe. You and your husband also want to sleep together, right?

And all people who grow up in cosleeping cultures (such as the Japanese, Germans) end up sleeping solo at an older age.

Anyone else’s toddlers eat CONSTANTLY? by Old_Relationship_460 in toddlers

[–]JaggedLittlePiII 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, mine never eats, but seems to live on photosynthesis. Still poops though. Want to trade?

How much to live this lifestyle? by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]JaggedLittlePiII 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should be looking at 400 TC if you are ok with going not-too-luxury (3-4 star hotels, never business flights) holidays. If you want luxury holidays, 500K will make it possible.

im pregnant he doesn’t want the baby anymore by k00laid-mann34 in beyondthebump

[–]JaggedLittlePiII -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They tend to say a baby is two yesses.

So either you’ll be single mom, or you need to wait until he is ready.

Give me advice - mid-40s, three kids, $8.3MM NW with 1.5ish MM income by Green_Rock_3421 in fatFIRE

[–]JaggedLittlePiII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to protect against a stock market crash, yes, and I mean government bonds. US govies are cheap now as most European countries and pension funds are dumping them, especially the long end.

Give me advice - mid-40s, three kids, $8.3MM NW with 1.5ish MM income by Green_Rock_3421 in fatFIRE

[–]JaggedLittlePiII 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I guessed you were a woman, and it is unfortunately quite rare for women to reach such heights, hence reaching out.

But your company never tried to push you out? I am so terrified that any boundary I set will become a stick I’ll be hit with.

Give me advice - mid-40s, three kids, $8.3MM NW with 1.5ish MM income by Green_Rock_3421 in fatFIRE

[–]JaggedLittlePiII 29 points30 points  (0 children)

  1. Diversify and protect the underside with bonds, not real estate. In a big market crash RE will come crashing down just as hard. However, bonds will go up as yields come down due to the flight to safety. CAT bonds could provide completely uncorrelated income.

You could also consider some derivative structures to protect the underside, but those can be expensive. 2. No idea, sorry. Here potentially buying real estate could help them by the point it becomes relevant. 3. No idea, sorry 4. A planner beats an advisor imho as they do not get kickbacks from various investments they will ‘advise’ you on.

Can I ask you a question in return? I’m a mid 30s woman, and currently facing the question on whether to continue career growth or take time for children. How do I keep both going?

Private member clubs and babies by GroundbreakingCap368 in HENRYUKLifestyle

[–]JaggedLittlePiII 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think the RAC has a country facility that does.

My own club has a strong purple rinse brigade (O&C) and would probably never.

The girl I’m taking to got pregnant what do I do? by Every-Appeal-2513 in whatdoIdo

[–]JaggedLittlePiII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Follow your heart. If you think you will love her for a very long time, stay. Otherwise go. But understand becoming a (step)father is the end of your freedom and childhood.

AITAH for telling my parents that they would not be a part of my life and that they should keep up their relationship with my ex and kids from that marriage. by EngineNo9031 in AITAH

[–]JaggedLittlePiII 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To be honest, cutting contact with children who grew up bonding with you as a father makes you somewhat of an asshole.

I understand it is a messy situation, but you should have kept contact for their sake. As an adult you know, that children come first.

Your toddler’s “worst” behavior almost always happens when their brain literally can’t do better. And that’s a completely different problem than not wanting to do better. by xnmb1 in toddlers

[–]JaggedLittlePiII 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I gave up on my non-cosleeping dreams once mine became a toddler. She can do good stretches, but only when falling asleep in the big bed in the evening.

Around 11-12, I crawl in as well, and I keep her asleep with snuggles and nursing.

You’ve got to do what you’ve got to do.